Inner strength comes from inner exploration

We long to become strong inside, but always some people become timid, become unconfident, become cautious; have to curl up in a thick protective shell, pass by our dreams, and can't become the person we want to be.

Our inner self is like a small child that needs to be comforted and stroked when we know how to explore our inner self and develop our adult self. Then we can change the way we behave and create a better life.

Soothe a broken heart - get rid of fear

We will fail or misbehave from time to time, and that in itself is not a terrible thing. Failure is not a bad thing. Just as sunlight and water promote the growth of geraniums and oaks, failure plays a vital role in personal development.

But the bad thing is that this failure happens again and again in a similar way, and we keep making the same mistakes as if we didn't learn anything from the previous ones.

This is what adds to the frustration and creates unbearable feelings of pain, sadness, and frustration. We are all too attached to certain patterns of thinking and behavior.

We know they are inappropriate and harmful, yet looking back at certain key moments, we don't even notice that we are acting by these behavioral stereotypes.

We just involuntarily act in the same way we always have, even when such actions are harmful to ourselves. However, everyone has the opportunity to regain control and get out of bondage.

There are a variety of emotions in your self-perception, both positive and negative. Emotions are often contradictory: one minute you love someone and the next you hate them.

Or you desire something, but fear makes you cower from pursuing it. To you, those strong emotions seem illogical, incomprehensible, and sometimes even ridiculous.

The part of your inner self at the helm will control your expectations, your perceptions, and your reactions to situations. Just as you will pull different clothes out of your closet depending on the occasion, different ways of behaving will appear in you at different moments, as they do in all people.

Sometimes it is the inner child who directs you, and there are other times when it is primarily the inner judge who calls the shots; in some situations, you become active in the way you respond, and at other times, the adult self takes over. It is fascinating to discover which subject is taking the lead in which situation.

Refuse to be spoiled and improve self-discipline and perseverance

When we are spoiled on the inside, we lack perseverance and self-discipline. These types of people have a hard time accomplishing things that are annoying or boring, yet unfortunately, they make up a large part of their lives.

No one likes to do their tax returns, yet we have to complete this; no one likes to have a physical exam, yet we know that it is something that has to be done.

If the behavior is guided by a spoiled inner psyche, you will keep not doing the things you don't like until you have to. Anything that is not fun for this type of person, they choose to procrastinate or pass it off to someone else, such as a friend, parent, or partner.

This is because these types of people never learn how to deal with the frustration that comes from doing boring work. The consequence of this is that many people are still not taking responsibility for themselves as adults, feeling overwhelmed and stressed about everyday situations.

Linus is forty years old, works in the IT industry, and is a sought-after professional. However, he finds it difficult to get to work on time or even regularly. He always missed deadlines for submitting work and would therefore call in sick or have unexcused absences. Whenever he was fired or ran out of money, his mother helped him.

His father was an artist and had no interest in children or housework. So Linus' mother accepted everything: she went to work, raised the children, and took care of the family. Because of his father's behavior, Linus thought it was okay to pass the heavy lifting on to someone else.

Moreover, Linus' mother extended her overprotective behavior to her son, so Linus was never asked to take on any unpleasant tasks. And fatally, this dynamic continues to this day.

Whenever Linus got into trouble for "procrastination," his mother helped him out: with money, by asking his aunt to agree to let Linus live with her for a while, or by arranging for Linus to see a doctor.

Linus's mother acted out of the goodness of her heart. But in this way, her son will never learn to take responsibility and deal with problems independently.

We cannot imagine what will happen when Linus' mother can no longer help him and he needs to help himself. As Linus gets older, it becomes more and more difficult for him to lead a full and happy life. The "stalker" was firmly in his grip.

Refusing to be presumptuous

The punitive inner judge conveys to people that the person is worthless or that there is something wrong with him as a matter of principle. An extreme punitive judge can lead to complete self-deprecation, even self-hatred. And in some form, it can also cause great unease and weaken one's self-confidence.

In contrast, a harsh inner judge "only" leads the sufferer into perfectionism. If you are a person who puts yourself under extreme pressure, it may be because you have a harsh judge in your mind, which makes a person's value directly dependent on his or her accomplishments. His satisfaction will always be short-lived because he will always have to achieve greater goals.

Worse, if any time the goal is not achieved, the person feels completely worthless and is unworthy of being loved. Moreover, such a mindset can trigger feelings of guilt.

This feeling arises not about achievements, money, or work, but simply because the person puts his emotional needs behind those of others. Sufferers feel they must please everyone and are never allowed to complain.

They must always be friendly, and understanding and not a nuisance to others. This behavior is often seen in people who work in the following social professions: nurses, social workers, doctors, teachers, and therapists are all present. Just as we have clothes that we feel comfortable wearing, we all have inner parts that are healthy, completely appropriate, and neither childish nor deficient.

If we position ourselves according to such standards, we will successfully organize our lives, make the right decisions, solve problems, and maintain relationships.

In this state, we can assess and meet the needs of ourselves and our peers well. Seeking the inner is not walking a maze; it is very structured. People who know their inner map have a great chance to let go of all the unpleasant things from the past and change their lives.

If we want to become strong, the most important thing we can do is to learn to think from within and build our growth pattern, which is the key and fundamental to reversing our life.