She didn't shave, I was disgusted with her.

I met a guy who said that whenever a woman didn't shave, they didn't make love, he was disgusted... Whenever the woman was menstruating, he wouldn't come close, he was disgusted... He always criticized her for details, details for him, for her...

For her it was more than details, she felt insecure, it messes with her psychology a lot, if her "love" is always criticizing her, who will she lean on?

Menstruation bug? Fur scum?

This is a natural thing for every woman, when a man starts to criticize this kind of thing, it's a big sign that he doesn't love you...

In a relationship that lasts for several years, there will be days when she doesn't want to get dressed... and that's okay!

There will be days when she doesn't want to shave and that's okay!

There will be days when she doesn't want to make love... and that's okay!

We live in a world where appearances matter more than feelings, who truly loves, loves the person in every possible way, does not look for fault.

Love is exchange, exchange of feelings and sensations, who loves, doesn't care about hair and doesn't feel disgusted with menstruation, who loves his wife, loves the way she is, without adding or diminishing.

In the 1960s, when women in the hippie movement stopped shaving in favor of a more "natural" lifestyle, they shocked society. Decades later, in the late 1990s, the subject came to Hollywood through the arms of actress Julia Roberts, as she waved to the audience at the premiere of the movie "A Place Called Notting Hill", revealing the hairs on her armpits. After her, it was the turn of the singer Miley Cyrus to shed light on the debate and go viral on social networks after dyeing the hair in the region.

Recently, a spontaneous internet movement created the #januhairy campaign, which encourages women who don't shave to share images of their bodies. The hashtag (a play on the word hair and January) already has more than 13,000 photos around the world.

In Brazil, the issue has also gained strength. In a chapter of the soap opera "Um Lugar ao Sol", by TV Globo, the character Joy — played by actress Lara Tremouroux — appeared on national television with her armpit unshaven, a scene unthinkable years ago.

While many women feel increasingly confident in assuming their bodies the way they want, the hair on female bodies is still stigmatized, and regarded with a certain repulsion by society.

Universa had access to the numbers of "Pello Menos", a popular women's hair removal chain, and discovered that, in the last ten years, the franchise grew 49%, with the opening of 25 new clinics across the country, with more than 370 thousand clients served . In all, the company has 50 units and was the first to create a waxing subscription plan in Brazil, in order to retain its public.

Brazilian waxing:

It is not today that we even export our own "style" of hair removal — the Brazilian Wax, which consists of the total removal of hair from the groin and vulva. For sociologist and feminist activist Jéssica Petit, this image of the smooth vagina is strongly linked to pornography and the Brazilian culture of objectification of women.

"The sex industry sells the idea that a sexy woman is hairless and thus encourages the infantilization of the female body," she says. "The collective imagination of male virility demands that men dominate and exercise their power over fragile bodies", comments the author.

This makes, even unconsciously, many of us adopt this standard of a smooth body as 'correct', natural, so as not to suffer retaliation. "It is necessary to rethink the social (and sexual!) hierarchy between men and women to change this scenario", she suggests.

Next, we listened to four women who rethought their relationships with intimate hair. For them, leaving the hair on the groin and vulva visible has nothing to do with neglecting their own image; on the contrary, it is being a process of discovery, self-knowledge and affirmation of a new femininity.

"I spent my childhood without wearing a bikini"

Júlia Mota de Brito, 20 years old, undergraduate student in Humanities, from Salvador (BA)

"I started working as a digital influencer in 2019. I talked about astrology and tarot, but I started to notice that people commented a lot about my body and little about the content I produced.

In the pandemic, I stopped shaving encouraged by social isolation. I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and one of the symptoms is 'excess' hair. If they are no longer accepted, can you imagine mine that are in greater quantity? I felt very strong social pressure.

I shaved for the first time when I was 10, after a boy said my body resembled that of a werewolf

As a teenager, shaving became compulsory. In the beginning, I removed the hair with depilatory creams, until I decided to test the wax, at 14; I never forget that moment, I felt so much pain that I cried — it felt like a torture session.

When I arrived at the hair removal centers, there was always pressure. The epilators were scared, they looked at me with pity, as if there was something wrong with my body. I once heard from a gynecologist that if I didn't do something with my hair, no man would be interested in me. I spent my childhood without wearing a bikini.

Male sexual revulsion has never been an issue. I'm bisexual and spent most of my teenage years in relationships with women. I've always heard that men don't like fur, so in my head, they don't like me either.

There was a time when laser hair removal became fashionable. I remember that I even talked to my mother so that she would lend me money to do the procedure, and take this 'problem' out of my life. It was at that moment that I began to reflect on why I wanted to change my body so much.

I felt that it was not something I did because I wanted to, but out of fear of external judgment.

For me, seeing a smooth ppk is strange, it's not natural. It's all about being a Brazilian 'custom', but I think it's an unnecessary infantilization of the female body. I decided to assume my hair and today I talk about acceptance on the internet.

The video I recorded showing my body has over 9 million views on TikTok. Of course I get a lot of offensive comments, they say that no man will want me, that man doesn't think that's beautiful.

I think color does influence these offenses. When someone on social media is going to talk about my body, they immediately call me a monkey. They look at my pictures with fur and say 'it could only be black'. Machismo is even stronger with black women.

Today, I no longer care about these criticisms. I'm happy to be the aesthetic reference I never had as a child."

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Research source:

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