Hey everyone! Here I am- happy wife, SAHM, badass photographer, and sometimes writer. Hope you like what you read!
Screw Your Timeline
The other day, I was sitting on my front porch talking with my best friend, when she brought up the subject of the life timeline. You know, the timeline for when society thinks people should accomplish goals, hit life milestones, stuff like that, and in her case that means when she and her boyfriend are going to get married.
What Do Stay At Home Moms Do All Day?
I'm a wife, stay at home mom, photographer, and a sometimes writer. But being a mom and wife are my first priorities. And every once in awhile I'll encounter the question, "What is it, that you do all day?" Now, this question can be really infuriating, but it always makes me wonder where it comes from.
I Don't Believe in Soulmates
It may be an unpopular opinion, but I don't believe in soulmates. As far back as I can remember, I never thought soulmates were a real thing. It's something you see in the movies, or read about in books. It's a work of fiction. Why? Because to me, it's a really depressing concept. The idea of soulmates was first spoken of very early on by Plato. Then in the early 1800's, poet Samuel Taylor Coleridge, wrote in A Letter to a Young Lady, “To be happy in Married Life... You must have a soul-mate.” Thus introducing the concept to the masses.
I'm Not, "Too Much"
My whole life I've been told I'm too loud. Too opinionated. Too expressive with my thoughts. You're so bossy! Quiet down. Stop being so honest. People don't like you because your personality is so strong. Well excuse the fuck out of me. Maybe I should just quiet down, stop being truthful, and turn into the little demure flower society obviously expects me to be.
Get a C-Section...
If I hear or read this stupid fucking shit one more time I'm going to throw an adult temper tantrum. Because the reality of a c- section is that it's major surgery, and it was the worst and most painful thing I have ever experienced in my life. And I say this having had both types of deliveries. An emergency c-section and a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarian), in case you didn't know what it stood for.
Victoria's Secret Broke My Heart
As soon as I started buying my own bras, I was a Victoria's Secret customer. I loved the way they looked. Nothing fit me like those bras, and nothing made my boobs look better! I was IN LOVE.....but then, something happened that changed all of that, and that something was me having kids.
The Dark Days of Motherhood
There are so many dark days of motherhood. And for me, there have been a lot of them in the past few weeks. This week being particularly bad. A couple of days ago, it was one of those days where you have to put your child in their crib and let them cry. Because if you don't, you feel like you just might lose it. And you know what I did during the 20 minutes I let my beautiful one and a half year old daughter cry? I sat in my backyard and sobbed into a towel. Feeling like a fucking failure. Because she had been crying for six hours, and nothing I had done made her feel any better.
10 Things We Need to Stop Saying
There are so many casual expressions and sayings that are actually really sexist, and just plain infuriating. Some of these I've heard people say, and some of them I found while I while researching for this blog. Now mostly, they're directed at women, but there are some that are directed at men. So here are ten sexist phrases/ideas that I wish would just die already.
Do You Know About Stealthing?
When I first read about this disturbing trend I struggled to wrap my brain around it. Part of me was surprised that men are doing this. And the other part of me isn't surprised. Not. At. All. But what the fuck is so hard about consent? To me, it seems like a really simple concept, but there are a lot of people who to struggle in understanding it.
He's Mean To You?
I've heard it so many times in my life, and I'm sure that you've heard it too. Maybe not in these words, but you've definitely heard it. If he's mean to you, then he likes you... If he treats you like shit, then he MUST be into you. But where the fuck did this come from? When did we develop this notion that if a boy is mean to you, then he likes you. In my opinion, it starts really early on, when we're so small that we are indoctrinated into this bullshit way of thinking.
I'm Just Not Fun Anymore
As we grow up, we go through many stages of life, the good times and the bad, the hard times and the easy. And ultimately — the fun times, and the not so fun times. But if we're lucky enough, we find someone to share all of those experiences with. And hopefully, this person will be with you through the thick and thin, loving you for the person that you are. I really wish this for each and every one of you. And I also wish that throughout your life you'll be able to shut down bullshit propaganda ads like the one below from Durex.
Why Your Husband Doesn't Do Things for You...
Let’s be serious for a moment. MEN DON’T, AND CAN’T, TAKE HINTS. They don’t understand insinuations, and they won’t do things just because you talk about them needing to be done. They will step over that mess, pile dishes by the sink, and continue to push down that overflowing trash can. They do not see things the same way that we do. They can step over the laundry, not worry about the dust in the house, and piss into a toilet that clearly needs to be cleaned. I’ve said it before, and I'll say it again—their brains just don’t work like ours. This brings me to why your husband doesn't help you, and you feel like he's not listening to you.