From the Inside Out

Perspective can change everything. How do you feel about expectations? Do you feel constantly disappointed by others? What if I could convince you that if you change your perspective about expectations, you could avoid the disappointment? Expectations can either learn you or burn you. If you look up the meaning of expectation, it is defined as a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future; a belief that someone will or should achieve something; one's prospects of inheritance. Expectations often times lead to disappointments. Why? A disappointment is defined as sadness or displeasure, caused by the nonfulfillment of one's hopes or expectations. But only if YOU let it! Disappointment has a negative connotation therefore can leave you with a negative experience. What you gain or lose is up to you. The gain would be defined as learning a lesson and subtracting the expectation.

A disappointment can be manifested in whatever way you choose to allow it. To dive you or to DRIVE you! It is how you handle your experience with disappointment that defines you as a person. What can you take away from every disappointment? A simple lesson and solution would be: Let go of the expectation. If you are able to let this component go, then there is no room for the dissapointment, hence subtracting the negative factor. Then you are only left with a positive experience of someone pleasantly surprising you with words or a behavior that you did not expect. You then have a positive experience and memory versus a negative one. See how that works. 😉

Realistic expectations for life are to be better than the person you were yesterday, and better tomorrow than you are today. The expectation of one's self is realistic since you are in control of yourself. Setting expectations of others is essentially trying to control someone else's behavior in a given situation and if it does not transpire the way you expected, you have been set up for the let down: The disappointment.

If more people shared this mindset of worrying about one's own expectations of themselves, experiences and interactions with others would be less stressful and therefore avoid the negative experience: The disappointment.

Perspective is everything. If you manifest and share positivity, then you reap the same energy. If you manifest and share negativity, then you reap the same energy. But your perspective paves the path for your life. Your life flourishes on whichever direction you decide to go.

I recently watched the movie "The Secret." There are a lot of positive and motivating messages throughout the movie. Not only did the movie convey these uplifting messages, but also showed how one's perspective on life can affect every aspect of their life. If you always expect the worse, then every negative experience inflates this convoluted idea that you deserve nothing better. This negative expectation only manifests negativity and bitterness. If you relate to this, change your perspective, let go of the expectations and avoid the disappointment. It seems like an easy solution, but it's easier said than done. This is especially true for those of us that seem to have more challenges in life than others or who easily settle into a negative mindset. Where does this root from? Why are some like this more than others? Well, we all have life stories that mold us, mold our personalities and mold our perspectives. However, if your perspective is that life sucks, it probably does. But what if you change that perspective? Try it, you may be surprised at how changing your mindset can overflow into many other parts of your life, if not change what you emanate to others completely. Realize this: what you project to others is then their expectation of you. What do you want that to be?

One of the quotes in the movie that I really felt was "I don't want life to be easy, I want it to be worth it." I love this quote. It's up to you to determine what makes it worth it for you. It is an unrealistic expectation that life will be easy. We all know life is not easy. Therefore, let's make it worth it! Be happy.

No expectations, no disappointments. It's all in your perspective! 😊✌❤