Tantric Sex Tips

Sex is so much more than just penetration! We read post after post offering the best blowjob, foreplay, and love making ideas, and while all of those can add some much-needed fire to the bedroom, what about trying an entirely new sexual practice? A technique so intense both physically and emotionally that, if taken seriously, could result in the most powerful orgasms of your life. That’s right I said orgasms, as in plural. No wonder this form of fuckery has been practiced for millennia. Who doesn’t want to experience the longest lasting, toe-curling, pure moments of ecstasy possible? Tantric sex is both pleasurable and intimate. More importantly, tantric sex tips have been proven to work for over 5,000 years.

I never knew much about tantric sex other than it requires a deep spiritual and physical connection. Originally, when I thought of tantric sex, I envisioned two hippies sitting Indian style across from each other, butt naked, gazing into each other’s eyes. Talk about intense. Personally, that activity sounds like a nightmare, but I’ve recently learned there is so much more to tantra than just a naked staring contest.

First things first, please disregard the notion that you must read the bible-length Kama Sutra book in order to learn the basics of this practice. Secondly, toss away the idea that you must have five hours of allotted time, also not necessary. Sting swears by the art of tantric sex and he looks pretty damn happy so there must be something to it. Here are few basic tips to incorporate tantric in the bedroom tonight.

Take Your Mind Off the Orgasm

Sex can be, and will be, so much more if you focus on foreplay and each other’s pleasure, which of course will eventually lead to the mind-blowing O we all wish to achieve. The point of this exercise isn’t necessarily the end result, it is the practice of reaching a new level of intimacy with your partner. Communicating through an entirely different medium. Be prepared to giggle a lot, but through the laughter comes the inevitable connection. And if that least to an orgasm, it is just an enjoyable bonus.

Stay Off the Bed

By moving things to the floor, you give yourself the environment to try something new without resulting in your normal mattress romp and snooze. Make sure the area is clean, clutter-free, inviting, and of course temperature appropriate. The very act of changing up your surroundings leads to a different aura. The point of this exercise is to have your focus be on you and your partner, not the thread-count of your sheets or the amount of pillows you need. When you get too comfortable in your sex lives, that is the perfect time to switch it up and to try tantric. It is like going back to school, back to basics, and back to the core in intimacy.

Slow Down Your Breathing

In a world that doesn’t stand still, we forget to breathe. Between carpool, job stress and the day to day hectic nature of our lives, anxiety can overtake us. Breathing and self-awareness in general are an integral part of tantric sex. By refusing your body to get worked up as it normally would, you allow it to reach new levels of anticipation and gratification. When your mind starts to wonder, always bring your attention back to slow breathing. Both you and your partner need to be on the same plane of focus and awareness. That is all part of the experience—helping one another be centered and only concentrating on each other. Make this time about slowing down the fast paced nature of a wham, bam, thank you ma'am. This is the time to breathe and explore.

Keep Your Eyes Open

Closing our eyes during these most intimate acts is practically a knee-jerk reaction for everyone. However, witnessing his facial expressions as you bring him to the brink will only add fuel to the epic burning fire between your legs. Whether you have been married for 40 years or have only dated a short time, there is always an excuse not to connect. This is not that time. Really concentrate and look into one another’s eyes. "The eyes are the windows to the soul," is not just something you stitch on a pillow. It helps to form a deep connection which allows this process to work. Trust it.

Discover Each Other’s Bodies

Remember the first time you were with someone? The pleasure you experienced while experimenting with each other’s bodies? It is time to go back to that. While lying on the floor, take this time to explore each other in a new way. Have him lay down first while you hover over and gently touch, massage, and graze your way over his body. The point is not to rush right into that blowjob, you want to tease him in a way that when he finally does combust it will be with more energy than ever before. Then when you feel he can’t take anymore, lie down for your turn. It doesn’t matter how well you know each other, this experience should be totally different. Make sure you have set aside the time for this, it will prove to be very rewarding.

Control Yourself During Sex

This is much easier said than done since we are all pre-programmed to cum hard and cum quick, or are lucky enough to cum at all. Slow it down as you approach the O; have him remove himself, switch positions, whatever it takes. By putting the breaks on your feelings, sensations, and breathing, the bliss will be more intense. The whole point of tantric sex is to take it slow and feel every sensation. You want this process to feel like it is being dragged out, in a good way, as long as you possible can. Remember, it isn’t about the orgasm, it is about the experience that takes you there. Getting to know what the other one wants and needs. Touching, connecting, breathing, and truly feeling your partner.

Don’t Give Up

If after 10 minutes of controlling your breath and rolling around naked, you both give in to what you know, don’t consider it a failure. When the time is right and you both feel into it, try again. You can only get better with practice. There are many how-to guides, but you need to be your own best guide. Couples use tantric sex as a way to restart their sex lives, or improve on the good stuff they already have, so trying again can only be a good thing. Practice makes perfect and this is especially true when it comes to sex, tantric or otherwise.

So who should try these tantalizing tantra tips? If you are thinking your next one-night stand or new relationship, well then you’re a moron! No! Sex on this level should be with someone you trust, someone you wish to reconnect with, or a couple interested in trying something new. Once you have achieved the true meaning behind this method of connection, you might never go back to the good old missionary position again.