The Santa Lie

TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️

if you’ve ever lied to your kids about Santa and didn’t stop because you understand how damaging it is -

this will fire up your ego like a blowtorch to alcohol….

You’re probably already tense…

breathing!

more breathing!

Allow me to remind you first -

(1) it’s not actually your fault - this damaging practice has been heavily programmed into you since you were a child

(2) it’s also heavily impressed upon you to go along with in western culture

(3) compliance with what is considered ‘normal’ is automatic and a deep part of our need to be accepted and not attract judgement, gossip or criticism for going against the majority

(4) academic studies rate fear of rejection from a social group as being on par with the fear of death

- hence your likely automatic compliance regarding this social insanity -

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the magic season of deception

lying to children

from conception

telling them absurd lies

about a man called Santa who likes mince pies

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broken trust and broken dreams

all in good humour

or so it seems

adults joking about the traumatic reveal

of how we found out Santa’s not real

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we never look to the damage done

from this mass insanity disguised

as fun

mocked for trusting their parent’s word

irreparably damaging that precious cord

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oh it’s just a bit of harmless fun!

says the mum

slowly coaxing

their trust in magic

through elaborate hoaxing

.

oh it’s just a harmless lie!

just like they know Peter Pan can’t fly

Poor attempts to justify

and completely deny

What they know in their soul

To be harmful lies

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Then you mock them into shame

For believing you -

(who they were meant to trust unconditionally)

you gift them suffering without relief

after callously destroying their belief

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What’s the problem I hear you say?

Well let’s look around

At what we see today

Do you witness what I have found

Instead of God’s magical playground?

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I see people who don’t know what magic means

a world of bitter people

Devoid of belief and dreams

Broken spirits everywhere

And distrust creating a lack of care

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A realm of humans scared to believe

In case they are being

Tricked or deceived

Scared to look stupid once again

Scared to fall for another man’s game

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And why could this be bad you ask

Oh dear Lord

This poem is a task

Whatever you fear will either come true

Or build a prison to step into

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Universal law says that we get

a life created exactly from

what we expect

So people live in extreme distrust

All for some Christmas ‘magic’ fuss

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Fear of governments tricking them

Fear of bosses,

other women and men

Lies are what they all expect

Everyone wary of what happens next

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So will you continue to crush those dreams without reprieve?

Reject the truth you don’t want to see

Destroy their trusting innocence like some ignorant thief?

Are you going to keep being the mum

Who says it’s just a bit of harmless fun?

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Try to pause and consider the damage

how these stupid traditions

raise a child who cannot manage

to trust anything he is told?

Especially by those with perceived control

.

Resigning himself to stoicism

Banishing mention

Of mysticism

An entire life forever in strife

Not trusting his government or his wife

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I had this in my drafts for a while now… it took too long to finish 🙈 It’s not exactly polished - I’m publishing it for the message. I want you to be thinking about this BEFORE you go down the path of lies this festive season. There is no such thing as innocent lies. Lies are deeply damaging to relationships. ESPECIALLY to children. You are setting the foundation for the rest of their life. This is massively important.

Don’t keep doing something wrong because you don’t want to face the shame (perceived by you only - I see no shame in this - there is only shame continuing to do something once you recognise it’s wrong) of having harmed your parent/ child relationship. The most beautiful thing about children who haven’t been severely harmed, they are extremely forgiving.

Tell them the truth. Tell them how everyone lies and you don’t think it’s right to lie anymore and that you’re really sorry. That’s literally all it takes to repair this. Truth and love go hand in hand. If you are not truly honest, you are not being truly loving.

(There are extreme exceptions but The Santa Lie is definite NOT one of them!)