Excessive pleasing people who do not love you, will only make you cheaper, do not believe

Once, a female friend asked me: "What is the cheapest thing for a girl to do in a relationship?"

I thought about it and said.

"If he loves you, whatever you do is touching to him. And if he does not love you, no matter how much you give he thinks you are cheap."

It's very realistic, but it does seem that way.

Feelings, sometimes it is so cruel, but also unreasonable.

Sometimes, the choice is really important, must go to love a person who is also willing to love you.

For those who don't love you, there's no need to compromise and give in.

01: bottomless concessions will only make you humble

In a relationship sticking to the bottom line is a very important thing, no matter how much like it, can not be again and again, to each other compromise and give in.

Because, once you give in again and again, but let the other side feel that you can not leave him.

In this way, let him have the bottom, there is a reason to hurt you.

The other day, I heard a particularly funny thing, a relative did not get married before, there is a child in the belly, and finally, the man took the child as a bargaining chip to talk about the bride price.

The other day, I heard a particularly funny thing, a relative did not get married before having a child in the belly, and finally, the man used the child as a bargaining chip to talk about the bride price.

Because the boyfriend's uneducated and unmotivated, so the family is not very agreeable to Li Min's relationship.

However, after all, Li Min has been in love this time and feels that they can not leave their boyfriend, so in her repeated insistence, her parents still agreed with the two people's feelings.

Later. Li Min got pregnant, and her boyfriend did not come up with the attitude of wanting to be responsible.

Li Min's parents were very angry, and the two families had a big fight about it.

Their parents let Li Min break up, but Li Min could not let go, or choose to forgive her boyfriend.

The parents could not resist her, and finally had to compromise with the boyfriend's family to discuss the marriage, but the boyfriend's family is also very irresponsible, and even the bride price is unwilling to pay.

The reason they came up with this was.

"are pregnant, that is a family. The family does not say two words, now the urgent task is to get married, why do you want so much money?"

However, seeing Li Min's belly grows day by day, there is no way but to hastily do the wedding.

Later, as you can imagine, after Li Min married, there is no status to speak of in the family, her boyfriend is still the same mix of life, and even become indifferent to her.

Even her in-laws do not like Li Min and think she is "backward" to their son.

I think Li Min's unhappiness stems from the fact that she chose a person who does not love her enough, and also from the fact that she has no bottom-line concessions and is overly pleasing to her boyfriend's family.

If her boyfriend loved her, he would have worked hard to give her a home.

The boyfriend not only did not do so but also took Li Min's love for him as a bargaining chip in the relationship.

Therefore, no matter how Li Min compromise, the boyfriend will not have the slightest touch.

On the contrary, Li Min's bottomless concessions led her to become the relationship, the most humble of the people.

If a person does not love you or does not love you enough, your love for him will become the capital that allows him to become more aggressive.

Therefore, the feelings, must choose the person worthy of trust, do not let their bottomless concessions, in exchange for each other bottomless harm.

02: You can never wake up a person who is pretending to sleep

Many people will fight for the love of people, even if they know it is wrong, but also to pay regardless of everything.

However, do not forget the point that only the two-way run to the feelings has meaning.

Love a person who does not love himself is like waking up a person who is pretending to sleep, and in the end, you can not move others, only yourself.

In the recent hit TV series "Burning", Zhou Haoyu and Xu Jiatong have a line of affection.

Zhou Haoyu has had a crush on Xu Jiatong since he was a student, and he had this grand crush that he didn't give up until after both of them worked.

Zhou Haoyu gave a lot for the goddess, even despite the hatred of the two families, came to her company to play for her, and did his best to give for her career.

For her, Zhou Haoyu can disregard his dignity and still care after being rejected again and again.

In Zhou Haoyu's own words, it means: "hot face on the cold ass".

Zhou Haoyu gave a lot for the goddess, even despite the hatred of the two families, came to her company to play for her, and did his best to give for her career.

The company has been pretending not to see the heart of Zhou Haoyu, but in the end, it took advantage of Zhou Haoyu's fondness and even got him killed.

Zhou Hao Yu's feelings for Xu Jiatong, he knows, and the audience also knows, but only Xu Jiatong chooses to turn a blind eye, choosing to hurt him again and again.

This tells us one thing.

If not two-way like the feelings, pay more can not move each other, and even let the other side of this like, as a bargaining chip to use their own.

Many things can be earned by efforts, but not feelings.

If there are a hundred steps between two people, you can take ninety-nine steps toward a person to prove their love.

But if the other party is not even willing to take the last step, we also need to be sensible, to give up this one-way relationship without end.

You can't wake up a person who is pretending to sleep, nor can you move a person who doesn't love you.

If you know that the other party does not love themselves, but also repeatedly pleases each other, will only make their love becomes extra cheap and humble.

03: lower yourself to the dust, simply can not bloom

Eileen Chang said.

"Love a person will lower themselves to the dust, and then bloom flowers."

However, I think that if a person puts himself too low in the relationship, he will only make himself more hurt.

Being humble and thirsty for someone else's love may never be loved by the other person.

Only if we learn to love ourselves first, we can better love others.

When I think of Princess Yuan Chun in "Chu Qiao", I feel pitiful and hateful.

She loves her brother Yan Xun and tries everything to please him.

Unfortunately, in this relationship, she is unrequited love, her dedication did not bring a touch to the beloved.

She clearly understands everything, clearly knows that her beloved does not love herself, but she still loves so humble. She has been waiting for her beloved to fall in love with her one day.

However, feelings can never be forced.

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In the end, she not only did not wait for the love of her beloved, but also let herself sacrifice in the relationship, and cut off her own beautiful life.

In the relationship to humble themselves to the dust, they have become part of the dust.

The most important thing is that you can forget about your pride.

The fact is that you will not be able to support a two-person relationship, to force a person who does not love you, will only bring endless harm to yourself.

In the relationship, we must not go, humble to please a person who does not love us. The reason is that that look is cheap.

Finally, I hope that everyone can meet a two-way run to the feelings but also hope that everyone can meet that who belongs to their love.