Children are sensitive and glassy-hearted, bad personality

Children are sensitive, glassy-eyed, and often emotionally depressed over the smallest things ...... Many parents will say, my child, is timid, weak, and not strong enough ...... This is the child's empathy, empathy in the parent-child relationship is very important, many times, we lack a heart of empathy, and we can not know, our children's hearts need is what.

Therefore, as our children grow up, the generation gap between us and them will become deeper and deeper, because we cannot understand them, because we do not understand, there is more blame and criticism, less respect and acceptance, and this, precisely, is the biggest obstacle in the parent-child relationship.

To be close to your child and have no barriers, "empathy" is essential.

Empathy means being in the same place, understanding your child's emotions, empathizing with your child's situation and feelings, and practicing responding to them.

One of the most important aspects of improving a child's empathy is whether or not we understand the child, and whether or not we make this understanding clear to the child, for example, I am in a hurry and my child is very sad right now, right? We have to be able to understand the child, a word to the child's psyche, such as baby, I think you feel especially bad now. Feel a little disappointed, right? You are quite depressed, right? You're a little bit scared right now, right? When we talk in this way, gradually the child will learn how to understand others, and then his empathy will improve.

Or we can also ask the child, "How do I feel right now? Then the child may say mom I think you know look I see you are in a good mood or you are now a little angry, let them say it, parents can say, mom just a little angry, baby you feel right, mom just a little anxious ah, among our children for other people's understanding of this ability will be increasingly enhanced.

In addition, let our children take care of small animals, in the process of taking care of the weak, the child is the easiest to improve empathy, when the animal is hungry to eat, or poop, all things are borne by the child himself, he is in the process of giving, he understands that it can not be without my care.

In the second-child family, let the eldest baby participate in the care of the second baby, feeding time to ask the eldest baby to watch, and diaper change time to ask the eldest baby to help, in the process, talk about the eldest baby's previous manager, let the eldest baby feel that the previous mother and father also took care of me, but also can build the baby's empathy.

When we guide the child to think differently is actually from the child's point of view inside the jump, jump to each perspective to feel and experience, so that you can understand others, when we understand others, allow others to have their ideas, just like allowing yourself, so that the exclusion of the teenager is mostly I say, I am the king, generally speaking, the exclusion is not the exclusion of others but he wants to be himself too much, too want to say what's right. We all want to be in charge of what we think, we want others to listen to us, teenagers, can not make others listen to them, TA's only way is to use the exclusion to protect their own.

Guiding children to discover the merits of others, to look at others with a bright heart, to get along with others, to learn from others what they do not have, to enhance their energy, to stand at a deeper level, every child is originally equipped, he can cash in on his inner kind of pay and achievement, especially adolescents think my territory is mine is difficult to open up, so parents have to create the conditions and opportunities. Let children participate in group activities, participate in clubs, participate in training camps, go out on trips, etc. to participate in the collective life, in the team to put down this excessive self-protection, so parents should be mindful person, to help children grow up healthy and happy