No one can stop your ambition to succeed

Many people have very high ideals when they are young.

Some want to study hard and get into a top university so that they can have the opportunity to study abroad later.

Some want to be scientists, hoping to do their part and contribute to the country.

Others want to become leaders, to be able to manage their subordinates and become leaders.

But as time goes by, we grow up and begin to understand that society is simply not as simple as we thought when we were kids.

So, to make things easier for ourselves, we begin to lower our expectations.

Can't be a scientist, then find a stable job, to support the family.

Can not be a leader, then in the company as a grassroots employee.

They think, anyway, are in society to survive, then the appropriate compromise, so they keep giving in to reality, and the end is surprisingly no way back.

There is something that is quietly destroying a person, please avoid, and that is to retreat to the second best.

01

Once saw a story like this.

A girl once in the magazine internship, with her is a very capable reporter Quantize.

In the eyes of everyone, she is a strong woman, no matter what she does, are the wind and fire.

Whether she treats her subordinates or superiors, she is unforgiving and says what she has to say.

For all the manuscripts that she is responsible for, Quantize demands that she must be perfect, so when she reviews the manuscripts, they will be sent back for revision many times.

Some colleagues could not stand Sichuan's character and thought she was too fussy, and when she found out, she directly sent the other manuscript back to be rewritten.

It is because of Sichuan's excellence, the entire magazine on her manuscript is the most outstanding.

At that time, Quantize to the age of marriage, there no object, has been dating.

But dating for some time, Quantize also met too many people, but was still single, someone asked her why to Quantize and they can not get along.

Later, the girl's internship is completed, and she is working in other places, when she met Quantize again, nearly did not recognize her.

The company's main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.

Through chatting, I realized that after a few years, she had become older and not as grumpy as before.

Her family has been urging her to get married quickly, and she couldn't resist her family, so she hurriedly married someone else.

To take care of the children and family, Quantize took the initiative to choose to transfer to a department with an easy job, working to and from a fixed point every day and receiving a fixed salary.

Now Quantize looks a lot more gentle, perhaps because of their relationship with a family, but the girl can see that she is not happy.

Quantize confided in the girl, she very much regrets taking this path, if not choose to get married, and transfer departments, now she has long been promoted to editor-in-chief, not to mention the cause of regret.

How many people are like this, in the face of family or life, actively choose to step back?

It seems that it is to make yourself easy, but this and the life you want, but more and more distant.

Many times, what we want and what we get in reality, are greatly reduced.

We may not get anything in the end if we always keep backing up and backing down.

02

Some time ago, a friend who had not contacted me for a long time suddenly approached me for a chat and asked me if there was a part-time job for her here.

I was very surprised, because she was once the best one in my eyes, going to a big company for an internship.

Unexpectedly, she worked for just two years and returned home.

It turned out that when she was working in a big company, she worked hard, all the work was done well, and even had a little achievement, she was promoted to team leader.

When the team leader found that the team leaders around her are lazy, but still can have a high salary package, so she was a little unbalanced, and also began to go downhill.

Some projects could have been done better, and she was not willing to spend more energy to just do a passing grade and turn it in.

Thought it was no big deal to get to the company standard anyway, so she always secretly played with her phone.

Not long after, the company had a big layoff, and her name was on the list of layoffs.

When her parents found out she was being laid off, they persuaded her to go back home, where there was a better job for her.

She recalled how hard her life was in Beijing, but forgot the reason she chose to stay in Beijing in the first place, and chose to go back home to work.

But the job in her hometown was not as good as she thought it would be. After working for a while, she couldn't stand it and quit.

Coinciding with the quarantine, job opportunities decreased, and she has been without a job, staying at home for a few months. Since there was no income, she asked me if there was a suitable part-time job to earn living expenses.

She was supposed to have something better. However, once we lower our standards ourselves and get used to comfort, it is hard to jump out again.

Because high demands mean high payoffs to get huge returns.

When you lower your standards, you will only be farther and farther away from the goal you want, and even less able to achieve the results you are satisfied with.

03

There is such a story on the Internet.

In the company I worked for before, there is a very beautiful female colleague, she not only looks outstanding, but her body is also good, causing a lot of attention from the opposite sex.

Her appearance alone has made many people envious, but her starting point is also higher than the average person, who graduated from a 985 university.

Once, the company temporary annual meeting, the preparation time is relatively short, the time to do the PowerPoint is only the weekend and a day of work.

For this reason, many colleagues do the PowerPoint very simply, but only female colleagues do a very comprehensive and detailed, the content inside is extended to various parts.

After the supervisor saw the PowerPoint she made, he couldn't stop nodding his head and showing his appreciation.

After eating together in the cafeteria, through chatting to know, she put the three days, are used to do PowerPoint, and the party with friends are put off.

Because she has a strong character, she requires herself to do things perfectly, including making a PowerPoint.

Perhaps this seems too the pursuit of perfection, but because she has high standards for themselves, and strict requirements will be better than others.

Unexpectedly, she worked in the company for less than a year, there is very big progress, and there are many headhunters who contacted her privately, wanting her to jump ship.

Sometimes, for people who are serious about big and small things to the extreme, their results are better than the average person.

Because they always spare no effort to do everything, and those "almost" compared to the people, there will certainly be a very obvious gap.

Always keep lowering the standard, in the end, you may not know yourself, or how life has become so.

This is because you are asking too little of yourself.

Why do we always have moments like this? When you encounter something slightly difficult, or something you don't want to do in your heart, you will have the idea of avoiding it, can't help but lower your requirements, and even find many excuses for yourself to excuse yourself.

All this behavior, we can not help but do, it can be seen this is a human instinct, or this is a weakness of human nature. But, such weaknesses, bring us some negative things.

So, how to abandon and change it? This book "human weakness" is well worth reading.

It will lead you to see where the weaknesses of human nature, to help you see yourself more transparently, as well as the people around you. Then, you will be able to do, try to avoid some mistakes, so that life goes more and more smoothly.

What ruins a person is not a lack of effort or bad luck, but you are always looking for the next best thing.

Only if you put your best foot forward to do everything in front of you and stick to it, can you enhance your ambition to treat successfully.

Don't let your life become cheap, as long as you work hard enough, even if the starting point is low, your life will be better than others.