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I don't like being a mother.

Does anyone else feel this way?

By Sen SabPublished 5 days ago 3 min read

Once, there was a woman named Claire who had always been fiercely independent and driven in her career. She excelled in her field, traveled the world, and never shied away from challenges. However, when she became pregnant, everything changed.

Claire's pregnancy was difficult, marked by health issues that left her exhausted and often bedridden. Despite these challenges, she eagerly awaited the birth of her child, imagining a future filled with shared adventures and laughter.

When her daughter, Emma, was born, Claire's world shifted on its axis. The first few months were a blur of sleepless nights, endless feedings, and overwhelming joy mixed with moments of doubt and anxiety. Claire had never felt so responsible for another human being, and the weight of that responsibility sometimes felt suffocating.

As Emma grew, Claire found herself immersed in a routine that revolved entirely around her daughter. Every waking moment was spent attending to Emma's needs—feeding, changing diapers, soothing tears, and trying to decipher the meaning behind every cry and gesture.

Claire's once vibrant social life faded into the background as she struggled to find time for herself amidst the demands of motherhood. Her friends, though well-meaning, couldn't quite grasp the enormity of her new reality. Conversations that used to be about world events or shared hobbies now centered on sleep schedules and baby milestones.

Strangers in supermarkets felt entitled to comment on Emma's appearance or behavior, offering unsolicited advice that ranged from amusing to infuriating. Claire learned to smile politely and deflect their judgments, though inside, she seethed with frustration at the constant scrutiny.

Her body changed in ways she hadn't anticipated, and while she embraced the physical transformation as a badge of motherhood, she struggled with the loss of her former self. The pressures of societal expectations weighed heavily on her shoulders—the notion that she should be endlessly fulfilled by motherhood alone, without room for personal desires or struggles.

One afternoon, while sitting in a park with Emma, Claire struck up a conversation with another mother, Rachel. Rachel's warmth and understanding were a breath of fresh air amidst the sea of judgment and criticism Claire often faced. They shared stories of their children's antics, commiserated over sleepless nights, and even laughed about the absurdity of some parenting advice they'd received.

Through Rachel, Claire discovered a support network of mothers who didn't judge but instead empathized with the challenges of motherhood. They reassured each other that it was okay to have bad days, to feel overwhelmed, and to long for a moment of solitude without feeling guilty.

Over time, Claire began to reclaim fragments of her former self—indulging in hobbies she loved, spending time with friends who understood her new reality, and even daring to dream about her career again. Emma thrived under her mother's care, and Claire realized that being a mother didn't mean sacrificing her identity—it meant evolving into a stronger, more resilient version of herself.

As Emma grew older, Claire cherished their moments together even more, savoring the laughter, the adventures, and the quiet evenings spent reading bedtime stories. She learned to navigate the complexities of motherhood with grace and patience, knowing that she was shaping not only Emma's life but also her own.

Motherhood, Claire realized, wasn't about losing herself—it was about discovering a deeper, more profound love that transformed her in ways she could never have imagined. And as she watched Emma laugh and play, Claire knew with unwavering certainty that every sacrifice, every tear shed, and every moment of doubt had been worth it.

She had not merely survived motherhood; she had thrived in it, finding strength in vulnerability and beauty in the everyday moments that defined their journey together. And in the quiet corners of her heart, Claire whispered a promise to herself—to never forget the woman she was before Emma, but to embrace wholeheartedly the woman she had become because of her.

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