From the home "dining atmosphere", can determine how the child's future life

Happiness is an indispensable factor in the formation of a family. In a family, the happiness that each family member derives from each other cannot be replaced by any emotion.

As a member of a family, children's present and future happiness are often influenced by the entire family atmosphere. For example, children who grow up in three-family "dining atmospheres" will have very different feelings of happiness in their future lives.

The first kind of family dining atmosphere: the father spoils the wife and children

A family of three at home to eat, the husband not only hold the child feeding but also forgot to peel the wife's shrimp.

The dual family role of the child's mother, husband's wife, under the influence of China's thousands of years of history and culture, bear a relatively heavy responsibility, daily with children to raise children, go out to work, which is the daily hard life of many mothers today.

Even full-time mothers sometimes complain about the hard life, which is not only a family problem but also a social reality.

The formation of a good family structure requires the joint efforts of the father, mother, and child. At the dinner table, the father feeds the child and takes care of the mother, which is a sign that the father "sees" the mother's hard work, which will not only fill the mother's heart with happiness but will also allow the child to grow up in a harmonious family relationship.

Why some mothers in real life will not move in front of their children complaining about their dad or being angry, one of the very important reasons, is the mother's psychological "happiness gap", if the mother got the father's favor, she can still complain in front of the children?

The second kind of family dining atmosphere: the father does not care

The dilution of any role in the family will affect the solidity and happiness of the family.

At the family dinner table, the mother is feeding the children one bite at a time, and the father is eating one bite at a time by himself regardless. This is the real picture of how many families in China "dining atmosphere"?

In front of such a family dinner table, it is obvious to see that the role of the father and husband is diluted, and it can even be said that the role of the father is dispensable at the dinner table.

The mother feeds the child, the child needs the mother, the mother needs to feed the child, and the father loses his role of "needing and being needed".

Although this kind of family table relationship, no conflict occurs, it seems that the child is fed, and the mother and father also completed the meal, but under the scrutiny, no one gained a sense of happiness, including the child who was fed.

In the long run, this will only cause the child to become indifferent to the role of the father. Dads need to seriously think about the reasons why many children are now closer to their mothers.

The third type of family dining atmosphere: parents quarrel

When eating at home, mom and dad often argue in front of their children. This should be a problem that mom and dad should solve themselves, but the child is pulled into the "battle".

Although the child is not able to express any opinion, the child feels the conflict between the parents, which will produce uneasiness, sadness, and helplessness ...... emotions because of this conflict, such emotions will only reduce the happiness that the child feels in the family.

In reality, many people who set up a family originally expected the first family environment atmosphere, but after setting up a family they lived as a second family, and some even became a member of a third family.

Children who grow up in different family environments are bound to be influenced by their future lives, which is why many people cannot get rid of the influence of their family environment of origin for the rest of their lives.

The importance of a family environment atmosphere for children

Happy people use their childhood to heal their whole life; unhappy people use their whole life to heal their childhood. --Adler, founder of Austrian individual psychology

Why will children be happy and why will they be unhappy in their future life? Why will they be unhappy and unhappy even though they have good material conditions? The only inescapable reason is the influence of the family environment they have been exposed to since childhood.

Whether the family atmosphere is good or bad, the child, as a member of it, will be affected. The influence of the family atmosphere on children is reflected in the physical and mental development of children.

The formation of a good family atmosphere cannot be achieved without the harmonious relationship between mothers and fathers, and the harmonious relationship between mothers and fathers is a problem that many families should address nowadays.

Only when children grow up in a warm and loving family will they feel the happiness of their own family in the future.

In life, while mothers and fathers provide their children with excellent material conditions through their efforts and struggles, if the family relationship is indifferent due to the lack of family roles, then the children are destined to be unfortunate and will hardly feel happiness in life in the future.

For parents, in the process of their children growing up, eating well is not the only issue that needs to be concerned about, want your child to get more happiness in the future, please let your child grow up in a happy family environment.