10 Ideas for rewarding your submissive

Part of having a submissive and being a good dom is keeping your sub happy, feeling wanted, feeling needed and even feeling owned. One thing that has always shown up as a greater need from the submissives is being rewarded and praised, not just being punished. Rewarding your submissive is a terrific way to encourage good behavior through positive reinforcement.

Everybody’s heard the old saying that you can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar. In this case, that is absolutely true. For your submissive too feel like their needs are being met, it is important to reward their good behavior. There are so many times that submissives are subjected to a dynamic built on punishment and therefore they feel like their needs are not being met because nobody wants to be punished all the time. Rewarding their good behavior can be extremely easy and can also be extremely beneficial.

Using common human decency to show your submissive that you care about them and their well-being can go a very very long way in this lifestyle. We all know that there are a large amount of submissives out there that do enjoy punishment, but the dynamic should never be built solely on punishment itself. Things like aftercare and simple praise will make your submissive feel like they belong. Below is a list of 10 ideas that you can do for your submissive to reward them for their good behavior. Please note that not all of these ideas will work for every submissive. It is subjective and it is not a universal implementation.

Rewards

1. Forehead Kisses. Every sub likes to feel like they are cared for sometimes and one of the easiest ways to show that you care is simply by using forehead kisses as a sign of affection. This simple little trick is something that will catch them by surprise sometimes if you do it when they least expect it, and that will make it even more meanigful to the sub.

2. Picnic. Another mostly universal truth is females especially love the little things. Some thing that you have taken time to put effort into planning and the thought behind it. Sometimes the simplest action can cause the greatest emotional connection. Something as simple as planning a day at a park or at the lake, or just even in your backyard after having made a picnic for you and your submissive to enjoy together. Make it personal and really put some thought into the whole experience. Make it something that your submissive can relate to very personally. Their favorite food, their favorite drink, even their favorite spot in which you have chosen to do that activity. Putting thought into a picnic which makes it very relatable on an emotional level to your submissive is a very easy and inexpensive way to reward them with something meaningful and personal.

3. Verbal Praise. Who doesn’t like to receive verbal praise? At some point we all look for some form of verbal praise because it makes us feel good. That is especially true for submissive. When you give your submissive a verbal praise it lets them know that you are paying attention, it lets them know that you are engaged in what they are doing and how they are doing everything that they are tasked to do. Simply showing that you care by mentioning something good that they have done or mentioning that you were proud of them can go a very very long way and can really make them feel special, and thats what it’s all about. Making your sub feel special is something that they will remember and it can also guide them to want to be the best sub they can for their dom.

4. Brushing their hair. Take time to show some creativity with rewards. One example of a reward that many submissives really enjoy but hardly ever receive is there dom sitting down with them and simply brushing their hair for them. This is a different form of intimacy that most do not get to experience but when they do, it’s something that they generally love. This is something that shows not only attention to detail as far as understanding what your submissive really enjoys, but it also shows that you care enough about them to do something different and something that is not generally a common practice, and that‘s what makes it special.

5. Bath Time. Another example of thinking outside the box when rewarding your submissive is to give them a bath. Start a bath for them with some bubbles if they would like, and let them relax in the tub while you wash their hair and wash their body. It sounds simple, because it really is. This is another unique way to show a very intense level of intimacy to your submissive. This is also a very uncommon practice and that’s again what is going to make it special. Your submissive gets to sit back and relax in a tub while the dom spoils them with touching, and attention they don’t normally receive. Be creative with this one because there are so many different chances with this reward to do something very special and to show that you are thinking outside the box to make them happy and that is what makes this particular reward so meaningful to your submissive. Turn the lights down low, light a few candles, light some insense, and put on some nice relaxing music. This creates a very calming and relaxing atmosphere for your submissive and this is also a great thing to do for aftercare.

6. Chores. Show your sub that they have done well and behaved as expected buy simply helping them with either their daily or weekly chores. You don’t have to do all of the four of them, but by helping them with their chores, you are now showing them that the effort they put in to being a good submissive is now being rewarded with less effort on their part in the sense of having chores or other tasks that are a part of daily life and it gives them not only some free time because now their chores are complete, but it also gives them a sense of not being alone to do all of the work. It shows that you are making the same effort in rewarding them with something special in the same way that they showed effort by their positive behavior.

7. Extra snacks/Candy. This one may sound easy but there is a delicate dance that you have to complete here because most submissive love sweets as a reward. Most dominant have rules against too many sweets. However, this does leave the option to reward them with more than what their allotted amount would be. The one thing you have to be careful with is not to allow too much but you also want to make sure that it is substantial enough to make them understand that it is a reward and it makes them happy.

8. New Stuffy. A lot of submissive love to have their stuffed animals. Most of them have a favorite and some just love all of them the same, but receiving a new one as a form of reward is something that can make them really really happy on many levels. It shows that you are paying attention to what they actually like and it shows a personal level of attention to detail when you are able to find a new stuffed animal for your submissive that you know they will love, based on their current collection or by them pointing out what they like.

9. Game Night. Having a board game night is a great way to break up the monotony of day-to-day life and also a great way to introduce a different reward. Find out what their favorite games are and have a game night together. This type of interaction will be very very positive for the submissive because it allows them to have fun and it allows them to interact with you in a way that is less strict or structured and it lets them just play for a while. It gives them a sense of relaxation and enjoyment because now they get to spend time with you in a way that they can have fun.

10. Cuddles and a movie. This one is pretty easy to get right. Find out what their favorite movie is and make some snacks. Sit down to watch the movie with your sub and have cuddle time as well as a movie night. What submissive doesn’t like to cuddle with their dominant while watching their favorite movie? It’s pretty difficult to get this one wrong and it’s very easy to make them happy and feel relaxed but also make them feel very cared for because when you let them pick the movie, now the attention is on them, and it is positive attention which was built on their likes.

*CONSENT IS MANDATORY and your submissive can retract consent at any time*