No One Is Perfect

The truth of the matter is that we’re all broken or have been broken before. Yes every single one of us, but broken crayons still color, right? Some heal quickly while it takes others half their life or maybe their whole life trying to heal. Some want to heal and are easily willing to try anything while others want to but don’t know how to. Then there are the ones who know they need to heal, but rather settle because they’re scared to. There’s also the ones who don’t see that they need to heal or they don’t like getting called out having to admit that they need in-fact need to. There’s those that aware that they need to heal but don’t bother trying so they make excuses to be the way they are.

Often times we tend to hide our true feelings and emotions, so we build walls around our heart to protect it. There’s multiple reasons why we tend to build up walls closing off our feelings and our mind to open up to others. Some have had a parent or parents walk out on them or lose them to death or drugs on the street. They build walls to protect themselves because they were left by the ones who gave them life and they aren’t too fond of the pain of being left. Some have parents or parental guardians or even a family member or a friend of the family who abused them growing up. There are many people that hurt others before they hurt them because they have been hurt several times in their life. Or they hurt others to make themselves feel better due to the trauma of being hurt.

The abuse comes in many forms: mental, verbal, domestic, emotional, and sexual abuse. This usually takes place from an early age then progresses into adolescent years and sometimes adulthood; abuse has no expiration date. Other times they happen as a teen or an adult; these different types of abuses have no age limit. They have to hide the abuse from everyone because they tend to not believe them or they feel like it’s no point in crying to anyone. They bottle up their real emotions and tell people what they want them to know they put on their poker face most times to cover up the fact that they are dying inside. Some manage to hold it in for as long as they can stand, some spill the first chance they get while the others hurt other people or themselves.

These different forms of abuse set the tone for people that have been exposed to it. A lot of us are lost souls because of it, the abuse was the foundation. It created monsters inside of most while others decided to be closed off putting their guards up developing trust issues. When you have trust issues you go through life protecting yourself from hurt and further pain, although pain is inevitable to experience. Once you let your guard down to trust there’s the chance of you being exposed to a more healthy environment and lifestyle. On the other hand you run through life doing whatever or closing yourself back off from people because you got hurt again. The abuse and the neglect have different effects on everyone it depends on the extent of the abuse and neglect and what thoughts and actions that came from it. There are many reactions to the abuse which are mostly toxic.

Pride is another factor as far as reactions to abuse and neglect goes amongst many other factors. Most people are too prideful to admit that they aren’t okay and that is not always okay. Bottling up emotions, being afraid to speak their truths or becoming too harsh when speaking to people, or lashing out whenever theirs an inconvenience to them. We tend to be too harsh on ourselves and anyone we come across due to the traumas we have experienced. We have to remind ourselves no matter the pain we’ve suffered or are suffering it definitely is okay to say you’re not okay it’s being a human it’s okay to be vulnerable and get the proper help to heal the right way.

Just learn and grow no one wants to be tied to what broke them, yes it’s true it still may hurt or sting overtime, but we have to remind ourselves that we are much stronger than the hurt and pain. When we truly want to heal it may take a while but it’s a work in progress and that’s all one can do to unchain themselves from the pains and traumas of life.