Under the radar
A memory about what it was like to be a woman in science, and how I seemed to lose at both to end up here now... made into a free verse poem.
While building a small campfire outside
To boil a pot of water and make a cup of coffee,
I'm waking up and brushing jumbled thoughts.
My current life is permanent camping, living off the grid.
I used to work at marine science camp, in Florida
It would be a little more convenient than here
If it was not for exhausting schedule (ugh)
And communal living (double ugh).
There, some people thought I'm a diva,
Not capable of surviving when the going gets tough.
How wrong were they.
As the thick smoke over pine needles and bark, all damp,
Gives way to cheerful flames,
I imagine talking to one of these people --
Right here, by the fire.
John has been dead since 2010,
But it doesn't matter. Not on quantum level.
"I am saying this because I'm still hurting;
Your opinion mattered to me.
You were the person I respected,
But you did not respect me.
Well, maybe you did -- but why did I hear the rumors
About you, scoffing: "This gal would rather paint her toenails
Than do science?"
Yes, I painted my toenails, -- and fingernails , too;
I wore makeup and nice clothing,
Even though most others didn't.
And I was really into science.
I'm sorry you believed women scientists must be sloppy.
My English was better than theirs --
The jocks who passed the killer swim test
And knew little of science or even spelling…
But let's be kind and say they were dyslexic.
Do you remember boat docking
On that windy day in spring 2008?
I loved driving boats.
I could be one with the boat and feel her
The way a horseman feels a horse.
You were supervising the interns who demonstrated their skills.
The weather conditions and the angle
Between the dock you were standing on
And the flattop I was maneuvering
Were unfavorable, but I was dead-certain
That I can dock the boat successfully.
"You're never gonna make it!" you yelled, "Go back!"
"I can do it," I replied -- and did.
You never said a kind word about it,
Because I disobeyed the order and proved you wrong.
That gal with painted toenails
Made a good captain.
Do you want to know why I was so flamboyant?
Maybe you don't,
Because it will prove you wrong again.
Remember that night in November 1995?
Yes, that long ago.
My first visit to the Camp, and the USA.
You were the science education director.
I was blown away by marine science, and the hands-on manner
In which it was taught there.
I worked hard towards my goal to become a scientist --
An eighteen-year-old, ambitious, hard-working.
I was an ugly duckling,
And didn't paint my nails back then.
That night, between 2 and 3 a.m.
I was at the back porch of the dining hall,
Working on my report on dune ecosystems,
Going out of my way to make it shine.
The lights were out at the whole camp,
And the only lit place was the dining hall.
I broke the curfew
And worked through most of the night,
Because I was so darn into it,
And wanted my passion to take me high in life.
Yes, I have an ego, and back it up with action.
You walked in on me unexpectedly
And headed towards the coffee machine.
You waved your hand at me and walked out.
You didn’t get me busted,
I thank you for that.
Maybe you were in an office trailer that night,
Also working on a science project,
Pushing the deadline -- and yourself.
Maybe that encounter at the dining hall
Was the reason you OK'ed me being hired
As a science instructor later, in 2007.
I thank you for that, too -- many times,
From the bottomless pit of my aching heart.
It hurts me that you were disappointed
In what I became, or appeared to become.
Oh you didn't have to tell me -- I read people:
What they say is just a cover on the book.
So yes, I dyed my brown hair blonde,
I was all made up,
And wore the striped leg warmers,
Which were bugging the hell out of you.
(That's another rumor I had heard --
Nothing you say is a secret at the Camp!)
You don't understand,
Because it's easier to pursue a career if you are a guy.
But I entered this world in a woman's body --
And I hate it, hate it, hate it.
I hate being a woman.
You have no idea how many times
I had to hear morons of both genders
Telling me I won't go anywhere in science,
Because girls are supposed to do different things;
How hard male chauvinists had tried
To block my way towards my PhD.
I failed and they succeeded. Fucking assholes.
You didn't walk in my shoes --
And I'm certain you wouldn't want to,
Especially when I remember
That you called mine “ankle-breakers”.
"Flexibility is the way," you once said,
Meaning adjustment to the crazy schedule
The whole camp was running on.
Then, I hope, you understand
That I had to be flexible adjusting myself
To other types of craziness.
I was learning to "fly below the radar"
And be at least as pretty
As my IQ is intimidating
To the males who want to believe that women are dumb.
When you were alive it would be inappropriate
To tell you how I passed my final exam
To get my Master's degree in environmental management.
Now that you're dead it's OK.
You won't be surprised to know
That I wanted only an A+ and a "red" diploma with honors;
I was determined to get it.
Just as Bruce Lee said, beware of the fighter
Who won't quit until he does what he decided to:
If he is set on biting your ear off,
He is very likely to.
I am that kind of a fighter.
I presented my project in front of a few professors --
All men in their fifties, looking stern and worn.
They kept asking me questions, hoping
To find a weak spot in my presentation,
But instead I hit a few of theirs.
They got on my case and grilled me for an hour
But I knew the subject well,
And was getting bored.
It was time to take the big guns out…
I dropped the chalk and bent down to pick it up,
Giving them a little bit of a leg show
Under my knee-long gray skirt,
Letting them sweat and drool a bit.
I'm sure their eyes wandered off the blackboard
Towards something they were not supposed to see, but hoped to.
Guess what, they all ran out of questions!
I got what I came for, and worked hard for.
No one cares if a girl is a genius;
All they care for is you-know-what.
I realize you are an exception
And you must be as disgusted as I was,
But you are not a woman.
You don't know what it's like
To work twice as hard as an Olympian athlete
Only to get half of the reward a lazy ass receives, --
And to be attractive, too --
Otherwise male egos will crush you if they can.
Yes, you were a normal person,
That's why you stood out --
But it never occurred to you
That my makeup is my war paint;
That outings in Key West with my drinking buddies
Were some form of intensive care.
You thought I was happy-go-lucky?
Wrong. I was very stressed.
It's "damned if you do, damned if you don't" for most women:
If she's smart, she's ostracized,
Often lonely, without income or recognition.
But if she's pretty she gets cat-called,
And everyone believes she has no brains,
Even though she gets her "cut" in a sneaky way,
Having to swallow her pride and hide her real self.
I've been both ways. You've seen it.
I gave you some insider info,
And now you have no excuse
To think I an unworthy
And you made a mistake
To have me come work at the Camp.
Maybe if you still have any doubts and don't believe me
When I say I totally get out of my way
To be a noble, intelligent, classy person --
Then go ahead and pick a woman's body
For your next incarnation.
I want to be your friend, so I advise you strongly
Against it. Please don't do it!
You'll be bummed.
But you may disregard my warning
And go explore the challenge --
That's what scientists often do.
Good luck.
Before you go I want you to know:
I haven't given up on science completely.
I did respect you, and I enjoyed working with you.
The effort you put in your students, me included
Is not wasted.
I'm still that girl who stays up 'till morning
To excel in her work, her passion --
The girl you silently supported, and it gave her hope.
Remember that you did, and rest in peace."
May 12, 2016.
About the Creator
Nica Breeze
I started writing fairy-tales before I could spell the letters right, at age 6. My fiction and poetry are about one’s private world and love-hate relationship with reality.
I emigrated to America from Eastern Europe, found home in Montana.
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