May 21, 2021, marked 13 years since the passing of my younger brother. People like to pretend that time heals all wounds. But for those who are beginning their passage through grief following the loss of a loved one, I would like to offer the words of the chorus below because they are truer than anyone is willing to admit. Sometimes remembering the deceased will feel like reopening a painful wound. At other times it will be a welcomed comfort. I have found that learning to accept both scenarios is the only way to move through my own grief.
Poetry has been an incredible emotional outlet for me over the years, even before my brother’s death. I think of songwriting particularly as a way of releasing whatever is on my mind. Whether it is grief, anger, joy, or excitement, I can let it go in a song and not hold onto it. If I give it away it no longer belongs entirely to me. It belongs to everyone, and that makes the weight of things much easier to bare.
Brother
V1:
Take me to the ocean
I want to be buried in
The deep end of the tide
Where ships on the horizon
Sail into forever
Beneath an early morning sky
Waves crash around me
Rolling back to the shore
Pull me down in the undertow
And it don’t mean anything
Else except I’m not ever
Coming back home
Chorus:
You’ll see me in the faces
Of my long forgotten friends
I’ll be speaking a language
You can’t understand
I’ll be hidden in places
Where you’ve never been
But my ghost will sneak up on you
Again and again and again
V2:
Walk with me under stars
In the dark of the night
Where reality fades into grey
And lift up your eyes to see
Me staring back in your
Faint dreams of yesterday
Haunted street corners
And breezes that blow from
A past that’s never quite done
Keep your heart in a flutter
Returning to questions of
Where has he gone
Chorus:
You’ll see me in the faces
Of my long forgotten friends
I’ll be speaking a language
You can’t understand
I’ll be hidden in places
Where you’ve never been
But my ghost will sneak up on you
Again and again and again
Bridge:
Oh, the leaves are falling in the wind
Like the tears streaming down your face
Oh, don’t believe what they’re whispering
He’s never coming back to this place
Chorus:
But you’ll see me in the faces
Of my long forgotten friends
I’ll be speaking a language
You might understand
I’ll be hidden in places
Where you’ve never been
And my ghost will come back for you
Again and again and again
You can watch a rough recording of the music by following this invitation only link.
You can also find our father's reflection on grief in this blog post from Out Here Hope Remains.
If you are missing someone you have lost, you are not alone.
About the Creator
Heather Holland
Heather Holland is the author of the short story "Dragonfly in Water." She also writes Simple Stories on Substack.com, and she is the main contributor to The Daily Rhyme - with Heather Holland and Special Guests.
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Comments (1)
Oh my! Those are powerful words, Heather. 😢 I lost my lifelong best friend, and even though it has been 14 years now, his absence in some ways is still just as raw today. I am so sorry for your loss. Your words and music are poignantly written, and your advice is spot on! Thank you for sharing. (The link to the blog did not work for me.)