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The Cycle of Love And Pain

Breaking the cycle of violence to find freedom and strength

By Oluwatobiloba EgbediPublished 12 months ago 3 min read
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The Cycle of Love And Pain
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Ewa had always been a strong and independent woman. She had a successful career, a loving family, and a wide circle of friends. But when she met Femi, everything changed.

At first, Femi was charming and attentive. He swept Ewa off her feet with his compliments and romantic gestures. They spent hours talking and laughing, and Ewa felt like she had finally found her soulmate.

But as time went on, Femi's true colors began to show. He would become jealous and possessive, accusing Ewa of flirting with other men. He would call her names and belittle her in front of their friends. And when Ewa tried to leave, he would beg for forgiveness and promise to change.

Ewa wanted to believe him. She loved him and wanted their relationship to work. But the promises never lasted. The cycle of love and pain continued, with Femi's anger escalating into physical violence.

At first, it was just a shove or a grab. But soon, Femi was hitting and choking Ewa, leaving bruises and scars all over her body. She would bear the pain in silence, hiding the evidence from the world and living in fear of what would happen next.

Ewa's family and friends grew concerned. They noticed the changes in her behavior and the bruises on her skin. They begged her to leave Femi and seek help, but Ewa was too ashamed to admit what was happening.

It wasn't until one particularly violent incident that Ewa realized she needed to leave. Femi had come home drunk and started hitting her. She fought back, but he overpowered her, leaving her with broken ribs and a black eye.

Ewa knew she couldn't stay in the relationship any longer. She packed a bag and fled to a domestic violence shelter, where she finally found the support and resources she needed to heal.

At the shelter, Ewa met other survivors who had been through similar experiences. They shared their stories and offered each other support and encouragement. Ewa began to see that she wasn't alone, and that there was hope for a better future.

With the help of counselors and advocates, Ewa began the long process of healing. She attended therapy sessions, joined support groups, and learned about the dynamics of intimate partner violence. She also took steps to secure her safety, obtaining a restraining order against Femi and changing her phone number and email address.

But Femi wasn't ready to let go. He would call and text Ewa, begging for another chance. He would show up at her workplace and home, demanding to see her. And when she refused, he would become violent once again.

Ewa knew she couldn't go back to Femi. She had seen the pattern of abuse and the cycle of love and pain too many times. But she also knew that leaving wasn't easy. She had to rebuild her life from scratch, and face the stigma and shame that often comes with being a survivor of intimate partner violence.

But Ewa was determined to create a better future for herself. She went back to school and earned a degree in social work, using her own experiences to help others who had been through similar situations. She also became an advocate for domestic violence survivors, speaking out about the issue and advocating for policy changes.

It was a long and painful journey, but Ewa emerged stronger, wiser, and more resilient than ever before. The cycle of love and pain had come to an end. And while it was a tragicomedy of sorts, Ewa knew that she had the power to create a better future for herself and others.

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About the Creator

Oluwatobiloba Egbedi

Born with a curious mind and an insatiable thirst for knowledge, I’ve been an avid reader.

Escape into a world of resilience, hope, and human connection. My story will make you laugh, cry, and never give up on your dreams. Read it now.

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