52 Lock Up Orsolya Gaal & David Bonola

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Today’s story with lonely David Bonola, not sure why Youtube is a popular choice but lets get into it. David Bonola was born in Mexico in 1977 and entered the U.S. in 2001 illegally; don’t use him to harp on immigrants! He is apparently a father of 2 children but there’s little knowledge about his offspring. I assume he was divorced when he entered the U.S. He signed up like everyone else did on Facebook and and other social media websites/apps. He gained attention for his curls and people would comment that he looks like a rockstar; one dared said he looked like Bon Jovi. During his stay in the US he sought out work as a handyman and worked as a heating and air conditioning repairman. During his off hours he would spend his time obsessive over Youtube.

He would put together playlists showing his deep interest in true crime in the Big Apple; don’t you dare compare us. Women watch true crime to learn how to escape; I digress. The true crimes he was watching were shootings, rapes, murders and high profile stabbing. There were 754 local news reports on violent crimes. Some of the crimes included clips of a brutal stabbing of an 18 year old girl, remember Tessa Majors in Harlem, a video of a Good Samaritan trying to break up a knife fight outside of a gambling den in Brooklyn. The death of Drew Carey’s ex-fiancée Amie Harwick who had been stalked and killed.

He created a public playlist titled “interesting” with videos that explained how AK-47 work” and another for rap music.

The other YouTube videos he enjoyed were on how to seduce women, sex, dating, tips from pickup artists, how to win back women that were no longer interested, 7 mindsets that attract women like crazy; there were over 200 videos focused on this. Another playlist titled “3 ‘Older Guy’ Attraction Tricks” that will “Attract ALL Women,” “How to Be Instantly Irresistible” and “How To Get A Girlfriend (Even If She’s Not Interested In You At First).”, “Other tricks promise to help men seduce women “When She Says She’s Confused” as well as “When She Says ‘She’s Not Ready!'” “Sexually Escalate With Women,” while one clip promises to teach men “How To Make A Woman Want You Sexually!” ““The channel even shares more graphic sex tips, including “3 Ways To Please A Girl In Bed (Dirty Moves To Try)” — and “How To Go Down On A Woman.” Videos on how to cope with an affair gone bad and dealing with narcissists. “How To Make Her Miss You! 4 Tips: When It’s Not Going Anywhere!” “How To Get Your Ex To Think About You Constantly,” “How to Break the Loop of Obsession.” “Stop Being Needy And Insecure.”

I am reading out these titles because it is evident these videos do not work, regardless of how lonely he is. The problem with these types of tips and videos are that they upkeep a patriarchal perspective of tricks, manipulation, deceiving or lying to get someone. The patriarchal perspective teach men from birth not show emotions or talking about emotions which lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms because emotions are only for women and we dont want to be anything like a woman. Men who struggle to identify with the masculine check off list tend to be aggressive towards women and members of the LBGTQ community; hence the toxic masculinity which ventures out in many ways. Conversation with yourself and with others is key. Yes relationships are hard but if the person doesn’t want you then walk away; there’s no reason why anyone should have to feel like they need to have control over another person in order to keep them; because that means they don’t really want you.

The patriarchal perspective also suggests that sexual assaults just happen to women (and there are men who are sexual assault victims) but these crimes are usually performed by men. Sexual assault is joked about and victims are often blamed. Sexual aggression comes from this perspective as well because men are expected to sleep with every female while women can not sleep with every male otherwise she’s shamed. If there is a male that is struggling to obtain his status quo then he is not measuring up to being a “man”. This perspective also affects fatherhood as well but that’s not what this video is about.

FYI, women do not need to be tricked into bed. It takes us like 5 seconds to decide if we want to sleep with you. The trouble with jumping into bed with a guy so quickly can run through our minds like sexually transmitted diseases, personal goals of what type of relationship we may want. There are plenty of women who are interested in one night stands but you need to be honest about what you are looking for. The other issue is if the woman is not interested then leave her alone. I hate the excuse of “but women play hard to get” it’s not that all women are playing hard to get but a lot of women do not know which gun is loaded. Plus if that was such a big issue then sex workers would not scare that kind of mindset. Sex worker is perfect, she is skilled, knows what she likes, and can adjust to what you like with consent whether you’re paying or dating them. No person likes to feel used and sex is not for everyone. Sex for all genders require emotional intelligence; being 40 or 50 years old doesn’t mean you have the emotional maturity to have sex; if you were, then you would be able to tell the person you’re interested in or dating or trying to hook up what you were into and expect from them. If you’re into polyamory then explain then and go over boundaries but don’t expect your partner to monogamous; that’s not polyamory. Don’t treat people like they are only sexual objects that will be discarded like the condoms you complain about. Whatever you are looking for sexually or romantically or both, discuss it with who you are communicating with. If the answer is no, then it’s no; if you’re tricking the person into it or coercing them into it, you’re not really wanted now are you? Get therapy and learn to communicate, stop watching those videos.

Back to Bonola, So David was perceived as creepy and he was not getting the responses he was hoping to get. In the Interroom Orsolya Gaal was married to Howard Klein. She’s originally from Hungary and studied at the Budapest Business School College of International Management and Business and on her social media pages like Facebook you can see that she loved to go hiking and travel and loved live music performances. She would also utilize her social media accounts to help her youngest son Leo to fund raise for his bar mitzvah but it end up being canceled because her husband Howard Klein had contracted Covid. She has two sons. David and Orsolya meet and become acquainted. There are some news outlets stating that they were lovers but then there are some other news outlet stating that they are still determining the relationship based on whatever the detectives have to discover during their interview. Either way they become acquainted and he knows where she keeps the spare key to get inside of the house for him to make repairs. Allegedly their affair begins about 2 years in the making and in a sense David finally gets what he is supposedly looking for until it must have ended recently allegedly.

On Good Friday, April 15th 2022 the mother of two had some plans to head to Manhattan towards Lincoln Center with some friends to watch a show. Her husband was out of town with their oldest son in Oregon on a tour of potential colleges while she stayed home with the youngest Leo. She boarded a train for her night out, excited about seeing one of her favorite composers perform. She had an amazing time with her friends and the performance and arrived to the train station Forest Hills Station around 11:20 p.m. She grabbed a drink and began walking the half mile home to Juno Street. She arrives home around 12:20 a.m. on Saturday April 16th 2022. Leo was upstairs sleeping. Ten minutes after she arrived home 44 year old David Bonola lets himself into her home at 12:30 a.m. He knew his way around the house due to the affair and the jobs he was frequently hired for. He surprised her and it was not a happy surprise for her to see him. Orsolya now has to think on her feet and see what David wants but also her son who is upstairs sleeping. The conversation begins between two but they agree to head to the basement to finish their conversation. David did not seem to be having his way with the conversation and it turned into an argument. Orsolya began to tell David to leave their home and David was ignoring her requests and demands to leave; he decides to grab a steak knife and repeatedly stabbed her over 60 times in her neck and upper body. Orsolya tried to fight for her life forensics proved that she was covered in defensive gashes. David then proceeds to stuff her body into the hockey bag belonging to Leo who was sleeping upstairs. It takes about four hours for him to exit the house. It is around 4 going on 5 am when a video from the doorbell cameras of neighbors see him dragging the duffel bag down the street and leaving a blood trail from her door. Her body was dumped just outside of Forest Park.

By 8 am Glenn Van Nostrand was out walking his two Rhodesian ridgebacks on Saturday morning on Metropolitan Avenue when he stumbled across Ms Gaal’s body in the duffle bag. He initially thought the duffel bag was thrown away and initially looked like in it was in good condition given that it was a name brand. As he got closer to the bag his dogs were very agitated as he came closer to the bag. He opened it and looked inside and initially thought this was a mannequin. He stated that “It didn’t look very fleshy. It was more like a crash test dummy. I thought it was maybe some equipment being used for something. I didn’t think anything of it,” he told The Post. It was not until further inspection that he realized that this was a woman wearing black jeans and realize he was actually looking at a body laying in the fetal position; he immediately called 911.

Police arrived and followed the faint blood trail back to the home on Juno Street where her son was originally sleeping. Initially the police arrested Leo before releasing him later that he was cleared of any involvement; that is a horrible way of finding out that your mother died. He is waking up and having a normal teenage day and then finds the police at his door without his father or mother, not knowing what was going on and to be arrested for the death his mother. Leo informed the investigators that he did not know where his mother was he only knew that she was going to the event for the music performance at Lincoln Center. It was discovered that there were no signs of a break in at the home which means that the killer knew the victim.

While this is going on it seems that David took the time to send a series of chilling text messages to her husband after she was murdered. “Your wife sent me to jail some years ago... I’m back.” “Your whole family is next.” These text messages are what made the headlines in the tri-state area. These text messages make me question if there was a real relationship between them or if there was a relationship between them in his head. There was a note on the fridge of the household that stated to “getting new repair man “if there was a relationship between them then this means the relationship ended which can constitute a ton of things either it was found out or it simply was no longer working out. However if there was no relationship between the two of them then it is very plausible that David could’ve been suffering from erotomania which is considered to be possibly a symptom of a psychiatric illness including Schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder, major depressive disorder with psychotic features, Alzheimer’s disease as well as bipolar disorder.

Erotomania is a type of delusional mental disorder. The person affected by this strongly believes that another person is in love with them and their delusion continues to develop and persist regardless of clear evidence of it not being true. This means person has no sense of reality. It is considered to be a rare condition and supposedly it affects women more than it often affects men but with the combination of toxic masculinity I wonder how true that really is. I say this because this is often said about hybristophilia and for funzies I did a survey online where people could stay anonymous but I only requested for their gender as well as their age group and ask them a couple of questions about their sexual or romantic attractions to people who have committed crimes. There was an equal amount of men who are committed to it as there were women who admitted to it. The only thing that was different were the reasons why they would pursue a relationship with someone who is in prison for committing a horrific crime which I found to be interesting. So when I see erotomania staying at this affects women more than a fax man I am a little bit in disbelief and wonder if it is coming from a bias perspective a post of the actual truth studies of it. There are guys who feel that once they have picked out a woman that she belongs to them and when she rejects him politely it is the ultimate rejection. Either way erotomania can develop suddenly and have long lasting symptoms. Usually they are in love with someone they can not truly have or someone they barely have contact with. This disorder was first coined by a French psychiatrist in 1921 De Clerambault.

Howard after receiving these text messages “Your wife sent me to jail some years ago... I’m back.” “Your whole family is next.” Leave him in a panic and he packs up quickly because he feels that his family is in danger. Originally the killer was still a mystery after clearing the younger son’s Leo‘s name. Please begin to track down and learned that Orsolya Made three specific calls to three other men and one of them was David. They looked at the phone records as well as taking into consideration of the note on the fridge stating get a new handyman which led to David. He realizes the police are looking for him and reaches out.

During their interrogation David buckles and admits to killing Orsolya. He stated that they were having an affair and their conversation turned into an argument. If it was an affair then were those text messages to “throw off the police” or was he fired for doing something inappropriate and was now pissed. I believe this case is looking at this murder as not being premeditated because He use the supplies that were around him but because he is so familiar with the house and everything inside of it perhaps he may have not felt like he needed to purchase supplies were rather use the supplies that were already there. I am curious to how this is going to continue to develop and if they can prove if there was a relationship between them or if he was simply fantasizing the entire time he was working with them.

David was charged with murder, criminal tampering and criminal possession of a weapon for allegedly stabbing Orsolya Gaal, 51 year old mother of two, nearly 60 times while one of her sons was upstairs sleeping.

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