Set yourself right, better than blindly following the wind

In ancient times, the East is the same action, but because of the gesture of the different people and had very different impact, seemingly unfair treatment, but the reality of the portrayal.

The same people have different lives, some things are born destined, instead of forcing themselves to compare with the strengths of others, why not set themselves up, focus on themselves, to do what they are good at?

What suits you is not necessarily suitable for others, and what suits others is not necessarily suitable for you, blindly follow the crowd, rather than find the right positioning.

A person can only live a wonderful life of their own if they take the right path for themselves.

1、The authorities are confused, the onlooker is clear

Right and wrong are relative, good and bad too.

Some people love a house like a person, someone hates a house hates a person, love and hate in a line.

But to ask them why they hate to say it all can not say a reason.

I do not know its appearance, on the random comments, is a person's blindness, blindly believing in what they want to believe, but like blindness like ignoring the ironclad evidence, to things still so, let alone to themselves.

Confined to their vision, lack objective evaluation, and do not recognize themselves, either presumptuous or presumptuous.

Only by breaking the limitations and looking at yourself from the perspective of an observer can you find the "truth": perhaps not as good as you think, but also not as bad as you think, there are advantages and disadvantages.

Subjective will does not represent the "truth", objective evaluation for reference, their own eyes are real, others see themselves as real, but to say which one is the real self, can only be carefully observed by heart.

When the situation is confused, the onlooker is clear, only to identify themselves, to find the right positioning, and correct position.

2、Think differently and understand each other

"Look across the mountain, far and near the height of different."

You think you see the truth, but do not know that it is a leaf blind.

In our envy of other people's bright and shiny life, perhaps others are also envious of us, who live have their difficulties, but we are used to hiding the suffering behind, leaving the best side for others to see.

If only this side to judge how well others live, is undoubtedly too one-sided.

Like some people on the Internet in the name of "love wife number" show love, think it is the best man, but do not think behind the scenes cheating everywhere, and even will beat his wife, know people do not know the heart, who can think he is such a person.

So don't look at people or things with a subjective will, you can see mostly what others want to show you, and what you think is the truth.

The public has a point, the public has a point, each has its own opinion, and each has its standard in.

Instead of thinking about making others understand themselves, try to understand the ideas of others, and mutual understanding, to reach a consensus.

3, familiarity does not exceed the rules, a sense of boundaries

The relationship is good again, we must pay attention to the proportion.

Once beyond the boundaries, the relationship is not a step further, but a disconnect, much worse than before.

Everyone is an independent individual and has a "private territory" that they don't want others to step into, once they do, it's the same as being offensive, even if it's with good intentions, it's also doing "bad things".

With people, the most afraid to meet in the name of good for you, self-righteous "for your good", but their own subjective will forced on others, said it is for your good but is hurting you.

Between people and people, if there are no boundaries like this, I am afraid that the relationship is good, but also not for too long.

Only to maintain a good sense of boundaries, the intimacy when intimate, the avoidance when avoiding, to make each other's relationship go further.

4、Setting the right position, focus on yourself

I once heard a story.

A man from Yan went to the capital of Zhao, saw the people there walking posture is very beautiful, followed up, the results not only learned not to like but also to their original walking posture to forget, so that finally only crawl back.

Other people's good, not your, forced not to come.

Everyone has their way of living, and what suits others may not necessarily suit you.

Instead of envying other people's lives, it is better to find your position, set yourself right, and live a wonderful life of your own.