I'm Not "Too Sensitive". You're Just Too Loud.

I’m not sensitive for crying when you cried. You’re loud for allowing shouting is a personality particularity.

I’m not sensitive for leaving when you lowered me “ as a joke. ” I’m just antipathetic to public prosecutions disguised as humor.

I’m not sensitive for demanding an reason after you bulldozed my boundary. I’m done pretending I’m made of concrete.

* Let’s get one thing straight * perceptivity is n’t the problem. Your comfort with discourteousness is.

For times, I believed them. “ You’re too emotional. ” So I filed down my edges. I laughed when they mocked me. I said “ I’m fine ” when I was bleeding.

I called it mature. It was tone- abandonment.

My body kept score every time I smiled through pain. My jaw gripped. My sleep broke. ultimately, the bill came due. Anxiety. fear. Rage at myself for being a free emotional punching bag.

Then’s what I know now People who call you “ too sensitive ” benefit from your impassiveness.

When you feel less, they stay responsible lower. When you reply less, they reflect lower. When you absorb more, they change nothing. Your perceptivity threatens the system that runs on your silence.

So they make, you, the problem. They say, “ You’re overreacting, ” rather of, “ I was out of line. ” They say, “ Do n’t be dramatic, ” rather of, “ That hurt you, and I’m sorry. ”

* restatement * “ Your pain inconveniences me. Can you make it lower? ”

No. I wo n’t.

I’m not then to be digestible. I’m then to be mortal. Humans feel. Humans blench. Humans say, “ That crossed a line. ”

still, ” perhaps your capacity is too little, If that makes me “ too important.

* Then’s the reframe that saved me *

1. * perceptivity is data, not drama. * My gashes are a memo “ commodity then is n’t safe. ” My tight casket is an alert “ This room costs my peace. ” I do n’t ignore the bank alarm just because you do n’t smell fire.

2. * Boundaries are n’t walls. They’re instructions. * “ Do n’t yell at me ” is n’t fragile. It’s the primer for keeping me. Break the device after reading the primer, and you do n’t get to call it defective.

3. * “ It was just a joke ” is the laziest reason ever. * They mean “ I do n’t want responsibility for the damage I caused. ” A real reason “ I see I hurt you. I wo n’t do it again. How can I make it right? ” If they ca n’t say that, they want impunity, not harmony.

4. * impassiveness is n't strength. * Shutting down made me empty. Strength is feeling the surge without drowning people with it. Strength is saying, “ I’m hurt, ” without getting the hurricane.

* So what do we do? *

We stop apologizing for having a nervous system. We stop rephrasing pain into palatable language. We stop performing “ bite ” while collapsing outside.

We start saying “ That did n’t work for me. ” “ Please do n’t speak to me that way. ” “ I need a nanosecond. ” “ I’m not available for discourteousness. ”

And if they call that sensitive? Good. Let them.

I’d rather be “ too sensitive ” and awake than “ low- conservation ” and dying outside.

The world does n’t need further people who take abuse still. It needs people who name detriment loudly and still choose kindness. That’s not weakness. That’s leadership.

So no, I’m not “ too sensitive. ” I’m acclimatized. To my worth. To my limits. To the difference between love and forbearance of mistreatment.

You can call it sensitive. I’ll call it being alive.

still, that’s your work not my reason, If my aliveness makes you uncomfortable.

The “ good girl ” retired. The real bone

has boundaries now. And headphones. For when you start yelling again.