Hey guys! let's talk about Love. Not only love of any kind, but one of the most important types of love, aka self-love.
Earlier this week, I saw Lucille Ball's quote: "Love yourself first and get everyone else in line. To get anything in this world you really have to love yourself. " can I get an amen?! But seriously, I love that dialect. Sometimes it is so easy to pour our love into others, without realizing that we are not feeding ourselves the same love. One thing I have learned over the years is that self-love is something that I have to practice every day in every way. The moment I started practicing the art of self-love was the moment when I started imaginatively receiving love in every form in my life.
I grew up in a very loving home, which also meant that my parents called us a small talk that encouraged us to love. I can remember one day when I came from school (I believe I was in 6th grade) with an A-report card. The first thing that came out of my dad's mouth was, "Why isn't this A-A +?" I think it definitely played a part in my fixation on negative things before seeing positive things. Stevie's family dynamic, on the other hand, looked something like this. Instead of tough love, he listened to things like, "I'm proud of you" or "You'll do great next time". The reason for this should be stated that Stevie is the type of person who will find goodness in everything and will not make any difference. He really helped mump me to focus on positivity in my life.
Here is my personal recipe for loving yourself:
As much as you are thinking, feeling, saying be aware as often as you possibly can. When you catch yourself focused on the negative, accept it and focus your attention on something positive. When you are conscious of your own thoughts, feelings and words, you begin to focus on yourself, not on others' perception of you.
2. Comparison is a thief of happiness -
Do it! Look at others without bringing yourself down. When you are comparing yourself to someone else, it stems to come back to your mind. If I ever catch myself comparing, I immediately stop and feed myself some positivity, which leads me to the next point.
3. Positive Affirmation -
aka your new best friend! Something that I find helpful is writing positive affirmations about myself and posting on my bathroom mirror. The positive affirmation is that I like to eat food for the soul. Like a good breakfast fuel to start the day the right way, positive confirmation will fuel your mind and soul and set the tone for the day.
4. Self-care is not selfish!
Take care of yourself - mind, body and soul. You are of no use to others if you are not taking care of yourself first and foremost. Self care can be taken through things like exercise, meditation, getting enough sleep, diet etc., devote some time every day to yourself!
5. Eliminate poisoning in your life.
It is simple ... if it is not nourishing your mind, body or soul, get rid of it!
6. Learn to forgive yourself.
As human beings, we are our own worst critics. We are not meant to be perfect. We make mistakes. Use each opportunity, good or bad, to develop. Sometimes we just need to stop and remind ourselves that we are human beings ... aka practicing meditation once again! Be gentle with yourself
7. Don't forget to love yourself first.
Nobody will ever make you a complete person except you. Learn to love who you are. Embrace who you are. When you have unconditional love for yourself, others can understand it. No healthy relationship is made to stand on incomplete foundations.
8. Live your life with purpose!
Set goals for yourself and challenge yourself. I cannot think of a time when I did not feel well after completing a goal or overcoming a challenge. If you consistently set goals for yourself and work hard to achieve them, you will develop an appreciation and respect for yourself that no one else can give you.