10 Ideas to Make Your Sub/Slave Feel Owned

Maintaining ownership of your Sub/Slave

Dom/Sub relationships are very different than a typical relationship in several ways. The dynamic itself reflects a control and care that are not common in “vanilla” relationships. Sometimes, a submissive will want to feel owned. This could be for several different reasons. Regardless of the situation, it is important to understand that consent is a mutual barrier that should not ever be broken.

Some of the activities listed below will be extreme. It is very important to discuss these with your submissive to determine if any Hard Limits would be broken, in which case, it is very important to never break this trust. A hard limit should never be violated, as that could easily result in your submissive being extremely uncomfortable or it could do serious mental harm. It should also be stated that the Dom has every right to use a safeword the same as the submissive. Mutual respect for boundaries is the absolute priority.

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One of the main reasons a sub/slave would want to feel owned is to have that reminder throughout the day that they are under the Dom’s/Master’s control. This gives the submissive a feeling of being wanted, cared for, loved, wanted, needed and for many other reasons. Ownership is a constant reminder that will usually become very deep and intense (depending on the situation or who is involved and their personal preferences) and it can become a very fulfilling relationship for bother the Dom and the Sub.

No matter what the situation, the rules you create should be consistent and the expectations for goals should always be reasonable and obtainable. If rules are not enforced, then the dynamic as a whole could fall apart if one of the participants doesnt feel like they are receiving the proper structure, and it could very easily be interpreted by the sub as abuse instead of consensual activities. An inconsistent enforcement will almost always be the biggest reason a sub will start to feel less loved and cared for at times, so consistency is key.

These activities can be dangerous and should only be attempted after clear discussion, research and CONSENT.

1. Having your sub wear a bell will be a constant reminder that they are owned, and the constant soft tone of the bell will be a gentle reminder of their submission to their Dom/Master.

2. When they have broken a rule, speak to them about what rule was broken and what they could have done better to prevent the infraction. During the course of punishment, have them give you very clear detail as to what they did wrong and what they could have done better in that situation.

3. Every time the sub enters your house, and their house (if different) make them remove their shoes before entering the house. This is a subtle reminder of the rules that you have set for them to follow.

4. Give your sub a collar. There is almost no better visual representation of ownership. Make it special for your sub. Get a collar that incorporates their likes, such as color or design. Present the collar to your sub, stressing the importance of the collar and what it means. Have them wear the collar whenever possible.

5. Have your sub call you every day. Pick a specific time to have them call you. This phone/video call is not negotiable and it will be a clear sign of ownership, but it also provides the dom with a chance to comfort, listen and acknowledge any questions or concerns the sub might have as well as give a forum to discuss things that are going well.

6. Sometimes a collar just isnt practical, so give your sub an anklet or a bracelet and have them wear it at all times. Make sure they understand that this item has the same significance as a collar and make them wear it at all times.

7.Whenever possible (i.e. no kids or other family around) have them kneel at your feet and ask permission to sit with you on the furniture.

8. Choose their hairstyle and take them to have it cut and styled in the way you have chosen for them.

9. Use them sexually in a rough, controlling and selfish way whenever you feel like it, interrupting what they were doing before you initiated the encounter. (THE SUBS CONSENT IS ABSOLUTELY MANDATORY AT ALL TIMES AND CAN NEVER BE DONE WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT FOR ANY REASON)

10. Choose a food they do not like and have them eat a small amount every day for a week.

SAFETY AND CONSENT ARE NOT NEGOTIABLE!!!!! EVER!

You do NOT have the right to remove your subs ability to use a safeword to remove themself from any situation, regardless of the circumstances. Refusal to let the sub use a safeword is not ownership or being a Dom. It is abuse.

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