4 common mistakes in love, how many did you step on?

Many people have infinite expectations for love, but they can't always meet good feelings, there are many people, obviously want to get married, but for one reason or another, become a late marriage family.

Sometimes the fate of this thing is unreasonable, and even a little wayward, just like the song sung by Jonathan Lee:

"If you can't get what you want, you don't care about life."

In fact, no one in this world is willing to be single for a lifetime, just not willing to make do with a lifetime.

But because it is really difficult to find a suitable person, sometimes it may be simple to meet, but because it is too difficult to get along, there will always be such problems, and finally have to end the relationship.

The appearance of emotional problems is mostly because the girls fall into the wrong area of love, they will not meet the right person, and sometimes they cannot grasp the right person.

So when in love, what love mistakes are best not to step on?

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Mistake "be good to me" for everything

The biggest advantage of Su Mingcheng in the previous hit drama "are very good" is "good to his wife Zhu Li", he usually talks a variety of sweet words to Zhu Li, and said that his father went to the United States to put all his attention on Zhu Li and spoil her into a princess.

Julie angry ran back to her parents, Su Mingcheng kept sending messages to Julie to apologize, also went to her mother-in-law's home knelt to apologize to Julie, and sent Julie to join the shopping cart for a long time but not willing to buy a necklace.

When his father Su Daqiang said Zhu Li pretentious, he fought back: "You always say she is pretentious, she is really not pretentious, from marriage to now, socks and underwear are her to wash me, no complaints."

In real life, such a good man who is "good to me" may be the dream of many girls, but we should not forget that men like Su Mingcheng are only good to Zhu Li, and their attitude toward others is extremely bad.

Su Mingcheng bully sister has become a habit, in order to give Zhu Li out the blood hit sister fell to the ground can not get up.

In addition, Su Mingcheng is still a veritable treasure mother man, has been more than 30 years old is still chewing the old, and also proud of chewing the old: "chewing the old how, chewing the old is not the ability, you chew a try."

In love, many good girls and Zhu Li mistake "good to me" as all in love, thinking that as long as "good to me" can make up for everything, you can live a happy life, but life is not only "good to me" to move forward smoothly.

How a person's character, ability, whether there is a sense of responsibility, all affect the feelings of two people in the future.

So, dear girls, you can attach "good to me" to love, but you must also consider more reliable measures, such as character, three views, cultivation and so on.

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Misuse of "kneel and lick" for cherishing

Many girls always think that they do their best to boys, kneel and lick boys, boys will care more about themselves and cherish themselves.

As everyone knows, love is always a game war of value attraction, not a low profile for the other side to pay.

Low profile to meet each other's needs, will not exchange for the boy's cherish, will only encounter the situation of being rejected and abandoned.

Because when you lower your posture without a bottom line to lower yourself to meet the other party, it is to increase the weight in your love day, the other party's sense of need will also rise, and his position in love will also rise.

Later, the more you pay, the more dissatisfied the other party is, the more they will despise you for not paying enough, until finally he gives up you will not have any regrets, because he did not invest in you, from beginning to end you are investing for him.

In fact, to sum up, the reason why girls go into the kneeling licking misunderstanding, there are three main aspects:

1, lack of confidence, or lack of their own value, that only kneeling licking to win each other's love.

2, the lack of resources of the opposite sex, limited options, the limited choice of objects do everything, and finally lead to kneeling and licking.

3, the core reason is that you are moved by yourself, because of their continued unrequirable pay, create a selfless lover image, and at this time you fall in love with is not the boy, but the affectionate pay of their own.

Girls who want to avoid falling into this trap must remember seven words: "Love yourself first, then love others."

Only when you love yourself first, can you know how to love a person and pass on positive love to a boy.

To love yourself, first of all, you have to establish self-confidence and have a high sense of identity with your own value. A confident person is the most charming and attractive, and can attract boys to cherish you.

Secondly, don't limit yourself to your limited social circle, contact and understand more boys, in order to know what kind of boys are suitable for you.

Finally, first class girls attract boys, second class girls pursue boys, third class girls kneel and lick boys.

To be a first-class girl, with their own value and charm to attract boys, is the hard truth.

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Without measure, true love becomes empty

In a previous program of "If You Are the One", the guests and the host gave a good explanation of "doing", and the focus of their talk was focused on "degree".

Can master a good degree of work is acceptable, after all, a small pleasure, but master a bad degree, do too much, it became a big hurt.

Many girls are easy to fall into the misunderstanding of "no scale", so in the end, they still struggle with why other girls make it interesting, and they become boring.

To achieve relaxation, you can make reference from the following dimensions:

1, the degree of willfulness: do not make a fuss, on the line, make a response on the net;

2, the frequency of doing: not too frequent, you can do twice a week, it is best not to do several times a day;

3, the length of time: the length of time is best not to exceed one or even two days, to avoid stimulating the other party's excessive dissatisfaction.

In short, in order to make the point of the situation, in order to make love have a sweet appearance, excessive work will only fall in love misunderstanding.

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Severe commitment mentality

The most afraid of feelings is to rely on each other's trust mentality, in fact, this mode of thinking is inherited from ancient times.

In ancient times, there were three and four virtues, that is, to let women follow their father at home, to follow their husband after marriage, and to follow their son after the death of their husband.

Nowadays, most women are self-reliant, economic independence, material independence, and spiritual independence, but in terms of feelings, there are still many girls who will be affected by the attitude of trust.

Because the movies, TV series, novels and songs we come into contact with daily are full of words like "I belong to you" and "I will give you a lifetime of happiness", we often hear parents say to their future sons-in-law: "I entrust you with the happiness of my daughter's life." These are classic statements of commitment.

But mindsets are often very detrimental to our relationships, once we entrust our lives and happiness to our partners, and increase dependence over time.

Life trifles depend on each other, economic sources depend on each other, emotional sustenance depends on each other, spiritual supply also depends on each other, all of these dependence will cause serious trust mentality.

On the one hand, this kind of psychology will increase the psychological burden of the other side, and he has to pay the responsibility for the happiness of two people.

On the other hand, it is also a kind of erasure of our own independence. Once the other person can not bear the burden of your commitment, he will choose to leave, and at this time, your life and your heart will lose the pillar.

So don't think that just because someone loves you, you can put everything on them.

You have to believe that happiness is always to rely on their own.

If you have enough ability to take care of yourself and your partner has enough ability to take care of yourself, then you can achieve a relationship that is 1+1=2, 3, 4, or even 5.

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~This is Antoine, and I hope you find pleasure in each of my articles~