How to Deal With Self-Doubt on Your Journey

by Lindsay W 4 months ago in self help

& becoming aware of the thoughts you tell yourself

How to Deal With Self-Doubt on Your Journey

Do you know that voice? The one that says you can't do something or shouldn't do something, the one that beats you down no matter what you try, that never seems to give you a break, no matter what you are doing...

Ahhh yes, that voice, we all have it, and for some it's stronger than others, but we all have it at some level.

The trick here is to become aware of this voice, and then through that awareness of it, you are better able to observe it and not listen to it, because you know that whatever it is telling you, it's not true...

That's the thing, we need to realize, our thinking is not true, it is not real. When I first realized this, it was a big lightbulb moment for me, for if my own thinking wasn't true or real, then what was?

This, of course, led me down a very interesting path of self-discovery & transformation, and knowing that my thoughts were not true, was a very liberating experience for me.

So in life, there are only two states of being that we can be in at any given moment.

The first state is a beautiful state of being, this is where we feel love, compassion, gratitude, joy, peace, All the good emotions that make us feel, well, good.

The second state is a suffering state of being, and this is where we feel fear, overwhelm, anxiety, and of course self-doubt.

When we become aware of ourselves, we can observe instantly when we drop down into a suffering state of being, and then we can ask is this true?

For example, say you are at your job, and you are sitting at your desk feeling overwhelmed and anxious about all the work you have to do. The little voice inside starts to tell you that you aren't good enough, that you don't do enough each day, that there are other more successful people out there, etc. etc.

Now, you can either let these thoughts (which aren't real) consume you and take over your life, or you can become aware of them, and determine if they are true or not, and I can almost guarantee that they are not.

The mind is powerful, and it's a goal-creating machine, so if you are constantly telling yourself that you are not good enough, your mind will get right to work bringing this into your reality, regardless of whether it's true or not, it will make it so.

This is why so many remain broke, they tell themselves that money is hard to earn, money is evil, and they live paycheck to paycheck. The thoughts that they walk around with all day every day, are creating their reality for them, bringing into their life exactly what they are thinking about.

When we experience self-doubt along our journey, we must become aware of these thoughts, so that we can change them into thoughts that are more empowering. So instead of constantly telling yourself, 'I'm not good enough, or I will never achieve the success I want in life.' You tell yourself instead, "I am enough, and I am working towards my successes in life every single day, I will get there in perfect timing."

Once you start to literally change your mind about things in your life, it doesn't matter what it is, your mind will start to attract it into your reality.

So if someone went through their day thinking "Oh money is so hard to make, I just never seem to have enough." That is what they will continue to experience; more struggle & lack. Whereas if they just changed their mind about this, it would be much easier.

This is why looking at your limiting beliefs is such a powerful tool for transformation. When we can sit down and write out everything we believe is true about reality, and then go through those limiting beliefs and decide to change the ones that aren't serving us, that's when the magic starts to happen.

If you have a limiting belief that you can't reach your dreams in life, because you didn't have a university education or your childhood was hard, or you're too late to the party, then you won't, simply because your thoughts are not in alignment with what you want.

Your mind will just keep creating exactly what you tell it.

This is powerful stuff here, so hopefully, this is helping.

All of our suffering in life, whether that is self-doubt, anxiety, overwhelm, stress, etc, are caused by our own thinking, and the thinking that has caused this suffering is our own limiting beliefs.

Our beliefs that we have been forming about reality since we were old enough to think, and for myself, I don't remember this far back, but I know that I had so many limiting beliefs that had been formed in my mind throughout my life. I constantly assigned meaning to different experiences in my life, most of which were not the true in meaning, but it was what my younger self came up with.

Limiting beliefs are not real, they are not true, they are just the meaning you gave experiences in the past that you have carried with you into your adult life.

These limiting beliefs can be about anything, love, money, success, your own self, but just keep in mind that these are not true, and that is why self-awareness is important.

When you are self-aware you know that your thoughts are not the truth, and whatever that little voice inside is telling you, you can simply decide to change it to a more empowering belief.

Limiting Belief --> Empowering belief

  1. "I'm not good enough" ---> " I am good enough to achieve anything in life"
  2. "Money is hard for me to earn" ----> "Money flows to me easily & with little to no effort"
  3. "I don't have enough time" ---> "I always have enough time to get things done each day"

When you start to make new decisions about your life, a few things start to happen.

The first thing is you will start to have new thoughts, ideas, and inspirations that are in alignment with that new decision.

The second thing is it changes your perception of reality. Realize that we are only experiencing about eight percent of reality around us, so there is a great deal that we don't see but can be aware of with an open perception of it. The third thing that happens is you will gain a sense of confidence like never before, that will allow you to step fearlessly forward towards the life you want, and self-doubt will be a thing of the past.

So what it really comes down to, when dealing with self-doubt on your journey, is to become aware of the thoughts you are having, this can be done through meditation, or just observing your own self on a moment to moment basis.

Once you start to observe these thoughts you are having, understand they are not true, and you can decide to change them into anything you want, and the moment you catch yourself stating one of these limiting beliefs, you replace it with an empowering belief, over and over.

Before you know it, you will be a self encourager, and doubt will be long gone out of your life, and instead, you will be left with an inner cheerleader, instead of an inner critic.

This journey we are all on called "life" is not the same for everyone, but we all have similar patterns of thoughts, and from my own experience, life can be a truly phenomenal experience, if you decide for yourself that is what you want.

The power of your own decision is phenomenal, and never doubt that you can do anything you want in life!

I hope this helps you, as this information has helped me greatly along my own journey, so my only hope is it has given you a couple of insights on how you can transform your own life into something magnificent!

Thank you for reading this!

With Love and Light,

Lindsay @ World Dreamerzwww.worlddreamerz.com

(I offer private coaching to help you determine your limiting beliefs and what is holding you back from the life of your dreams, check out my site for more information and book a free discovery call with me!)

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Lindsay W
Lindsay W
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Lindsay W

Sharing my stories with the world. Writing has been a great tool for transformation, and I feel like I am only starting to dive deep into the self. Life is a wonderful gift, and I intend to share my positive nature of things with the world. 

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