Notes written within my notebook

Look for “win-win” scenarios. The opportunity to learn a new skill, facet, routine, etc. Is worth more than you can know.

To attain results is to attain success. Those who earnestly succeed in results will not brag, but allow the results to speak for themselves. That being written, if they have such results then they do have the rights to mention such results. That also being written, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink. No matter how much you wish for your friends and family to be successful, you can’t force them to walk your path, make a decision, what to decide on, and when to decide.

Recognize your own situation first. Pay yourself first. Learn that everybody around you has a sob story. Even if you come from and continue to receive abundant blessings it does not entitle other people, who are (supposedly) less fortunate than you, to your blessings.

If somebody has an opportunity they wish to tell you about, they will be honest to a fault. If they’re just trying to motivate you and keep you hyped up on a dream, their product/service is not worth it. Motivation is a fleeting emotion. Discipline is earned. If they keep selling you on a dream instead of a verifiable tried and true process, leave. Your Time, Energy, Attention, & Money are better spent elsewhere.

People who are financially thriving will give truthful advice to anyone who’s eager and enthusiastic enough to learn and has the dedication. Remember, if their self-worth is a lot, so is their time. Rich people would rather invest their time in themselves, their family, friends, and whatever made them successful. A random person may get a minute or two, but not hours of free recurring meetings.

Your time is valuable. The #1 form of currency for all humans is time. Time and energy is power. Be wary of people who will devote their time and energy into having power over you. Be wary of devoting your time and energy to giving up your own power to someone else.

There will be people who antagonize you, trying to get your attention. Do not give away your attention for free. That requires time and energy. Don’t give them that power. I have noticed from my own experiences that when you take back your power, conducting your energy elsewhere, the antagonizer(s) will seek out someone else. An antagonizer is incomplete, lacking, unwhole, and unfulfilled as a person. Hence, if they can make somebody feel as bad as them, they’ll feel normal, average, as if they belong. If they can make somebody feel even worse than themselves, then they’ll feel better about themselves and even superior by comparison. Their only goal is to tear others down since they lack the ability to build themselves up. Their problems are not yours. They are not your problem. They want your time, energy, and attention. If they could have your money they’d gladly take that too. They don’t want you to improve, become powerful, unlock your true potential, or focus your power on what you can change.

Antagonizers are immutable; they will not change. You cannot change them. Their loved ones cannot change them. Only an antagonizer can change itself. When you try to get them to change themselves and/or their behavior they become an immovable object, and you the unstoppable force. The immovable object wins. It’s all about effective efficiency. The unstoppable force wastes countless amounts of energy. Your efforts are best spent elsewhere.

Now, flip the scripts. They are the unstoppable force that puts their energy into getting a reaction out of you. You must be the immovable object. You mustn’t let their words and actions weather you down like the waves of an ocean to a cliff face. If they are going to waste their time and energy on you, let them. Their inability to change or effect you means that they are effectively powerless. The best fights won are the ones never fought.

From my own experience with an antagonizer once I protected my time, energy, and attention from them, once I stopped reacting to that person, especially how they wanted me to, I didn’t just notice, but they kept pumping energy, time, and attention into antagonizing somebody else. When they can no longer monopolize your time, they will try to garner somebody else’s. The antagonizer I dealt with even went so far as to get another person, who used to previously antagonize me. Both antagonizers are close friends to one another.

That being written upon black and white, I had blocked the first antagonizer from my mental space, not allowing that person to take up any more free rent within my head along with my other thoughts. When the second tried to reignite an allocation of my time, I had done the same to that person as well. At the time when they reunited in order to try to garner my time and attention, I had more important matters at hand. The 1st antagonizer even tried to demand my time, attention, and energy; as if issuing an ultimatum.

As I wrote before, powerless against me. When people declare ultimatums, it’s them making an attempt to take or regain a form of power that they’ve never had or lost. Most instances, they’ve never had power, and a small taste of it, potential or real, is enough to show the world who they really are. Their mask doesn't just slip, but it melts away.

How do they lose power? Simple, you conduct yourself elsewhere. It’s not diverting your time and energy, but allocating it much better than what you’ve initially done before. Another way that they’ve lost power is that they demonstrate their desperation to have control over you. An important lesson to learn is that the only power an antagonizer has over you is the power that you decide to give them.