Pt 1.
My whole left arm is dedicated to you.
to us.
the sun and the moon.
the pot and the lace
and now this:
a pile of stones
stacked to commemorate a moment that says:
"something happened here".
and lest you forget the cross and infinity symbol etched across my lift ring finger.
Isn't that more significant than
the white dress I wore for 2 hours
nine years ago?
Or the vows we wrote
that we didn't know
we couldn't keep
because they weren't ever.
even. attainable.
What says "forever"
better than a tattoo?
The ink is on my skin
is in my skin.
it is my skin.
it has been grafted to me
like rewritten DNA
And you. you and me.
we're apart of each other
and in each other
we rewrote the DNA in us to make
our littles.
That transcends love.
That transcends ecstacy.
That transcends the nine year contract
we've forged.
that. is forever.
So that's what you are to me.
a tattoo upon my heart and within my soul. literally and figuratively with me for all time.
even when promises are broken
and covenants aren't kept
when the tattoos fade to blobs of ink
the intent along with the memory of it
will prevail
And when the lines on my face are more defined
than the ones on my arm
we'll still be
people don't get married for the promise of today
but nine years later and that's all I know.
I can't give you tomorrow but I can give you a kind of forever that means more than any promise of the future could.
I don't know what else I can do.
it's literally everything I have.
And it's all yours.
Pt. 2
"Were you ever sexually attracted to me?"
Not in the way you want.
But in the only way I feel attraction.
At least... I think
Now I'm not sure.
Your eyes water.
I can feel you close off next to me
and though we are practically touching,
you feel a million miles away.
But I haven't done anything wrong.
Am I wrong?
My first thought is: What can I do to be different for you?
And I swear I would if I could
But I can't tell you anything you want to hear because what if...
"You've never had sex with me for you"
Oh. I didn't know that.
"Did you ever have sex with her for you?"
I don't know. I don't remember.
Pt. 3
Do I blow us up or bleed to death internally?
Does an explosion do more damage than an implosion?
Who hurts more in each occurrence?
And why am I using these questions as the basis for which decision to make?
Cause I don't love myself enough
to believe an implosion is worse.
Pt.4
I'm gay
and it's all your fault.
Because you pushed me out of the closet
when you told the world you supported your
pansexual wife.
Before I was ready.
Before I knew.
When it was just an inkling.
That inkling was enough for me
The wondering and questioning was satisfied by the tiny space I made for it in my closet.
At least there, it could finally exist with the other parts of me I'm unsure of and it could get to know me there and I could try it on in privacy. See how it fits and what I look like with it on.
But the tiny space I made feels too small now
and my closet is forcing things out
And that's all because it needs room for this new thing that I didn't prepare enough space for because I didn't know I needed to until you...
came out for me.
Pt.5
So what now?
Stop pushing me out of this marriage.
Nothing has to change.
I don't want it to.
Panic Attack.
You hold me while I try to breathe.
But I can't.
A life without you...a life where I am the reason our kids don't have what I always believed was the standard...
I can't even make myself think of the possibilities.
And I don't want to... that's the things.
So why all of a sudden does it feel like I don't have a choice?
Why are you trying to make this choice for me?
Stop pushing me out of this marriage.
I didn't promise forever with you because I couldn't keep my hands off of you.
I didn't say, "I do" because you were some kind of sex god.
I never needed that and I don't need that now.
Why has our marriage been diminished to whatever sexual preferences we have?
I hate that.
I hate that wanting to have sex with a woman over a man means I should leave my husband.
I hate the word husband.
You aren't that. Not just that. My partner. My best fucking friend.
The decision to be with you was rooted in a trust and safety and mutual life path. It was grown in laughter and writing songs and the "green uvula connection". It was strengthened through trials and tears. It was solidified by our children's mirror like gaze. It is held together by all of these things and bound not by the license we signed or the witnesses that can attest to the promises made but by our respect and admiration and comfort in one another.
Who fucking cares about sex?
I know you do. And I'm sorry.
I'm sorry your perception of my perception of you does not align with what you always believed the standard was. I'm sorry I'm not who I was... who I thought I was. I'm sorry the idea of what we had is not what we have. I'm so damn sorry for all of the doubt and worry and insecurity I have sewed. And I'm sorry that no amount of affirmation can affirm.
But I'll keep telling you ok?
And I'll keep showing you.
And I'll keep being honest to myself and to us.
So stop pushing me out of this marriage.
ok?
About the Creator
Sam Hawk
I am a queer, adhd, autistic, creative writer. I like to write fantasy and romance fiction, but also comedic relief on real life topics I think a lot of us out there can connect over.
Let's connect!
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