Nazish bibi
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Why parents should teach their children about sex
During the second lockdown in December of 2020, I remember coming across a post from a Pakistani feminist page on Instagram about how a woman died on her wedding night in Pakistan. She died from excessive bleeding as her newly-wedded husband used iron rods (maybe because he had witnessed it in porn) during sexual intercourse. The woman who had shared this story online encouraged parents to teach their children, especially their daughters, about sex in order to avoid another incidence like this happening again. For those of you reading that are not familiar with Pakistani culture, let me give you a small introduction: many Pakistani women have not even had their first kiss before their wedding night and have very little knowledge about sex or contraception due to religious norms, which creates a serious power imbalance between the husband and wife. It is likely that the husband has had some sexual experience and watches porn; in fact, Pakistan is one of the biggest consumers of porn in the world. This is the result of the culture’s obsession with controlling women’s sexuality, hence enforcing strict gender segregation and confining women within the home, whilst enabling their sons to engage in any behaviour that he wishes to do so without any fear of consequences. This difference in treatment of the sexes poses many problems for women who are newlywed, as it means that whilst men are comfortable with their own sexuality and would be ready to have sex on the wedding night, the women are anything but ready.
By Nazish bibi2 years ago in Viva
My experience with skincare
Growing up, I was never a skin-fanatic and had little to no interest in exploring different skincare products and what worked for my specific skin type, which is dry, sensitive skin. I only started introducing skincare products probably when I started sixth form, and that was only a basic facial wash by the brand Simple. But it worked for me: my skin was dull but clear so I had no reason to complain or look for an alternative product. However, as I got older and become more conscious about my looks, especially after I started my first year at university, I started to become more interested in skincare. One of my first purchases was Argon oil which you apply to your face, which made my skin feel good and healthy, but after the bottle broke mid-semester I quickly forgot about this product and only relied on facial wash in the morning and evening to keep my skin clear. This worked. Recently, I went to the bottom of my snap memories and found pictures and videos of myself without any snap fillers and experienced this awful internal pain when I realised how nice my skin was. This quarantine I had convinced myself that my skin needed repair due to the fact that I had one or two pimples/ spots on my forehead, which someone close to me thought it was appropriate to point out every single time we video called each other. So I started to watch videos by skincare by Hyram on what products would help to improve my skin and wasted my hard-earned money on products I didn’t need.
By Nazish bibi4 years ago in Blush
A dystopian reality: what happens when contraception is replaced with abortion
^^ In the photo above is Mehnaz who, after having had one son and six daughters, had to have 3 abortions in fear that she would give birth to more girls. Her husband had threatened to throw her out of the house if she gave birth to yet another girl, which led to her self-administering herself with toxins including tablets and brews of boiled dates, as well as purposefully lifting heavy things in order to have an induced abortion. This is just one story, but there is most likely so many other stories that are similar to Mehnaz's, not just in Pakistan but in other parts of the world too.
By Nazish bibi4 years ago in Viva