Overstimulation In Social Situations

I am still learning about communication after being unheard for so long I learned I have no social quos, and a lot is awkward for me. No that's an understatement I don't have a social life. I did have someone a thought to call a friend, however, we aren't friends anymore. Her name was Kyndall Lewis, I thought we had somewhat something in common. I was wrong to have said this. You know when a "friend", wants advise. They want the truth, however, the thing is they don't want the truth they want a lie. I said the wrong thing to her I told her the truth.

This is the full account of how me and Kyndall ended up losing our friendship.

"I need some advice could help me."

"Ya what's up?"

"Well my dad has a mental illness he walked away from us. He didn't want us to see him that way."

"And how do you feel about your dad having a mental illness?"

"I'm not sure."

"Do you know what kind of mental illness he has?"

"Well no, but it scares me."

As a side note: I didn't tell her this I'm educating my audience on this because to me it's very important.

1.) Stigma: This is very common with anyone who is non-mentally ill. The stigma and false news out there. It is sad there is such a bad rep for anyone who has a mental illness. Especially for a man. He left his partner because he didn't want her to see him in a bad state. If a man has to do that to someone he loves then that's a red flag.

"Kyndall, why would you be scared he is your dad. Without him you wouldn't be alive. You only have one dad believe me."

"My question is, what should I do? Should I just get an apartment or stay with mom?"

"Kyndall if your implying that your dad would hurt your mom I highly doubt that. And if she can accept and love in still then that's all that matters. If anyone can see past a mental illness, and see a person behind the flaws and trauma to me that's a great person."

"But girl come one he left us."

"I say this with all do respect, but in this day and age I don't know your mother or you very well. If you can't see past your dad's flaws yet he loves you why not educate yourself before judging. Why not asking your dad about what's it's like for him. Reconnect and maybe then he could share with you his experiences."

It got awkwardly quiet.

2.) When Most Girls who are friends: When she was asking for advice what she really wanted was for me to lie to her. I didn't know this at the time. I keep forgetting Generation Z isn't very understanding they may be in early twenties or late teenage years. However, there maturity levels some of them aren't quit up to snuff.

When things became awkward for me, I made a lame excuse to get off the phone with her. She then started to ghost me.

3.) When a supposed friend Ghosts: Ghosting is simple it's when you don't acknowledge they exist. This is probably the most degrading thing to go through. It can leave emotional scars, when trying to connect with different people anyone could be afraid to say the wrong thing. With someone with #ADHD or #AUTISM the fear only increases. Make it impossible for even someone with #Aspergers which is in the autism spectrum to connect in social environments. When ghosting someone you call a friend this isn't a friendship it never was.

As things became more awkward I felt a disconnect from her which is okay. I mean it's like I don't have friends I am happily married, and I have a best friend who doesn't even live in the states. Both my husband and my best friend accept me. However, trying to connect with new people (peers) it's easy when I don't feel a friendship isn't even there.

My last class few weeks ago, we had an icebreaker for a rising debate such as country music vs. Rap, Chocolate vs. Vanilla ice cream, Marvel vs. DC (live action).

Marvel I was pro, because as far as live action movies I would pick marvel because DC every movie I have seen very much sucked.

Now I was the only fighting for Chocolate Ice Cream, and my peer went a little to far but I laughed it off until the professor said come on that's a little to far. You only like chocolate because your husband is a a chocolate man.

Glad my professor spoke up on that. Because even though I was laughing in all fun and games. It was partly because I was uncomfortable with that mindset. I'm thinking in my head Generation Z don't play there always direct, and no shame.

Kyndall, by that point still is ghosting me. Okay, what still confuses me if you are ghosting me why do you sit next to me in class? Please, make that make sense.