Your rights to use a SAFEWORD.

One thing I continue to push and am still very surprised to see that so many people don’t know about, is their ability to use a safeword. Your safeword is absolutely crucial because it is how you maintain the control in the dynamic, as well as during play. This is what you need to know about your rights to use a safeword. Please read this and understand that this is not only your right in this lifestyle, but it is your LEGAL right to use it.

Let’s start with some definitions. This will help put something’s in to perspective for you. ABUSE: 1) use (something) to a bad effect or for a bad purpose, misuse. 2) Treat (person or animal) with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly. 3) ASSAULT (someone, especially a woman or child) SEXUALLY. 4) Use or treat in such a way as to cause harm or damage. RAPE 1)The CRIME of forcing another person to have sexual intercourse with the offender against their will.

Being in this lifestyle opens us all up to the potential for abuse and it is absolutely crucial that you understand those two definitions. You need to understand that the law is on your side here. Any assault, weather physical, sexual, and sometimes even mental abuse are covered by the law and are illegal. The ability to use your safeword is not a Dom‘s decision; EVER.

In this lifestyle, the submissive gives the power exchange to the dominate. This is only a POWER EXCHANGE and is to be treated as such by both partners at all times. The power exchange is simple. The submissive gives the dominate the submission and power to act out certain scenarios, in exchange for the Dom doing everything necessary to protect and guide their sub. The ability to use a safeword is a massive part of this power exchange.

A safe word should absolutely NEVER be restricted for any reason at all. Dom’s and especially submissives always have the ability to use a safeword and any sort of restriction to this, no matter what, is abuse. Very simple. It is abuse if they do not let you use your safeword. There is NEVER any scenerio, circumstance, scene, or any other reason at all where the ability to use a safeword is restricted or removed all together. It does NOT matter what anyone says. If someone refuses your safeword during sex, that is rape. It is nothing else at all and will never be anything other than rape. There is absolutely no circumstance where anyone is allowed to restrict or deny it, and if they do…..that is abuse and/or rape. That’s not just a personal feeling or a bdsm lifestyle standard…..ITS THE LAW!

Some “dominants“ will look for submissives (especially females) who are in this lifestyle because they know there is a better chance that they will find someone they can use and abuse because we have a very different set of standards to follow. The problem is that submissives think that since they are the sub, they have to do what the Dom says. That’s not only not true, but it is extremely dangerous. If you are with someone who refuses to let you use a safe word, you are with an abuser. There is no other way around that one. It is scientific fact that you are with an abuser if they do not allow you to stop when you use your SafeWord. That is abuse, and even rape if they have sex with you.

You as the submissive you need to understand that there is never an occasion where someone can deny or restrict your SafeWord. It is absolutely mandatory that you’ll be able to use it whenever. Consent is absolutely mandatory at all times and any play must be consented by both partners. If it is not, then absolutely nothing at all should happen. You also have the right as the submissive and even the Dom, to use a safe word at any time, for any reason, without warning, and everything must immediately stop when you do. That is how it is supposed to be and that is actually the law.

If at any time, your dominant says that you cannot use your SafeWord, you are in an abusive situation and you need to remove yourself from that situation completely as fast as humanly possible because that is the absolute standard for abusive relationships.

Please understand that this word cannot be taken from you or restricted in any form, for any reason, with any person, during any circumstance at all and you can use it without warning even if play has already started and nobody can take that away from you. If somebody tells you different, that is also abuse and you need to leave that situation immediately.

I hope this helps clear it up for you so that you are now prepared to be safe. Your safety is always the number one priority and if somebody else doesn’t think that, you need to stop and get away from them immediately. Say this with me one more time. Consent is always mandatory and the dominant or submissive can use the SafeWord at any time, they can also retract consent at any time, for any reason, during any circumstance, with any person, no matter what.

Play safe.

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