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  • nikki
    Published 30 days ago
    Olalla

    Olalla

    It happened on weekends mostly—when he would come down to visit. And it happened for more than five years, the sexual abuse by her brother. At first, it didn’t seem to bother her. It was just something that was happening between them, something they did together. But it got worse as she grew older. She began learning—from friends, from family—that things related to sex were inappropriate, immoral, shameful even. This was when she began to wonder if she should stop what she was doing with her brother. She didn’t know if she should tell someone about it.
  • E.B. Moss
    Published 30 days ago
    How Deborah Burns Turned Memories Into a Memoir

    How Deborah Burns Turned Memories Into a Memoir

    Deborah Burns and I basically reenacted that line from “Pretty Woman” when we met over hors d’oeuvres at an industry event several years ago: “What happens when (s)he rescues the princess? (S)he rescues him right back!” We bonded over boredom and brie and traded business cards. The kind of exchange that means well, but ends up in the card pile of good intentions.
  • Ayushi Sharma
    Published about a month ago
    Do women have jockstraps?

    Do women have jockstraps?

    Before we dive into the styles which are recommended for your gym classes, let's understand why workout underwear is considered the need of an hour?
  • The Writer Chick
    Published about a month ago
    25 Things Every Woman Should Know

    25 Things Every Woman Should Know

    25 Things Every Woman Should Know As women, we get a lot of advice in our lives. From our mothers, our friends, our partners and sometimes it's great, other times, it's eh... but all in all, there are at least 25 things every woman should know and once you know then, you can't unknow them.
  • Melonie S Shelton
    Published about a month ago
    Empowering Women-Then and Now

    Empowering Women-Then and Now

    Success is having visions and goals, then achieving them.Women have come so far in the world. We finally believe that success is possible and are recognized for it as well. Women before us proved how possible that women are courageous and can do anything.
  • Melissa Castillo
    Published about a month ago
    Depression After Abortion

    Depression After Abortion

    I had been trying to become pregnant for about 4 months. And my fiancé at the time was not happy. He seemed to always find reasons to argue with me and blame me for not getting pregnant. It had been so quick when I got pregnant with my other two that I just couldn't understand why. I had finally given up to the idea when I started feeling it. All those symptoms the discomfort, all just like before. I took 3 pregnancy tests and there it was. All positive. I told my fiancé, me expecting him to be ecstatic. unfortunately he wasn't. He immediately asked if it was his. He told me he wanted a DNA test immediately. I was hurt. I couldn't understand how after so long of me trying he wasn't happier. That weekend he left to party while I stayed at home with my girls. I knew he had cheated on me before and with him leaving and my hormones all over the place it started to become overwhelming. Well within a couple weeks of that I went in for a check up and they let me know my uterus had sever scaring from before and it was going to be a high risk pregnancy. It started to make me worry. I had two little girls to worry about and their dad wasn't going to step in and care for them. I went online started looking up solutions and all kinds of horrific stories came up. Instead of comfort my fiancé made it hard on me. He was constantly drinking and leaving me. I finally made up my mind and decided i should terminate. I was to afraid to possibly have to die during birth and leave 2/3 babies behind. And when I told my fiancé he went crazy. It was constant fights and him calling me a killer. I asked him to go with me to the appointment. Just to hear it himself from the rd. about my health issues. but no he wouldn't budge. he told me he was through that he was leaving me and wanted nothing to do with me. I wen to the appointment by myself and it was hurting me inside the whole time but I knew i was going to have to go through it alone. The next few days were very difficult for me. Within a couple days he came back and went from being helpful to me to being a jerk and it went back and forth for a few days. I was not cleared for intercourse but he manipulated me into it saying that if I didn't do it he would cheat on me. I gave in. once again the weekend approached and he left me. I ended up with a horrible allergic reaction and landed at the ER just me and my two little girls. I couldn't stay at the hospital for too long because it was during the shutdown and I had both of my girls, one 3 the other 4. I asked to be sent home while the results for the tests came back and I would be back the next morning so that i could find someone to stay with the girls. The next morning I woke up to a worse reaction and my airway closing up. I drove myself to the hospital and immediately got admitted. I was notified by the rd. that the tests came back and I had a horrible uterine infection and that I had contracted chlamydia. I was devastated. I had to be rushed into emergency surgery. I was discharged that same day so that i could go home to my kids. I later on found out that while I was having to watch my baby come out of me and deal with the guilt that I felt about my decision, in that same moment he went and cheated on me with some girl out on the street. While he was messaging me calling me a murderer and my whole world felt like it was falling apart he was out seeking pleasure. I would be 7 months pregnant right now. If he would've just gone with me. I feel devastated every time I think about it, any time I see a new baby or a woman pregnant. No one talks about the hurt that some women go through after such a difficult decision but after months of hurting so much and hating myself for it I'm learning to live with my choices and realize that I am not the only one. And I'm sure this isn't the worst case of it either. But for whoever this might touch, I hope it helps you. I hope you forgive yourself.
  • Verónica Moreno
    Published about a month ago
    How to Use the Female Cycle to Optimise Performance, Well-being and Fulfillment

    How to Use the Female Cycle to Optimise Performance, Well-being and Fulfillment

    Many women live their cycle as burden – painful periods, PMS, unpredictable mood swings… I used to think pain and irritability were something we had to deal with. We have assumed this is normal but this is definitely not our natural state!
  • Clare Brien
    Published about a month ago
    Wales Firebreak Lockdown

    Wales Firebreak Lockdown

    So, by now, most of you have probably heard about what happened in a Tesco Supermarket in Wales, it was all over social media. If not, let me explain.
  • Sana Alibux
    Published about a month ago
    Amanda

    Amanda

    She was always there for me. This little voice that penetrated every depth in my soul as if she knew exactly what I wanted to do next.