It’s not ALL men

It is all men I scream from bowels of frustration with the opposing gender. The gathering of misogynistic weapons clang in the distance at that phrase spoken by honest bearers communicating their experiences; small or large. Every woman thinks “will he kill me?”, “will he rape me?” Or “will he use me for sex?” Or “am I a human to him?”; whether it is a floating thought of father, brother, uncle, grandfather, friend, boyfriend or complete stranger.

Attire demonstrates volumes to others and has become a symbol of what to expect of one and how they should be treated by others based on the other person’s perspective. Business suits speak to an audience that success follows this individual. School uniforms properly worn announce an eager, studious & focused youth; and if worn shuffled then they are judged as disorganized and unassuming. From infancy til death a females attire can demand respect matched with natural leadership skills but if she is too business she is attempting to be a “male” opposed to a “leader”. If her clothes fit her frame in compliments then the expectation that she is using her body and sex as a weapon. If she wears a school uniform she attracts the male gaze who prefer the underaged. If she is in her crib there are individuals who find that vulnerability to be attractive as they play with clothes they should never touch. If a woman is comfortable in her sexuality and dresses up for herself, there is an expectation that she is only wearing her clothes for the male gaze only to entertain them; because they think the song is about them.

There seems to be a strong demographic of males that assume all female performed actions and words are from them like asking for assistance in a store to reach something because they lack height at that moment, for putting on lipgloss, for checking herself in the mirror, for being polite, for saying “thank you”, for saying “hello”, for ordering a cup of coffee, for feeling confident, for loving themselves, for exploring her sexuality, for sitting anywhere, for walking by, for being in public, for wearing a dress, for showing their ankles, for putting on makeup, for eating, for going to the gym, for breathing and probably for dying. There is a universal culture of unacceptable accepted behavior from the opposite gender like flashing their genitals and pursuing the female whether they intend to carry out rape or not, proceed to stroke themselves before females to demonstrate their sexual attraction to the female, stroke themselves & aim the juices at unsuspecting women on a train, assisting a female with the expectation of “well deserved” sex in return, pretending to care about an individual or pretend to be their friend with the expectation of sex in return & if it is not returned then the male is the victim, slapping the rear of an unsuspecting woman, the dismissal of a female saying “no” because she needs testosterone to express oneself and think for themselves, beating or raping a woman for not wanting to have sex with them or beating and killing her after they gang raped her, by following a woman for even a block or in a store or parking lot, yelling inappropriate comments in passing at the cattle property in heels or in flats or sneakers and sweats; it is the “females” job to entertain males.

It is the natural birthright of those who are the only ones able to give spirit a physical form, to be owned, give birth and be under control. Perhaps some females are ignorant to the true power they possess; that “all” males fear. The parade of trolls are easily triggered and battle with misogynistic weapons of expectations to invalidate someone else’s experiences; further demonstrating their lack in basic skills to listen and comprehend. It also enhances the concept that the one being invalidated, their opinion is irrelevant in comparison to the fragile feelings of those who need to be in control.

In a witnessed case scenario, a male approaches a woman to say “nice crotch” and likeminded males will agree it is an acceptable compliment or tell her she is lucky to even receive the compliment based on his opinion; either response is not acceptable. An Amazonian woman boards a train after a male flashes his penis full grown at her to demonstrate his attraction to a stranger and proceeds to follow her onto the train and sit across from her to steal her inner strength. The train car held more women and a hand full of men. She found her strength and began to vocally tell him off on how he should be ashamed of himself for taking his penis out at her and then following her onto the train. She continued to voice out what was happening and without hesitation women took a stand with her. Most of the males reacted as if she was overreacting and only ONE male told her she was brave. The perpetrator left the train car and after he absconded into the next car or his next victim; she was shaking but was carrying on with her day. Two women obviously dressed to enjoy themselves and the night in sequin short dresses are pursued by males. The women POLITELY turn the males down but continue to dance with each other. The males decide that physically separating the drinking friends is the easiest coercion to get sex from the women they chose even though they have already said no multiple times; their opinions are irrelevant.

A woman riding the train carrying many bags and a homeless male approaches and demands her to show him her vagina vulgarly; then pulls out his penis to proceed to stroke himself and aim it towards her on purpose. He amused himself. A woman walking by in a nice outfit whether she knows it or not receives a catcall; but if she does not respond to it the way the male has deemed to be to his liking she’s a shrew or a prude.

A woman wearing a skirt is an invitational excuse to males especially the shorter the length to treat a female however deemed. A woman is raped, the question immediately asked are “What was she wearing?”, “What did she say to encourage him to do it?”, as if males do not commit crimes without a woman providing a reason. She will be asked “Why were you on that street?”, “Why were you out late at night, early in the morning, going down that block in the afternoon?”. There are provided excuses to the perpetrator and less comfort for the victim. A woman walking by and a male deems he owns the right to slap her rear without permission. A woman wearing makeup is asking for attention.

A woman being a woman is begging for attention. Women are incapable of “knowing” when sex is desired on their part. Women can accept compliments but afraid to accept them. A woman into makeup is cat fishing. A woman not into makeup should put some on. A woman into fight training is not lady like. A woman who is not silent is problematic. A women conscious of her beauty is not being humble. A women conscious of her intelligence is not being humble and will be questioned of her intelligence; and then corrected without facts by testerical (yes it testicles and hysterical put together) speakers without being asked; because it is impossible for a women to be educated. The creature who walks between the physical and spiritual realm will be chained by a patriarchal society scared of her power; even some women become brainwashed to fear their own power.

“It’s not all men” is a common rhetoric yelped without listening to the experience. A common illness of the mind and make males the victim of the women; even when the woman is the victim. It is the responsibility of women for how males choose to act and if that is the case then stop fighting women who speak truth and lead; the sheep should follow its herder since they lack self control. The males yelling in their testerical screeches “it’s not all men” seem to respond from a deep guilt that leaves the idea that perhaps they have done the same thing that another has done. The male who sells the concept that they are a good guy demonstrate it by yelling to the rooftops instead of demonstrating it through their actions of themselves or checking other males.

The creature that can multitask effortlessly, manage households or kingdoms, support her lover, herself and loved ones with one hand is the one that is feared. Women walk between planes that males could only dream of. Women deserve respect. Women deserve to be heard. Women deserve a night out with friends without worrying about being drugged. Women deserve to cover up or show it all without fear of rape or mistreatment. Women deserve to wear makeup or not at all. Women deserve to learn how to fight and fend for themselves amongst their sisters. Women deserve not to be “valued” ONLY based on their looks. Women do not deserve to be discarded. Women hold the true definition of magic in between their legs and their hearts. The hips will separate itself to bring life into this world and then proceed to carry the weight of the world. Women are owed their respect. Women deserve to band together and create Themyscira. Most importantly, women are tired of the bullshit and are no longer going quiet into that good night anymore.