'No' Is The Only Word You Need To Better Your Life

Are you a doormat?

Even if you’re not a doormat, you might have issues saying no to certain people or when asked certain questions. You may even have issues saying no to yourself… that's my struggle right there.

Saying yes all the time will hold you back from doing what you want and need to do, to better yourself, and your life.

Make ‘no’ happen on a daily basis.

When is it ok to say no?

Realistically you can say no whenever the fuck you want.

But…

There are times when it’s better to do what needs to be done.

If your boss gives you a deadline for an important project, ‘yes’ is probably a beneficial answer. If your doctor tells you to lose 20 pounds because you’re pre-diabetic, ‘yes’, again, is a beneficial answer.

But for the things that we should have total control of, ‘no’ can most definitely be a great answer.

All of these things, and millions more, are great scenarios to practice saying no.

I don’t want to offend anyone

Yeah, I know you don’t.

The issue here is that when it comes to people we care about, or people we have to work with on a daily basis, we’re afraid of offending them or not doing ‘whatever it takes to make them happy.

Newsflash:

You’re not existing solely to make your spouse, friends, or coworkers' lives easier or more satisfying.

You’re a real-life person and your rest, well-being, and happiness all matter just as much as theirs.

I’m not saying you should walk around telling people to fuck off for no reason at all, or for any reason. You can be more tactful than I when it comes to saying no… but you should say no.

Don’t walk on eggshells around people in your daily life. You’re not going to be able to please every single person 100% of the time, and that’s okay.

If you try, though, you’ll exhaust yourself.

If a situation is too much, or even if it’s something that’s optional and you really don’t want to, you don’t owe anyone an explanation.

Saying no doesn’t mean you have to write a book detailing your reasons. No means no, period.

Unless it comes to taxes… the IRS doesn’t take no for an answer…

Being sweet and polite is great. Really, I applaud you for those attributes. But we all know someone who’s absolutely fearless in the face of bullshit. I try to be that person as often as I can, and you can strive to be that person as well.

Stand up for yourself, your kids, your family. Don’t worry so much about other people’s feelings, especially when it comes down to your health and safety, or your belongings.

(me, constantly not letting my dad borrow my car because he’s an unapologetic slob who destroys things)

NOOO. No no no no no no no no no. And what's better? I'm not even sorry about it. No explanations are needed.