Being in love is a beautiful thing. It’s a great feeling when you find that person that you share a connection with on all levels: mentally, physically, and emotionally. So why do people fear commitment? I can answer that for you.
Some people don’t want to be “tied down” as they call it. There is nothing wrong with being single. I have nothing against it. But you don’t have to go from man to man, or woman to woman either. Have respect for yourself.
Marriage isn’t for everyone. That’s something that a lot of people say. To each his own. That’s all I’m going to say about that one.
I feel that if you fear commitment, you shouldn’t get in a relationship to begin with. There is no point in being with someone forever and a day knowing that you have no plans to marry this person. Why waste all these years of your life and theirs? Time is precious and life is short, and as the old folks would say, time aint long.
There are so many people putting up with things that they don’t have to. Its hard to let go of someone you love and have invested your time in. Love doesn’t disappear overnight. But being mistreated should get old after a while. Im speaking to men and women because I don’t see things as a one-sided issue.
When speaking of commitment, think long and hard about that before you get involved with somebody. Is this someone that you really want to be with? Do you see a future with this person? These are questions that you need to ask yourself. Don’t just say I love you because it sounds nice. Say it because you mean it. Those are three powerful words that people sometimes say way too soon.
Break the word down. Commit. This means dedication. When you commit to something, this means you give it your all. 100% effort. Nothing keeps you from it. You want to keep it. Now look at the m-e-n-t part. Ment=meant. In other words, you mean to do it. You do it on purpose. Commitment=Dedication + something you want to do. Remember that.
Some people give 100% when they love someone. That’s how love is supposed to be. Not 90/10, 70/30, 20/80. What you give is what you give. No love given=No love received.
There are too many relationships out here where people are confused. People are in love triangles, having marital affairs, etc. But, true happiness does not exist in any of those situations. Know why? Love is not confusing. You know the qualities you want in a person. Nobody has every quality you are looking but you cant substitute one man or woman for another one. You may find qualities you like in each person but things still wont work out in either situation because, like I said, love is not confusing.
Everybody has flaws. There is no perfect man or woman. If that’s what you are waiting on, keep waiting. Every man or woman is going to have some type of flaw or flaws. Its not about looks, finances, what the person drives or what type of house they live in. I name these things because that’s what people look at these days when they talk about being with someone. The heart is what you look at. Is the person trying to do better for themselves? Can you both work on something together? That’s what you look at.
To conclude I say this: Relationships are like stairs. There are ups and downs but commitment is the biggest step.
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Nerissha Hunt
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