Seduction, What Are the Rules of This Tempting Game?

Seduction: in the words of William Faulkner, "the next time you want to seduce someone, don't do it with words, using words"! And although Faulkner gave this advice to conquered men, the advice is just as useful to women who want to seduce and conquer: words matter too little in the whole game of attraction (so when you know how to play, even a superficial retort works, no you need a sample of wisdom)!

Seduction is a game: a game in which there is the pursuer - male or female - and the target of his pursuit, which must be won; is an interpersonal game that offers great chances only to those who know how to transmit and decode body language (first of all).

It is a game that must be played with lightness, relaxation, but also with the desire and confidence that you will win. It is, above all, a game in which you must know how to lose honorably, without insisting on a lost cause and without losing your confidence in yourself and the will to play with others. It is the game that we all play and that we will all lose sometimes, we win sometimes…

But it is also the game that brings us, with a little luck, the most valuable win: the person we fall in love with and with whom we start a relationship…

And it all starts with seduction… But what does it mean to seduce and what gives you a chance to win? It's not about what you say (words become important only after you've managed to become attractive). It's not about success, intelligence, humor, money - all of these matter only in the first step and the next conversations you have with the "target".

It's not even about the physical appearance in the first place - because "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", so for some, you look good, for others not. Seduction is not just about physical attraction - a seduced woman or a seduced man is captivated by the whole image you create and convey, not just beauty (which doesn't mean you don't get along as well - the better you feel about the more you look, the more confidence you emanate).

A woman or a man can admire you physically, without being seduced, conquered by you, without feeling the need to have you, to know you, to know who you are!

So what is seduction, what helps you seduce? Nothing more logical - your attitude and the way you know how to create an image that others find attractive, even exciting… The way you make others want to have a conversation with you (or, on the contrary, to consider yourself banal or even unattractive).

The way you learn to show yourself to those around you as an interesting person, moreover, a person with charisma.

The right attitude to the game of seduction is that of the self-confident person (woman or man), first and foremost. The person who has self-confidence, despite the flaws, that he knows and accepts ("who doesn't like it, don't get involved")!

The person who seems satisfied with his life and with himself and who emanates through every pore that he feels at ease or as he looks, as he is dressed and as he is in general. A person who seems strong, independent, who does not seem fearful, weak, and too affected by what others think of him. The person seems to be sincere and direct because he does not always aim to please others.

The person who seems neither needy, obsessed with finding a partner, nor disinterested, as if he is not looking for anyone - a person who likes the game, flirting. Relaxed person, who enters the game if answered, but who is not affected if he receives a refusal.

The person who seems to accept sexuality and enjoy his body, who exudes eroticism and not a person who is inhibited, excessively shy, closed, who does not feel good in his body. More importantly, an optimistic person, who transmits positivism and who smiles from the lips, but especially from the eyes.

How to use and understand body language is, again, a key to seduction - for how else to convey the attitude described above without words? The way you position your body and sit, the smallest gestures, especially with your hands, facial expressions, especially your eyes convey all this, so anyone who wants to have control over the image they convey to others must know the meaning of nonverbal language and to create their studied image through these nonverbal signals.

It is also through body language that the game of seduction begins and can continue: the playful gaze that runs away and returns to it and that envelops the target of desire with intensity and confidence in it (but here you must know how to keep a look - insistence becomes uncomfortable); smiles and how many kinds of messages you can send with a smile: desire, admiration, irony…

Facial expressions and gestures can say more than a few words. And the way you create closeness between bodies, the way you position yourself towards the other, and the way you touch it discreetly.

Only then do other factors enter the equation of seduction - including intelligence and humor, the way you know how to make the person feel good, appreciated, attractive, interesting, but without exaggerating with compliments; the way you talk and what you talk about (without cliché remarks, but also without too "serious" topics from the beginning); the way you seem to be completely honest and open, but the way you keep some things hidden (one part of the mystery is always welcome in the game of seduction - it makes the other want to know more, to see you more).

For you can immediately conquer a woman or a man by that attitude full of charm, of charisma, but once that woman or that man sees that he has little to talk to, he deflates and all that first magical impression disappears quickly.