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Overcoming Boredom: When The Sparks Go Out . Top Story - October 2025.
No different to how we often associate loneliness with being alone, even though there is a wide contrast between these two different states that a human being can endure. Therefore, boredom (and being really, really bored) is often associated with having "nothing to do" - where boredom is actually a disconnect between who we are and where we want to be at a particular point in time. There is a gap, a void, a yearning of sorts - yet you are in a garden with endless weeds to pull, instead of being in a garden with flowers to observe, water, and enjoy. That is boredom. Dullness. No spark.
By Justine Crowleyabout a year ago in Psyche
The Psychological Art of Winning Women’s Hearts
Introduction For as long as humans have loved, they have wondered what makes two hearts align. The art of attraction — especially between men and women — has been a subject of poetry, philosophy, and science alike. Yet, despite the endless volumes of dating advice, attraction remains one of the most misunderstood human experiences.
By Stefano D'angelloabout a year ago in Psyche
How We Are Scientifically Becoming Dumber
Have you ever Thought... Wow... People Seem To Becoming Dumber? Well... It Seems like this is Actually a Reality. Now, Nearly Two Years Ago, I wrote an Article about How IQ is Not a Static Trait.
By H.E. Dr. Cody Dakota Wooten, COIE, DFM, DHMabout a year ago in Psyche
Psychology of Why We Hide Our Feelings
Eleanor Hughes had mastered the art of pretending. To her friends, she was cheerful and composed. To her colleagues, she was confident and calm. Even to herself, she appeared fine. But every night, when she returned to her small flat in Edinburgh and the world fell quiet, she felt like a room filled with unsaid words. She often wondered why it was so hard to be honest about what she felt. Not with strangers, not even with those who loved her most. Somewhere along the way, she had learned that feelings were better hidden than seen. It started early. When she cried as a child, her mother would say gently, “Don’t let them see you weak.” When she grew older, friends would joke, “You’re too sensitive.” And when her first relationship ended, she smiled and said, “I’m fine,” even when her heart felt splintered. By the time she reached her thirties, hiding her emotions had become second nature. She smiled through disappointment, laughed through loneliness, and nodded through anxiety. She didn’t lie — she just edited her truth. One evening, after a long day, Eleanor found herself sitting in a café near the university. It was raining, and the soft rhythm of drops against the window made her feel safe. Across from her sat a psychology student named Daniel, a regular customer who had become a quiet friend. “You always seem calm,” he said. “Do you ever get angry?” She laughed, surprised by the question. “Of course not. I just… handle things differently.” Daniel smiled knowingly. “That’s what people say when they’ve forgotten how to show what they feel.” His words lingered long after he left. Forgotten how to show what they feel. It sounded strange, but maybe it was true. That night, she searched online for something she never thought she’d look up: Why do people hide their emotions? She learned that it wasn’t weakness — it was survival. The brain learns to protect us. When showing emotion once led to pain, embarrassment, or rejection, the mind remembers. It builds walls disguised as strength. It teaches us that silence is safer than honesty. But safety, Eleanor realized, can be lonely. Over the next few weeks, she began to notice how everyone around her did the same. Her colleague, Mark, joked about everything, never serious for a second. Her friend Clara smiled through a failing marriage. Even strangers on the train wore expressions that hid more than they revealed. It struck her that the world wasn’t full of strong people — it was full of people pretending not to hurt. One afternoon, Eleanor sat again with Daniel. She decided to test herself. “Can I tell you something?” she asked. “Of course,” he said. “I’m not always okay. Sometimes I wake up feeling… hollow. Like I’m living my life on mute.” He didn’t try to fix it. He just nodded, and for the first time in years, she felt lighter. There was something strangely powerful about saying what she truly felt out loud. It didn’t make her weak. It made her real. That night, she began writing. Not a story, not an essay — just her thoughts. She wrote about loneliness, about masks, about the quiet ache of pretending. Words poured out like water that had been trapped behind a dam for too long. She realized that hiding feelings doesn’t make them disappear. It just buries them until they reshape themselves as exhaustion, anger, or sadness. They demand to be seen, one way or another. As days passed, Eleanor became more open — not with everyone, but with those who mattered. She told her mother that she had been struggling. She told her friends she needed rest. She even apologized to herself for all the times she had stayed silent. And slowly, life began to feel different. Not easier, but truer. She noticed that when she shared honestly, others did too. Conversations grew deeper. Friendships became softer. There was no longer a need to impress, only to understand. She began to see emotion not as a weakness, but as connection. Every tear, every tremor in the voice, every unguarded laugh — it was proof of being alive. In her journal, she wrote a line that would stay with her forever: “Hiding what we feel doesn’t protect us from pain. It protects us from healing.” Months later, Eleanor published a small essay online titled The Psychology of Why We Hide Our Feelings. It spread across social media. People wrote to her from across Europe, thanking her for saying what they could never put into words. She smiled when she read their messages. Maybe, she thought, this is how change begins — one honest sentence at a time. That evening, she went to the same café and watched the rain fall again. For the first time in her life, she didn’t feel the need to smile through it. She just let it be. And in that quiet, she finally understood — we don’t hide our emotions because we are weak. We hide them because the world taught us to. But when we unlearn that lesson, when we dare to be seen as we are, that’s when we truly begin to live.
By LUNA EDITHabout a year ago in Psyche
The Art of Recovering Your Spirit in Levelling Up Your Life
Being curious, and maybe even a little unsure or sceptical as to what recovering the spirit (also known as the soul) is all about is absolutely understandable and healthy right now. For others, this idea can be triggering, as it is easier to suppress our unpleasant feelings, emotions and traumas - than it is to deal with them by feeling the pain in order to begin to transmute them. It takes some courage, bravery, and surrendering to what is in order to soften and to heal any intangible wound/s that no longer serve us.
By Justine Crowleyabout a year ago in Psyche
what happens when you quit your phone
your phone changes your brain as the average American touches their phone 2 600 times per day and this constant scrolling has altered your brain's neurology so what would happen to your brain and body if you tried to quit your phone?
By Mahboubeh Fallahiabout a year ago in Psyche
Sleep Talking: Somniloquy
The Night Your Mouth Betrayed You Let’s be honest — few things are more terrifying than waking up to your partner whispering sweet nothings in their sleep… except when the sweet nothing is your name — and you’re not the one they’re dreaming about.
By Omasanjuwa Ogharandukunabout a year ago in Psyche
Healing and Recovery Through Art
For centuries, some of the most famous artists have been victims of trauma and violence—especially childhood ones. While I am of the firm opinion that no human should ever be traumatized by another human being, there is no denying: Trauma, tragedy, sadness, and mental anguish are beautiful muses. These horrifying things have been the muse of many a famous artist throughout history.
By Hope Martinabout a year ago in Psyche
Rewire your brain
Have you ever tried meditating and thought, "Is this actually doing anything?" Maybe you've heard that meditation helps with stress, focus, or emotional balance, but it just felt like sitting in silence, waiting for something to happen.
By Mahboubeh Fallahiabout a year ago in Psyche
