My Ideal Man

I rarely or if ever divulge details about my love life, but this story is perfect for me to do just that. It's been nearly six years since I was in a long-term relationship and at one point, was engaged to be married. Dating has drastically changed over the years, but as for me, I'm still looking for that special man to spend the rest of my life with. As someone who has Autism, it has been difficult for me find a man to date or be in a relationship with, because some assume that my disability is a burden to them. When they hear the word disability, they assume that they'll be taking care of me forever. Despite my disability, I have a job and live a regular life. So no, I'm NOT a burden. My expectations of finding an ideal partner aren't outrageous or unreasonable. Once you have finished reading this story, you'll know a little bit about the things I expect from a man.

Age

The very first boyfriend I dated was 25 years older than me. He was a very handsome and sweet man and for context, I was 24 at the time. I'm open to be in a relationship with a man who's a bit older than me. If they have a 20-25 year age difference, that's also acceptable for me. I love older men. In fact, I'm attracted to them because they're more handsome, romantic, and smarter in my own personal opinion.

Race

I don't have a personal preference when it comes to a man's race, dating wise. I've dated mostly white men, but open to dating men from different backgrounds and ethnicities. As long as you're treating me well, you're in my good graces.

Political views

Politics are a touchy subject for many people. However, my potential partner has to have the same political beliefs as I do. For example, I'm a liberal who cares about the rights of all people, including the LGBTQ+ community (of course), women, the disabled, and so forth, or what Republicans would refer to as woke. I've been attending Pride parades for the last several years and I believe that all LGBTQ+ people shouldn't justify their own existence to others and they should have the right to be themselves. They also deserve to be protected, loved, and supported. I respect and support others using whatever pronouns they so please.

Appearance

I'm making an effort to be in better shape, but it's so hard for me to do it due to my hectic work schedule and other obligations. However, I'm determined to improve my physical appearance. The most I do at the moment is walking regularly and sometimes lifting weights. If you're very muscular, but have a bit of a belly and work out, I'm fine with that. I also love men with six pack abs, which is a plus. I would love to have not only a relationship, but someone who wants me to go to the gym with him. That would really motivate me to take my appearance even more seriously. I personally and honestly wouldn't date someone who's overweight or morbidly obese. It's just not very appealing to me and I'm just being honest about it. I care about my own health and well-being and I expect my potential guy to do the same.

I love men with tattoos, beards, piercings, and bald heads. A man with beautiful eyes is one of my biggest turn ons. A cute smile is also attractive to me. A man who has beautiful eyes and a cure smile gets my heart pumping. As far as height, I don't care because many people are so picky about that, which I never understood at all.

Hobbies

My hobbies include playing video games, baseball, and writing. I love my hobbies and I don't plan on giving them up in order to appease a potential partner. I would never ask a man to give up his own hobbies. For example, if you love doing drag, go for it, because it's considered as art and entertainment. I would love to seek new hobbies, too while enjoying my current ones.

Religious beliefs

In one of my previous stories, I explained how it's acceptable to be both gay and Christian. You can read the full story in the link below. We shouldn't have to choose between accepting who we are and believing in God. If you're of a different faith, it's not a problem with me.

https://vocal.media/pride/i-can-be-both

Other details about me

I don't smoke, drink, or go to parties. Many men avoid me because of those three reasons. I don't need to do those things in order enjoy myself and have a great time. If you drink casually and responsibly, that's fine. I'm allergic to cigarette smoke and the smoke from weed. I like going out places sometimes, but I rather spend an evening by binge watching a TV show or playing video games. I love watching baseball and football. I'm okay with a man who doesn't like sports. However, baseball is my main vice. Plus, I'm a former cosplayer but we can go to conventions together. I'm a huge nerd and always have been since childhood. Finally, I love Halloween, so I love dressing up, eating candy, and watching scary movies. I just want a man who will accept me for the person I am and look past my Autism diagnosis.

I'm nearing 40, so I'm not going to give up on love, at least not yet. I'm very hopeful that I'll be able to find that perfect match. Maybe it could be you.

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