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Rediscovering Myself at Forty

“It’s been a long time since I haven’t seen you. What have you been up to lately?

By Emily Chan - Life and love sharingPublished about a year ago 3 min read
Rediscovering Myself at Forty
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Interrogatives such as "It has been a long time since we have last seen each other. What have you been up to lately?" have been coming my way quite frequently. In retrospect, as I perused my social media accounts from the previous years, I came to realize that they were all very vibrant, with work, life, and children... selfies, other photos, casual photos... Yet, now that I am in my forties, my life has become more placid.

Now, I occupy myself with serenity, savoring my alone time, and living leisurely in my own world. I am unsure if the age of forty is a turning point for all, but it certainly was for me. Suddenly, I no longer want to feign a multitude of companions. I no longer desire to converse ceaselessly in front of others or attempt to integrate myself into a particular clique.

At the age of forty, I embraced solitude and confronted this ostensibly lonely life with my true self. While I am occasionally lonely, I revel in it. It seems as though I have finally found my niche. I no longer fret about profits and losses due to the voices of others, and I no longer torture myself because of someone's words.

Presently, I toil to live when I am busy and make friends with books when I am free. It is exquisite to be so unwavering and tranquil! They say that all the magnificence in life will be repaid with loneliness. Only after turning forty did I realize that life is indeed an individual journey. Before loneliness, there is perplexity, and after loneliness, there is growth!

Perhaps this world has always been peaceful, and it is people's hearts that cause chaos. However, rediscovering myself at forty has provided me with a new outlook on life.

Embracing Solitude

In times past, I would be overwhelmed by the incessant noise of social media, the pressure to uphold friendships, and the need to fit in. However, presently, I have embraced my isolation. I have discovered that there is beauty in silence and that being alone does not always equate to loneliness.

In place of filling my life with countless social engagements, I prioritize my time for self-reflection and personal growth. I have found solace in reading books, practicing yoga, and going on long walks. I have learned to appreciate the simple things in life and find joy in the present moment.

While turning forty may be a turning point for many, for me, it was a time of self-discovery and personal growth. I came to realize that life is not about the quantity of friends you have, but the quality of those relationships. It is not about how much noise you make, but rather the impact you have on those around you.

In embracing solitude, I have found a sense of tranquility and contentment that I never knew existed. I no longer fear being alone, and I welcome the isolation that comes with it. For me, life has become more meaningful and fulfilling, and I am excited to witness the progression of this journey.

With age comes wisdom, and I have come to understand that being true to oneself is the most important aspect of life. I no longer feel the need to conform to societal norms or seek validation from others. Instead, I cherish my individuality and take pride in my unconventional approach to life.

Solitude may be feared by many, but for me, it has become my sanctuary. It has allowed me to delve deeper into my own thoughts and feelings and has provided me with the opportunity for self-reflection and growth. In a world that is constantly moving, it is essential to take a moment to step back and revel in the beauty of solitude.


About the Creator

Emily Chan - Life and love sharing

Blog Writer/Storyteller/Write stores and short srories.I am a writer who specializes in love,relationships and life sharing

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  • Alina Zabout a year ago

    Thank you for sharing, very well said, I am with you at 'I have learned to appreciate the simple things in life', I think that was the relief for me, finding joy in small, simple things, getting closer to nature. On a friendly note, a block of text seems to be duplicated, the one starting with ' Lately, people have been asking me' the second time. Lovely piece!

  • Leslie Writesabout a year ago

    I am 41 and although my life is set up a little differently, I agree that 40 feels different. I especially connected with this part... "I have come to realize that life is not about how many friends you have, but about the quality of those relationships. It is not about how much noise you make, but about the impact, you have on those around you." Very well said!

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