The big questions

Life. It’s a complicated concept and even more complicated practice. If you’re not wanting to read the crazy ramblings of a skeptic then maybe quit here. But honestly, I need to get it out. This is probably more for my benefit than anything else but if you stick with me, maybe we can help each other answer the unanswerable. Please note that I do not mean to offend by any of my thoughts and if you don’t like what you read, I’m sorry. But here it is. The questions that plague my mind frequently and make me question all I know, always waiting, hopefully, for the answers.

It was only yesterday when this one cropped up again: “what if reality is really when people use drugs and they’re only illegal to stop us from seeing the world clearly?”. This probably isn’t the best one to start with, due to the flaws in the whole concept and it doesn’t really set the best president for what its all about but it is the one that’s crossed my mind most recently. Obviously this isn’t the case with all drugs, but in the case of a few where ‘enlightenment’ and ‘clarity’ are some of the effects, it does make you wonder. With illegal drugs being used by even those who enforce their criminality, you have to question their reasoning. Maybe they’re trying to hide something. Is this the reality they just want us to see?

This next one needs a trigger for warning for sure! It’s one that crosses my mind a lot as someone with mental health issues.

“Why can’t suicidal people be allowed to end their life if they want to?”

I’m sorry if this offends or upsets anyone. It’s not intended to at all! On the contrary, maybe it can provide some relief if anyone has lost loved ones this way to know that they’re at peace. But it’s something that I can’t wrap my head around. The idea behind the question is that if someone wants it enough, why are they forced to live a life they hate? Don’t people deserve to be happy and at peace? If they are really hating their life so much why are they not allowed to have their peace? After all, we are born into a world where we are forced to go to school, study hard, only to work for our entire lives until we are completely exhausted without time and often not enough money to do the things we enjoy. It’s a vicious circle of exhausting relentlessness until what some call “the sweet release…”. Ultimately, I know it’s not realistic to say “ok, go do it” to someone who’s on the edge, after all, it’s the only thing that is permanent and final, that can’t be undone. Because what if someone changes their mind, well, once it’s done they can’t. However, why must they suffer for their whole lives? It seems almost cruel, no?

Religion is a tricky one. Again, not written to offend anyone at all! Personally, I think religion has done more harm than good for the majority. But for question number 3 - “How are seemingly impossible and completely unknown religious entities believed?” It’s a little complicated, I know, but the biggest part of the question is the seemingly impossibility of religion. If you really think about it, it seems more like a fairy tale: miracles, a magical place in the sky that’s better than all this (not to mention that it’s supposed to last forever? And the ins and outs of it all, the mechanics, are impossible!) and of course you must NOT be a doubter! You could change the names and pull it right out of the fiction section. So if you really, REALLY think about it, it shouldn’t make sense. It shouldn’t be truly believed in. And yet it gives us hope. It gives us a reason to be happy for our loved ones past.

My husband thinks that I believe certain things simply to be non-conformist. Namely monogamy, or my disagreement of it. We, as humans, were not created to be monogamous beings and very few mammals are. So why has society conditioned us to be this way? I have a theory that it was some jealous, selfish, possessive man who wanted to be the only one to have his spouse and make it seem normal. So he made everyone feel guilty for being promiscuous and shamed them for it and so monogamy was born. But really it’s rubbish. Why does having a committed relationship mean you can’t indulge other fantasies or flirtations? Just because you have a strong connection to one person doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be able to connect with other people in other ways. All our relationships, platonic or otherwise, are about connection and a person can not live with connection solely to their spouse. Any healthy relationship means having multiple relationships outside of that so jealously in relationships is simply ridiculous and unfounded. Realistically, we are all capable of being non-monogamous whilst maintaining, healthy commited relationships, both platonic and otherwise so why does society frown upon it? Why is monogamy the norm?

Maybe I’m just being a conspiracy nut. Maybe none of this really makes sense and I’m talking out of my ass. Maybe, just maybe, it’s something someone else thinks too.