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Does my ex boyfriend still love me if he has a new girlfriend?

15 INDICATIONS THAT YOUR EX STILL LOVES YOU (AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT)

By Nizole MalizoPublished 12 days ago 14 min read
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Does my ex boyfriend still love me if he has a new girlfriend?
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1. WHEN THEY DON'T HAVE TO, YOUR EX KEEPS IN TOUCH WITH YOU

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The fact that your ex keeps in contact with you is one of the most blatant indications that they still love you.

Your ex may randomly text you or get in touch with you for quite strange and tenuous reasons.

When a person has totally lost love, unless they have a special cause like the kids or a company, they seldom try to get their ex-attention. partner's

Although it might be perplexing, it's a good indication if your ex's justifications for getting in contact seem odd or hazy.

Because of this, if your ex continues showing up in your life without a clear reason, it's evidence that they still care about you.

2. Your ex expresses a desire to keep in touch and makes time for you.

When an ex claims they still want to remain friends, they often mean that they are not emotionally prepared to deal with loss. This does not necessarily imply that they desire to reunite.

One of the common things people ask when choosing to terminate a relationship is "Can we still be friends?" but in truth, this is not something you should hold onto as a sure indicator in either case.

Exes often advise remaining friends since doing so appears safer than ending the relationship completely.

They've never experienced life without you, so the unknown is terrifying.

Additionally, if they left you for someone else, needed a "break" from your relationship, or believed they would be better dating someone else, they could be attempting to keep you around as "plan B."

When they originally stated that, your ex may have meant it when they indicated they wanted to be friends.

In reality, attempting to maintain a friendship with your ex is difficult since it continues reopening the wound you are trying to heal and move beyond (when you still desire them).

If your ex constantly tries to get in touch with you after declaring that they want to be friends, it is the genuine indication that they still love you and don't want to let go.

Additionally, as I just said, the reasons your ex is contacting you may appear strange, such as texts informing you that they discovered your socks under the bed.

You are the only one who really knows your ex.

You may want to avoid keeping in touch with your ex if you're serious about moving on from your split.

Even if you have a gut feeling that your ex still loves you, if you are absolutely convinced that you don't want to get back together, it is better in the long run to make a clean split.

3. YOUR EX CONSIDERED YOU WITH EXTREME EMOTIONS.

It is more probable that your ex still loves you if their emotional response to your separation was more severe, whether it was love, hatred, or terrible deep despair.

According to University of Birmingham research, males don't entirely heal from their anguish following a breakup whereas women feel greater mental and physical agony.

Men experience loss, sadness, and loss after a breakup or separation more slowly than women do.

Women often mourn and honestly move on sooner than men, while males frequently never do.

If your ex was a male and genuinely loved you once, he probably still does and has handled the split emotionally by burying his emotions instead of properly processing them.

This information is less useful for determining if your ex still loves you if your ex is a woman. When they believe they have done all possible to make a relationship work, women often end it and move on.

The opposites of love and hatred are one and the same.

Too many individuals to count have said that following their separation, their ex was furiously angry at them but then abruptly revealed they were still in love.

After a breakup, anger may be a tough emotion since it often hides loss and pain.

Even if your ex is really upset with you, it doesn't always indicate that they detest you or no longer cares about you. It just indicates they are upset with you.

Genuine indifference and apathy are the antitheses of love.

Truly broken-hearted people are often utterly bored and sympathetic with their ex.

When it comes to their ex, there isn't much emotional charge. This indicates that they begin to interact with you in a "friendly," but not "friends," manner.

This cool emotional response to an ex is quite different than intense rage, despair, or anything else.

4. YOUR EX CONTINUES TO DIAGNOSE YOUR BREAKUP.

Does your ex feel the need to often discuss the circumstances behind your breakup?

Does he contact you or email you to explain why he left?

When the split doesn't make sense, do they still bring it up?

Does s/he joke around the idea of getting back together?

Has your ex shown regret for the split?

Your ex is still attempting to resolve your split for themselves with all of the "closure" that they are attempting to get from you.

Your ex may still be thinking about you and be having second thoughts if they feel the need to bring up the split on a regular basis.

5. Your ex boasts about their accomplishments and self-improvement.

Does your ex brag about their achievements at the gym?

Do they keep you informed about how amazing their new yoga class is?

Do your ex-new partner's interests seem like something you would approve of?

Did your ex finally get a job and get off their ass?

Does your ex seem to be flaunting themselves in any way?

These are all possible indications that your ex still loves you.

They can be attempting to get your attention or at least arouse your envious feelings.

Your ex could be looking for your blessing. They probably want you to see the improvements and to be proud of them.

After being completely silent for ten months, my present partner once came back. He had purchased a puppy, changed jobs, and shed more than 80 pounds.

He later apologized for the split, which was his choice, and said he was "putting himself together" when he phoned.

I was aware that he was still madly in love with me since I often assist couples in reconciling.

Remember that people don't act snazzy around individuals they don't care about.

6. YOUR EX TAKES A SLOW APPROACH TO TIGHTEN UP ANY LOOSE ENDS.

Do you still own many of your ex-possessions? partner's

Does your ex put off or put off completing any transaction that you have jointly agreed to?

Coaching clients who truly pay attention to what I say are often perplexed as to why their ex appears so hesitant to close any loose ends.

Although it might seem like you're on a whole rollercoaster when it's happening, I usually take this as a sign they have a chance with their ex.

I'll never forget the horrified expression on my ex-face husband's when, over Thanksgiving, I gave him 60+ pages of divorce paperwork after he informed me he no longer loved me.

I didn't hesitate since I received wonderful relationship counseling.

Setting clear boundaries is a really effective method to manage oneself, even when you want to get back together. My ex-husband had been going slowly because he wasn't ready for the effects of ending his marriage in the real world.

Another very prevalent indication that your ex still loves and cares about you is the failure to tie up loose ties.

7. THE FRIENDS AND FAMILY OF YOUR EXE SEEK TO PERSUADE YOU TO SPEAK TO THEM.

Supporting an ex who wants to reconcile requires a community.

Because they have likely listened to hours of analysis about the relationship, your ex's friends and relatives may sometimes imply that they still miss you.

Because they are so tired of hearing about you, your ex's friends and relatives may gently attempt to push you in the direction of each other if they still love you and want you back.

When your former's buddies get in contact with you for no apparent reason, it's a sure indicator that your ex still loves you.

Recall how I mentioned having not spoken to my spouse for ten months?

After some time, his closest buddy began communicating with him on Facebook in a platonic and courteous manner.

At the time, I couldn't understand why this person, who I hardly knew, was making an effort to clumsily strike up a conversation with me.

It was obvious that my ex was not ready to speak to me yet and had brought in his buddy to check what I was up to, even though I actually liked his company the three times I saw him.

When we reconnected a few months later, all those late-night questions I had about whether or not my ex still loved me were answered with absolute surety.

8. YOUR EX IS STILL STILL STILL.

Is your ex obstinately continuing to be single in an effort to "discover themselves"?

Are they being pitiful and putting on the broken wing "hurt and wounded" act?

If your ex is still holding out for you and wants you to get back together, it may be a sign that they still love you. They could also have strange dating feelings if they have high hopes for you and your relationship.

Clients who wish to preserve their relationship are often adamantly opposed to dating new people when I work with them.

A telltale indicator that your ex is waiting for you is your refusal to move on and date other individuals.

9. YOUR EX IS A LOT MORE MOVING ON.

Has your ex been having a number of relationships with other people?

Do you get the impression that none of these rekindled relationships had the capacity to last?

Perhaps your ex has chosen a specific individual with whom they conduct the whole "Netflix and relax" routine while maintaining the "friends with benefits" moniker.

Another indication that your ex still loves you is when they refuse to move on from the split while simultaneously seeking as much attention as they can to satisfy their ego.

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10. THE PERSON WHO REBOUNDED FROM YOUR EXE HATES YOUR GUTS WITH A FIERY PASSION.

Hear me out even if this is one of the stranger indications that your ex still loves you and wants you back.

Since the person who just got out of a rebound relationship hasn't had much time to absorb the breakup before meeting someone new and really moving on, rebound relationships can include a lot of emotional venting.

Your ex's new fling has thus undoubtedly heard a LOT about you.

Although the rebound person is going to be helpful, they most likely have a lot of thoughts towards you.

This individual is still simply human, not cruel or wicked.

Your ex would not have overshared in their new relationship if they were really over you two.

You most likely wouldn't pique anyone's interest for very long and wouldn't elicit any strong feelings either way.

When your ex's new partner genuinely despises you, they undoubtedly feel competitive and are attempting to establish a little amount of control over the situation.

The fact that this is even a problem suggests that your ex still has unresolved emotions for you.

11. YOUR EX TRAFFIC KILLS YOU ON SOCIAL MEDIA.

Checking over your social media and "liking" your postings, does your ex?

Do they still share your posts and leave comments on them?

Did they just randomly start following you on Instagram?

These are all indications that your ex could still be feeling something for you.

Your ex wouldn't be keeping tabs on your social media activity like it was breaking late-breaking news if they didn't still care about you.

Guys, in particular, don't put their time and effort into things that don't result in anything, like maintaining in touch with you online.

Additionally, your ex could be writing a LOT more often than normal about how absolutely content and ideal their life is right now.

Unfriending your ex can help you move on and feel better about the split if you don't want to get back together since having them around all the time won't.

It might be quite difficult to resist the urge to stay up late wondering what your ex is doing.

According to research, those who stay in touch with their ex-partners on social media are more likely to hurt their new relationships.

The choice to unfollow your former on social media is quite personal, but for some individuals, doing so while still being "friends" is a good compromise if you want to end up getting back together with your ex.

If you want to get back together, social media may be a tremendously effective strategy. If you are unsure of what you're doing online, leave your ex alone for the time being.

12. YOUR EX CONTINUES TO CONTACT YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY

People who have no emotions for their ex-partners often break up and move on.

After the split, if your ex is continuing reaching out to your friends and family, they may be doing so to keep tabs on what you're doing.

My partner's closest buddy persistently messaged me on Facebook months after we split up, as I said a moment ago. This is not how ex-lovers who have moved on act.

Unless he wants a shot at dating you or his friend wants you back, it is not typical male conduct.

I became even more concerned that my boyfriend was involved since I knew that talking to your friend's ex might damage your friendship with them.

If there isn't a compelling cause, your ex would find it meaningless or excruciating to even attempt to maintain contact with the people you love.

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13. Even when they don't have to, YOUR EX-TREATS YOU VERY WELL.

The way we treat someone reflects our feelings towards them (and ourselves).

In addition to being a decent person, your ex may be gently attempting to earn your forgiveness or another opportunity.

If your ex is still making an effort to constantly prove their excellent character to you, they may still be interested in you and have affection for you.

When clients come to me for 1:1 counseling, one of the most frequent things they express is that they want to "show their ex how much they have changed since the split."

Exes who want to get back together often express the desire to "correct things" and make amends after the separation.

14. YOUR EX IS SURPRISED BY THEIR COMPETITION.

Does your ex inquire about new relationships?

Do they sometimes make a passing remark about you dating?

Do they continue to bring it up if your ex already knows you have moved on and there is someone else in your life?

After a split, whether you still love your ex or not, it's quite normal to question whether they have moved on. Simply said, people are inquisitive beings.

The most telling indicator that your ex is missing you is when they compete with your new love interest or make inappropriate remarks about them.

It's likely that you may notice your ex's neediness if you feel that they are behaving strangely in response to the fact that you are seeing someone new.

Even when your ex is cautious about how they express it, jealousy is a very strong indication that they still love you.

15. YOUR EX HAS BEEN HAVING A LOT OF OUTINGS AND/OR DRINKING.

People who are grieving often try to end their pain by drinking in an effort to move on from you.

Going out often does not always indicate that a person is fully recovered, emotionally open, and prepared to pleasantly sail into the future.

Most likely, your ex is attempting to forget about you by drinking and having fun.

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