Share the desire and leave it to the right person

01.

One normal morning, my friend and I were walking on the road while making small talk. When I saw my friend's head down, for a moment, I suddenly didn't want to go on.

"What's wrong?" My friend asked me while holding his cell phone, the page of which showed a group chat.

I said, "Nothing, let's go."

Remember this incident is not because of pretentiousness, but from this incident to start thinking about a problem.

Why is it that despite being an acquaintance and feeling that the topic you are sharing is not boring, others are still not interested in what you have to say?

Everyone has a desire to share, but not everyone is willing to listen. The threshold of listening desire is often higher than the threshold of sharing desire.

The reason is that everyone is concerned with himself first and the people and things around him second.

A hundred rivers go east to the sea, and a trickle of water flows into a river that has been formed despite the crowded waves.

People are the same.

To examine the existence and the reality of its emptiness, to follow its desires to see its will, micro row its words, and split the opposite, to actually, expensive to get its finger, closed and split, to its benefit.

Regarding external objects, people are accustomed to repeatedly sculpting things they already know, while abandoning things they don't.

It is not an easy thing to get the attention of others.

This is the normal situation on earth.

02.

The desire to listen from the heart is the luxury of human interaction.

It is impossible for everyone to be interested in what you have to say. Because the desire to listen is never natural, it comes from a relationship that exists only in the context of unreserved giving and extreme understanding.

The object of listening is divided into two parts, the lover and the confidant.

The preference between lovers is inherent.

Zweig's "Letter from a Strange Woman," writes about love and devotion to a person to the extreme.

"You are the love of my life, but you have never known who I am, and loving you has nothing to do with you."

There may not be such an emotion in the world other than affection.

This seems to tell us something, that love is a part of life's existence, a witness to its existence. If you love someone, you love them all.

The book ends with this: "I don't blame you, I love you, with burning affection, forgetful by nature, at first sight."

On the other hand, a soulmate who knows each other will always have infinite patience with each other.

The mountains and rivers are not heavy enough, but heavy enough to meet a soulmate.

The ultimate understanding requires the ultimate empathy.

The highest level of ancient soulmates is: to know each other in life, to follow each other in death, to live and die.

03.

In the floating world, people are busy responding, busy living, busy dealing with all kinds of problems.

Everyone is very nervous.

We always want our voices to be heard, we want to be noticed, so compulsive sharing becomes a kind of self-touching.

But the existence of the spiritual world is not supposed to be justified by whether or not it is heard by everyone.

Sometimes we understand the secret of communication, but we do not find the joy of communication in it, or even exhaust ourselves physically and mentally to get the so-called response.

Life is short, and the fundamental purpose of the interaction is not to please others but to make yourself whole.

To be noticed, or not to be noticed, to be responded to, or to be ignored. In the end, what have we gained and what have we lost in it?

To borrow a phrase from "The Earth Out of Order" to answer, "The only way to avoid madness is to do your best to hold yourself together."

The internal consumption of emotions is like a container that keeps spilling water, and when the container is empty, our heart is also empty.

Some people survive in an empty shell, while others choose to break out of the cocoon.

The desire to share should only be reserved for the right people.

Instead of struggling with what you think is the value of your existence, losing yourself like the main character in the story, and ending up debauched and mentally deranged, you should use such energy to please yourself.

So, promise me that from now on, sharing desire is only reserved for those you think are worthy.

Just be yourself and don't look back.

You have to light the lamp in your world, and don't worry, those who are willing to understand will come naturally.