People's Daily recommended: 8 golden rules of education (please parents to collect)

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Not every point of view can be called insight

Satya, a famous American family therapist, once said:

"A person and his original family are inextricably linked, and this connection is likely to affect his life."

Parents are the first educators in their children's life, and the way parents raise their children will directly determine the height of their lives.

A good way of education can get twice the result with half the effort and make children take fewer detours on their way of growing up.

Today, I would like to share with you the 8 golden educational rules recommended by People's Daily to help you cultivate a self-disciplined, confident and optimistic child.

Fish tank rule

A small fish is still a small fish after a few years when it is put into a fish tank.

One day I put the little fish in the pond. Unexpectedly, the little fish grew big like crazy.

The same is true of education, children's growth needs free space.

Bing Xin once said, "Let children grow as freely as weeds."

Please give your child enough free space to explore, play and make mistakes.

The flowers in the greenhouse are most vulnerable to storms, and children who are always protected by their parents are most likely to be knocked down by difficulties.

Learn to let go, children can fly higher and go further.

Rosenthal effect

Psychologist Rosenthal tested the future trends of students in 18 classes from grades 1 to 6, and then gave a list of the "most promising" to principals and teachers.

Eight months later, a miracle happened:

All the students on the list have significantly improved their grades, have a lively and cheerful personality, and are better at dealing with people.

Some people may question that these students are carefully selected, but the truth is that the students on the list are selected at random.

The biggest inspiration to parents from the "Rosenthal effect" is that adults' expectations and encouragement will change the fate of their children.

"it is better to win a merit than to count ten mistakes."

Give more encouragement to your children, and you will find that they gradually become excellent.

Reinforcement law

Someone once said that it is better to cultivate a good habit than to give a child an apartment.

To form a good habit is a fortune, and the child will benefit from it all his life.

The formation of habits requires parents to guide their children in the right way of education, to work hard and persist with their children.

I saw a whale experiment in which scientists put a glass wall in the water, and the whales and food were set aside.

At first, the whale slammed into the glass and found it to no avail, so it gave up the impact.

Later, the scientists removed the glass wall, and the whale still thought the glass wall existed and only moved on its own side.

A good habit is to strengthen it constantly. If you want your child to develop the habit of reading, you should read with your child at a fixed time every day.

If you want your child to get into the habit of getting up early, get up early on time with your child every day.

Parents should not only regulate their children's behavior, but also appreciate their children's every progress, so as to make them more motivated to persist.

Wolf nature's rule

Wolves are the most curious animals in the world.

They don't take anything for granted, but tend to experience it for themselves.

No matter how unpredictable the environment is, they can still find food, understand the danger, and survive strongly.

Rousseau once said:

"as long as curiosity is well guided, it can become a motivation for children to seek knowledge."

Very often, children will ask some wild questions, and parents will gradually lose patience.

The wisest way of education is to encourage a child to think and make interest his best teacher.

One day, the seeds of curiosity will take root and sprout and bear surprising fruit.

Dream rule

Gu Ailing said in an interview that when she was in primary school, she knew which school she was going to go to in high school, and then she did go to this school in high school.

At the age of six, she made it clear that she wanted to go to Stanford, and now she has achieved it.

Educator Tao Xingzhi once said:

"give you a high mountain to climb by yourself, and all you have to do is stick to it."

What parents have to do is to help their children find their own mountain, and then encourage him to climb.

When a child has a clear ideal in life, every step he takes will be more practical and purposeful.

Show children more celebrity autobiographies, imperceptibly influence their values and help them find their own goals in life, which is a good way to help children set up their ideals in life.

In addition, parents should also understand their children's dreams and not throw cold water on their children.

South wind rule

The north wind is more powerful than the south wind to see who can make pedestrians take off their coats.

The north wind was so cold that pedestrians wrapped their coats more and more tightly.

The south wind was blowing slowly and warm and pleasant, and pedestrians unbuttoned and took off their overcoats one after another.

This is the famous "south wind law", also known as the "warm law".

The south wind effect tells people that tolerance is a stronger force than punishment.

The same is true of educating children. Blindly criticizing will only make them more and more rebellious and disobedient.

It is inevitable for children to make mistakes, so we should learn to teach them in the right way.

The child accidentally knocked over the water cup and used comfort instead of scolding:

"I know you didn't mean it, so just pay attention next time."

If the child does not do well in the exam, use encouragement instead of harsh criticism:

"failing to do well in an exam does not mean anything. The purpose of the examination is to check and fill the gaps. As long as you have mastered the knowledge points that do not have a solid foundation in learning, you will certainly make progress next time."

Give children enough love and warmth, with gentle and gentle education methods, far more effective than arbitrary, rough punishment.

Law of natural punishment

There is such a short story.

The 11-year-old boy accidentally broke the neighbor's glass when playing football, and the compensation cost 15.50 US dollars.

The father asked the boy to take responsibility and lent the boy the money, but asked the boy to pay him back a year later.

After studying, the boy delivered newspapers and shined his shoes. After half a year of hard work, he finally saved enough money to give it back to his father.

The boy was Ronald Wilson Reagan, the 40th president of the United States, who later wrote in his article:

"it was through such a thing that I learned what responsibility is, and that is to be responsible for my own mistakes."

From an early age, you have to tell your children that you must be responsible for every decision and everything you make.

Let children feel the price of doing something wrong, those who have stepped on the pit, will become the road under the foot of the future.

Delayed gratification rule

Many parents have encountered this situation, children want to get something, must be satisfied in the first place.

Otherwise, they will roll over and cry again and again, leaving their parents helpless.

In the final analysis, it is the lack of parents' training for delayed gratification that makes their children lose patience.

Studies have shown that if a child has a certain ability to delay gratification from an early age, he is more likely to achieve success when he grows up.

From an early age, parents should consciously cultivate their children's ability to delay gratification and let them learn to wait and endure.

Parents can try a "three-minute game". If a child wants something, let him endure for three minutes and be satisfied three minutes later.

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