The second half of life: do not overreach, do not compare, accept the ordinary self

When I was a child, I fantasized countless times about my future self, either as a teacher, or as a journalist, or as a boss lady .then the dream was one of a kind for a while, but in any case, the dream was a good life for myself.

Then grew up, found that life is not as good as imagined, and disappointed, and depressed, but finally stood up strongly.

Because, continue to be decadent, but also can not help, how sad, life still has to continue to live.

If we can't do the dream of ourselves, then try to do the real you.

Perhaps ordinary, but have their happiness.

1、Foot on the ground, be yourself

In "Death of a Salesman", salesman Willie is a person who is looking for himself in the fantasy, just dreaming but not willing to wake up.

He is like some people in real life, not much ability but overly ambitious, always feels that they are a talent, as long as there is an opportunity to fly to the sky, but forgets that there is no real material, encounters more opportunities are useless, will only let themselves fall more miserable.

Some people fall once or twice to wake up, but Willie does not want to wake up and is immersed in his imagination, blaming all the failures on his lack of talent, until death does not want to admit their failure.

Should be the saying: "The heart is higher than the sky, life is thinner than paper." He cannot learn to be a man on his feet and would rather live in his imagination.

In contrast, Willie's neighbor Charley, who never believed that he could get what he wanted by talking well, started with small things, worked diligently, and was down-to-earth.

Willie can not recognize the reality that as long as the money can get success, he relied on their efforts to slowly accumulate wealth, and opened a company of their own.

Compared to Willie who lived his whole life in a dream, he lived his life on the ground.

People can have dreams, but not delusions of grandeur.

Delusions of success without effort, and ultimately will only be the loser in life.

Life is not by "think" can be successful, down-to-earth to get out of their own wonderful life.

2、Do not compare with others, be yourself

Marshall said: "Comparison with others, is the beginning of a miserable life."

People live a life, it is impossible to do everything as you wish.

In this world, there are always better people than you exist, there is always a threshold to cross, and persistently force themselves to be better than others, and in the end, will only make their lives more and more unbearable.

You think it is happy to be better than others, but forget that there are a lot of good people, probably more than can not come, probably more than the last to get just resigned and lost.

Even if you win, what can you do, even if you lose, and what will you do?

No matter whether win or lose, efforts count, as long as there is still the courage to stand up, there is still a chance to win.

Unfortunately, you take winning and losing too seriously, so it's hard to suffer yourself.

Life is only a few decades, why make it so difficult for yourself, too tight, is not last?

As long as you live, you have the opportunity to win.

It is too tiring to compare with others, it is better to compare with yourself, every progress is a win.

Work hard to improve yourself and live as a better version of yourself.

3、Accept mediocrity and be yourself

Everyone has a young and pretentious time, but people will slowly recognize the reality of middle age.

The gap between dreams and reality is infinitely large, not much hard work can be obtained.

As some people say, "half a lifetime of effort, want to live out of a person is very difficult."

Which is born extraordinary, more ordinary people.

Life, not the effort, will be extraordinary, but the effort to harvest ordinary.

The word "ordinary" may seem ordinary, but it is what most people do their best to get.

The most fearful thing about being human is not being ordinary, but pretending to be extraordinary.

In the absence of sufficient strength to support their ambitions, will only engage sideways, and in the end, may not even have the qualification to be ordinary people.

So, no matter how you live, as long as you have tried to count, the ordinary also has its own extraordinary.

The real winner in life is to be down to earth and live a good life of your own.

The future is infinite, try to be yourself, to create an ordinary life in the extraordinary.