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How Childhood Neglect Impacts Adults
Today, I wanted to take the time to talk about something that is really important to me: childhood neglect and abuse. For the longest time in my life, I felt the need to justify what happened to me, to think "well, it's my fault", or "there's something wrong with me", or "my parents aren't terrible people maybe I'm just imagining my mistreatment". The thing is, the older I've gotten, the more I've learned of the complex impacts of childhood neglect and abuse. It's not always easy to detect because we are confused as kids; we don't know that what's being done to us is wrong. The families where this happens are sometimes the kinds of families that look alright from the outside world, but instead are deeply hurting. That's what my experience with childhood neglect and abuse was like. I was isolated in my room a lot, a witnessed physical abuse, and listened to arguments constantly. Even though my whole life I was trying so hard to just find my way, the thing is, my family never gave me the support I needed to succeed, so then I turned into this:
By Slgtlyscatt3redabout a year ago in Psyche
The Complexities of Co-Dependency
Have you ever met a person who couldn't do the simplest of tasks on their own? That person might even be you. There is always a deeper understanding of things like introverts, extroverts, the ego, etc., within society. The idea that someone doesn't like to be surrounded by noise isn't too uncommon. Just like the idea that an individual is their best drowning in a sea of people. Sometimes, you can struggle with an entirely different aspect of self. One that might even make you lose your own. Co-dependency.
By The Darkest Sunriseabout a year ago in Psyche
"The Interpretation of Dreams" by Sigmund Freud: A Journey into the Unconscious Mind
"The Interpretation of Dreams" by Sigmund Freud: A Journey into the Unconscious Mind "The Interpretation of Dreams" is not just a book; it is the foundation of modern psychology and a journey into the mysterious world of the unconscious. First published in 1899, this book revolutionized our understanding of dreams. Dreams are no longer seen as random or meaningless images; instead, they are glimpses into our hidden desires, fears, and experiences. Freud's writing is a blend of science, philosophy, and personal discovery. This book explains how dreams are formed, their connection to the unconscious mind, and how they reveal hidden truths through symbols. Although it can be challenging, for those interested in understanding the human mind, it is a feast for the intellect.
By Ikram Ullahabout a year ago in Psyche
You Weren’t Hard to Love — You Were Just Asking the Wrong People to Try
They made you feel like loving you was a chore. Like your needs were a burden. Your emotions were too loud. Your love was “too intense.” But here’s the truth: You weren’t hard to love. You just kept handing your heart to people who didn’t know how to hold it. --- ### (1. You Loved Deeply — And Expected Depth In Return) You didn’t want perfection. You didn’t need constant attention. You just wanted presence. Consistency. Safe space to be your full self — even on your messy days. That’s not too much. That’s *healthy.* --- ### (2. They Confused Emotional Maturity With Drama) You asked for honesty. They called it overthinking. You expressed hurt. They called it being dramatic. You needed clarity. They called it being “needy.” But none of that was too much. They were just emotionally unavailable. --- ### (3. You Were Teaching Love To People Who Didn’t Want To Learn) You gave examples. Explained how you felt. Held back your own pain just to protect theirs. You were teaching what should’ve come naturally. And teaching love is exhausting when the other person isn’t listening. --- ### (4. They Liked Your Light — But Didn’t Know How To Handle Your Shadows) They loved your laughter. Your support. Your energy. But the moment you got quiet, or tired, or anxious — they backed away. Not because you were difficult. But because they only knew how to love the *happy version* of you. --- ### (5. You Were Watering Relationships That Never Grew) You showed up. You forgave. You gave more chances than you gave yourself grace. And still — they didn’t grow. That’s not your failure. That’s their refusal. You can’t grow something when you’re the only one holding the watering can. --- ### (6. You Made Love Safe For Everyone But Yourself) You created emotional safety for others. Listened without judgment. Held space without conditions. But where was *your* space? Who held you when you fell apart? Being the safe space for everyone else left *you* unheld. --- ### (7. They Didn’t Want Real — They Wanted Easy) You brought truth to the table. Depth. Accountability. Healing. They weren’t ready for that. They wanted simple. Effortless. Love without work. But real love *requires* work. That’s why they left. Not because you were hard to love — but because you asked for something *real.* --- ### (8. You Started Loving Yourself — And They Called It Distance) The moment you stopped chasing? They said you changed. The moment you set boundaries? They called you cold. But you weren’t being distant. You were finally loving yourself the way they never did. --- ### (9. Your Love Wasn’t Meant For People Who Needed You To Shrink) The right people won’t flinch at your depth. They won’t ask you to be smaller, quieter, easier. They’ll match your energy. They’ll meet you where you are — not where it's convenient for them. --- ### (10. One Day, Someone Will Thank You For Loving This Way) They’ll see the way you care. How you notice the little things. How you listen not just with your ears, but your *heart.* And they’ll say, “Where have you been?” And you’ll know — **You weren’t too much. You were just never truly met before.** --- ### 🌿 Final Thought You weren’t asking for too much. You were asking the wrong people. People who didn’t know how to stay. How to listen. How to love someone who feels deeply. (. . .) But here’s what you need to remember: **The love you give is rare. The way you show up is sacred. And the day someone meets you fully — You’ll never have to explain your heart again.** Because they won’t run. They’ll rise. Right beside you.
By SHADOW-WRITESabout a year ago in Psyche
What It Means to Be Seen
What It Means to Be Seen By [ Muhammad Saqib] For most of my life, I felt like wallpaper. Present, but not remarkable. Visible, but unnoticed. People would pass by me the way they pass by streetlights acknowledging only the function, not the flickering beneath the surface.
By Muhammad Saqibabout a year ago in Psyche
Hangxiety, are you worth it?
I've stopped thinking in black and white. Right and Wrong have left the building. Instead, the era of nuance has arrived. Measured responses, figuring this out in proportion to how I experience this life. And it has made things so much harder, suddenly there is no All or Nothing, only a constant array of Somethings.
By Kirstyn Brookabout a year ago in Psyche
