Leveling up in Love

Lovels are Love Levels.

Lovel 1

Innocence

When we first set our eyes on the most captivating human. The way she laughs, the way she talks, the things she says (that honestly make no sense because she is a teenager too, you see! Unless she is your physics teacher, then she surely makes sense)

This warm feeling you get when you think about her, when she enters the classroom … thats it! That must be that divine eternal feeling we grew up watching in the movies (from the 80s, and the 90s)

#loveislife

Lovel 2

Heartbreak

When she breaks your heart, more often the circumstances and the reality of life coming in the way of your lil‘ love story. You are hurt, and angry and assume the end of the road for yourself (Fun fact - at every level you assume, it’s the last level but it’s not).

You decide never to fall in love again. But the truth is you secretly hope you will unite with your lover one day, like in the late 90s movies.

#loveispain

Lovel 3

No drama

You get a little weary of your own drama phase, and decide to have some ‘fun‘. No Strings, no feelings, no heart, no pain. Hook-ups, one night stands, flings, friends with benefits - and all of those cool detached things.

You have ‘decided‘ to not fall in love. And you wont!

Because YOU are caszh! And dont you forget that.

#loveisamyth

Lovel 4

Self Preservation

You realise, this entire ‘caszh‘ phase is not sustainable for you. Because thats not how humans are made and you are just another human with feelings, and a mushy heart and everything. So you decide you will be extra cautious and protect your heart.

You pick up a real hobby, thats doesn’t involve picking up people at the bars.

#loveisme

Lovel 5

Self Love

You realise you were self preserving not out of love but fear, out of lack of conviction in your own judgement. You realise your need to stay cautious came from a place of mistrust in your own intuition. Now you are ready to cultivate self love - that comes from hope, gratitude and self belief. You truly enjoy the peace and solitude.

You realise, your heart is a muscle and not a bone. It only gets stronger.

#loveisfaith

Lovel 6

Vulnerable Love

Now that you trust yourself, and truly love yourself, you will no longer deny yourself the joy of partnerships and soulmates. Being vulnerable, authentic and human comes to you naturally.

You attract others like you, whether in friendships, or romantic relationships or other forms of honest partnerships.

#loveisbrave

Lovel 7

Wise Love

I dont know much about this, but I guess, it must be a peaceful and giving phase. A phase of pure joy! Filled with innocence, and bliss.

#loveisgiving

Lovel 8

…. <<work in progress>>

Quick note :

1) I believe these phases aren’t necessarily sequential, sometimes we move back and forth phases and sometimes jump phase - each phase revealing its own beauty and wisdom.

2) I believe friendships and familial relationships can be as intense and nurturing as romantic relationships and hence go through all or some of these phases.

3) No matter where you think you are in life, which phases you have been through always you remember you are definitely making progress and the reason why you are probably not seeing the progress is because you are always raising the bar - which is again pretty darn cool. So keep calm, and enjoy all the phases to the fullest.

I will complete the article as and when I learn level up further.