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Advice and tips on managing mental health, maintaining a positive outlook and becoming your happiest self.
How To Learn Faster?
Whether you're gearing up for a new school year or diving into a fresh skill like learning a language or an instrument, discovering effective learning strategies can be a game-changer. But is there a more efficient way to learn quickly and retain that knowledge? Let's explore some research-backed techniques to optimize your learning prosses.
By Mariam Fathalrahman2 years ago in Psyche
I Don't Know What to Do
Chasing the Right Formula For as long as I can remember, I’ve been obsessed with finding the perfect formula for success and happiness. Whether it was in my career, relationships, or personal growth, I sought out rules and guidelines to follow. I spent hours reading self-help books, attending seminars, and trying to implement strategies that promised to lead me to the "right" path. For example, I once meticulously planned my career trajectory based on a set of rules that seemed foolproof. But despite my best efforts, I found myself often disillusioned when things didn’t go as planned. The constant pursuit of this idealized formula left me feeling more stressed than satisfied.
By Horace Wasmore2 years ago in Psyche
How Can You Change Someone Opinion?
Do you ever find yourself in a debate where, despite your persuasive arguments and all the evidence supporting your position, you are unable to win? Is there a methodical approach to effectively persuade someone and alter their viewpoint?
By Mariam Fathalrahman2 years ago in Psyche
Most of the time, things are not as complicated as imagined, we just didn't think of it.
1. The humble great man A father took his son to visit Van Gogh's house. After seeing the small wooden bed and the cracked leather shoes, the son asked his father, "Wasn't Van Gogh a millionaire?" The father replied, "Van Gogh was a poor man who didn't even marry a wife." Another year later, the father took his son to Denmark to visit Andersen's former home, and the son was confused and asked: "Dad, didn't Andersen live in the palace?" How did he end up in this attic?" His father replied, "Andersen was a shoemaker's son. He lived here." The father was a sailor who traveled each year from port to port on the Atlantic Ocean, and his son, Edombragg, was the first black journalist in the world to win a Pulitzer Prize. Twenty years later, reflecting on his childhood, Itombragg said: "In addition to being very poor, our family was black, and both of our parents lived by hard labor. For a long time, I thought that black people of our humble status could never make it. It was my father who introduced me to Van Gogh and Hans Christian Andersen. It was my father who taught me that black people are not inferior. These two experiences showed me that God does not despise black people." The rich are not necessarily great, and the poor are not necessarily humble. God is fair, he spread the opportunity to everyone in front of the humble also have the opportunity. Inferiority is the nail of the soul, if not removed, it will always torture. 2. Be nice to your opponents The zoo recently brought in an extremely fierce leopard from abroad for human viewing. In order to better entertain the guest from afar, the zookeepers prepared exquisite meals for it every day, and specially opened up a small field for its activities and play. However, he was unhappy and listless all day long. Maybe you've just arrived in a foreign country and you're a little homesick? Who knows that after more than two months, the jaguar is still the same, and even does not want to eat food. Seeing it is about to fail, the director of the garden panicked, hurriedly invited veterinarians to multiple diagnosis and treatment, the examination results are not very serious disease. In desperation, someone suggested that it would be better to put a few jaguars on the grass, perhaps there is some hope. It turned out that people accidentally found that whenever a tiger passed by, the jaguar always stood up angry, ready to fight. Sure enough, the resident jaguar joined, and the jaguar immediately became active and vigilant, and restored its former prestige. Big truth: Only with an opponent in life can we always be motivated to maintain a strong fighting spirit and constantly tap our own potential. Be kind to your opponent, for his presence is like a shot in the arm; Thank your opponent, he will make you a formidable "jaguar". 3. Broken cans In the past, there was a man carrying a very beautiful jar on the way, walking, accidentally, "snap", the jar fell on a large stone on the side of the road, and suddenly became pieces. Passers-by saw it, and sighed, all regretting that such an exquisite jar had broken into pieces. But the man who broke the jar acted as if nothing had happened, did not turn his head, did not even look at the jar, and went on his way. At this time the passers-by are very surprised, why this person is so free and easy, what a beautiful jar ah, broken what a pity! There are even doubts about the man's sanity. Afterwards, someone asked the man why he did this? The man said, "Why linger on a broken pot?" Big Truth: Freedom is a kind of super enjoyment of getting rid of loss and pain. Lost is lost, why want to be empty? If nostalgia works, why keep trying? 4. A mirror A young man is at the peak of his life was diagnosed with leukemia, boundless despair suddenly enveloped his heart, he felt that life has no meaning, refused to accept any treatment. One late autumn afternoon, he escaped from the hospital and wandered aimlessly through the streets. Suddenly, a slightly hoarse and unusually bold music attracted him. Not far away, a blind old man is playing a shiny instrument, playing emotively towards a few people. What is also striking is that the blind man has a mirror hanging in his arms! The young man approached curiously, and when the blind man had finished playing, he asked, "Excuse me, but is this mirror yours?" "Yes, my instrument and my mirror are my two treasures! Music is the most beautiful thing in the world, I often rely on this to amuse myself, can feel how beautiful life is..." "But what does this mirror mean to you?" 'he asked eagerly. The blind man smiled and said, "I hope for a miracle one day, and I also believe that one day I will be able to see my own face with this mirror, so I carry it with me wherever I go, whenever I go." The heart of the leukemia patient was shocked: a blind man still loves life so much, and I... He suddenly understood, and calmly returned to the hospital for treatment, although each chemotherapy he would feel the pain of death, but since then he has never run away. He was strong enough to endure the painful treatment, and finally miraculously, he recovered his health. Since then, he also has two precious things in life: positive and optimistic attitude and standing faith. People who want to grasp their own life and destiny must have the quality of optimism and strong, because optimism and strong is the helmsman in charge of the course of life, is to grasp the power of the boat of fate. 5. You're useless A man from the State of Lu was good at weaving straw sandals, and his wife was good at weaving white silk. He wants to move to Yue. His friend said to him, "If you go to the state of Yue, you will be poor." 'Why? "Straw sandals are used for walking in clothes, but the Yue people are used to walking barefoot; White silk is used to make hats, but the Yue people are used to letting their hair down. Is it possible, by virtue of your strengths, to go where you are not needed, that you may not be poor?" Big truth: If a person wants to exert his expertise, he must be suitable for the needs of the social environment. Expertise loses its value if it is divorced from the needs of the social environment. Therefore, we should decide our own actions according to the needs of society and better play our own expertise.
By zhanhaijun2 years ago in Psyche
Why We Lie
Lying is as ancient as humanity itself, deeply embedded in our social interactions and survival strategies. One famous experiment by behavioral economist Dan Ariely sheds light on the mechanics of dishonesty. Participants in his study were given a set of math problems and promised a dollar for each correct answer. They were instructed to shred their answers after the time was up, but the shredder was fake, allowing researchers to compare reported answers with actual performance. Surprisingly, about 70% of people cheated, inflating their results. The average participant claimed to have solved six problems correctly, though they had only solved four. This discrepancy highlights a fundamental truth: people are more willing to lie when the stakes are low, but they do so with a calculated precision to avoid suspicion.
By Horace Wasmore2 years ago in Psyche
The Turmoil Inside
I've always been fascinated by the workings of the human mind. It's a labyrinth of thoughts, emotions, and perceptions, each intertwining to create our unique reality. But as intriguing as it is, the mind can also be a source of turmoil, reflecting distorted images that often cloud our true selves. My journey towards mastering my thoughts has been a quest to understand and eventually control this enigmatic mirror within me.
By Horace Wasmore2 years ago in Psyche
My Dear Paranoia
In the quiet moments of my day, when the world seems to pause, I often find myself battling a relentless stream of negative thoughts and emotions. It’s like having an uninvited guest who constantly whispers doubts and fears into my ear. However, over time, I’ve come to realize that these thoughts, no matter how real they seem, are just that—thoughts. They hold no power over me unless I let them.
By Horace Wasmore2 years ago in Psyche
Why Am I Not Successful?
Growing up, I was always told that hard work was the key to success. My parents and teachers constantly emphasized the importance of studying hard, working hard, and giving my best effort in everything I did. The message was clear: if I worked hard enough, success would naturally follow. However, as I navigated through various stages of my life, I started to realize that this wasn't always the case.
By Horace Wasmore2 years ago in Psyche
Who Am I, Really?
Have you ever found yourself wondering, "Who am I, really?" I've been there, too. As I delved into the fascinating world of personality psychology, I discovered that our personalities are much more complex than they appear on the surface. Today, I want to share what I've learned about the different layers of our personalities and how they shape who we are.
By Horace Wasmore2 years ago in Psyche
Do Video Games Make You Violent?
While it is true that the top five video games at the moment are all shooter games, politicians frequently accuse video games of contributing to some of the violence in our society. However, do the firearms in these games actually cause hostility in real life? Do violent video games cause violence? The claim that video games instill violence in children is one of the principal criticisms leveled against them.
By Mariam Fathalrahman2 years ago in Psyche
