What should parents do if their children are too "jealous"?

Everyone is jealous, even adults. However, it is very important to grasp your jealousy and not let it affect other people or affect your state of mind. So, if a child's jealousy is too strong, what will it do to the child?

Too much jealousy in children can have several negative effects on them as follows.

1. Problems with the child's intercourse

People who are too jealous can't watch others out of the limelight, so they will always express their dissatisfaction in some ways, such as saying things that hurt others or saying things that are out of place, however, not only will the person concerned feel angry, but even people around them will also scoff at such practices.

Therefore, if a child is too jealous, it is easy to make no friends, and even if there are friends, they are easily affected by such jealousy and do not want to have more dealings with the child.

2、Vicious competition hurts others

Some children are so jealous that they are often unscrupulous when competing with others, and sometimes there is even vicious competition. For example, the other party and their race in a tournament, but because they can not win the relationship, through the field some undignified way to retaliate. In this case not only lost the game but also lost their personality and future.

3, too much comparison leads to distortion of the concept of consumption

This kind of children is not uncommon, because of jealousy too strong relationship, whenever you see others than their good always want to consume more than each other to come good, but this practice will lead to the child's consumption concept distortion, become like to achieve their sense of superiority through the consumption of their own more difficult to afford things.

In time, the child's consumption concept will become extremely money-worshiping, and then not only the family will be affected, but also the child's future will be distorted by the consumption concept and some overspending, which will eventually lead to the child being troubled by money disputes.

We can see that children's jealousy can have many bad effects, but how does this jealousy arise? After all, the growth of children needs to know why they are jealous.

What are the reasons for children to be jealous?

Reason 1: Over-indulgence by parents

If parents spoil their children too much, it will also lead to jealousy because, under the parents' spoiling, children can get all kinds of things, but as they grow older, parents can give less and fewer things, and eventually the family's material capacity cannot meet the children's "consumption concept needs".

Then, the child will become aggressive and often jealous of others because he or she is jealous of what other children have, so parents should pay special attention to this.

Reason #2: Parental miseducation

If parents emphasize the child's competitive spirit and focus only on the child's results, the child will ignore the process and consider things in terms of results. This is because to him, other children are competitors, not classmates or classmates.

Reason 3: Narrow-mindedness

Some children are born with a narrow mind. This may be due to genetic inheritance, or the parents may have neglected some steps in the process of growing up, thus causing the child to grow up gradually distorted, or even become narrow-minded and look at things with a more radical attitude. Such children will naturally become more and more jealous.

We can see that children's jealousy does have external and internal causes. But since the wood has been laid to rest, how should parents deal with it? These 3 methods can be used to guide the child.

Parents can use these two methods.

First, give recognition to the child's sense of competition

When a child has a sense of competition, parents should give affirmation, but not so that the child only focuses on winning, but to let the child know the importance of the sense of competition and participation experience, so that the child will not only care about the results and ignore the most important things, but also to ease the child's jealousy. After all, children's jealousy amid competition is mostly born out of the desire to win.

Second, correct your child's jealousy

Parents should tell their children that it is permissible for them to be jealous. However, excessive jealousy can lead to inner deterioration, so parents should reasonably guide their children to accept their jealousy and then not spend their focus on being jealous of others. Because it is more important to improve oneself than to be jealous of others.

Parents should take a reasonable view of their children's jealousy because it is normal for adults and children alike to be jealous. But what level of jealousy reaches is a direction that parents need to pay attention to.

If the child is often jealous of others or even has led to psychological distortion, parents should intervene early to help the child out of such a negative state of mind.