by Adelina Nedea 10 days ago in healing

Do yourself a favour and let them go!


“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, you are the one getting burned.” Buddha

In our spiritual growth and healing, one of the most important steps is forgiveness.

Those who can’t forgive, can’t heal.

Convicting others has a great impact on the human psyche.

While being upset and angry at someone, we create some sort of energy rope connecting us to the abuser’s low vibrational energy and negative thoughts.

Imagine the struggle we go through daily to have a positive mindset, high vibration, we meditate, pray, practice yoga, eat clean, we try to have a non judgmental philosophy and accept the flow of life.

🙀That’s a lot of work requiring continuous awareness, and that’s not easy!

All of that might as well be in vain, as long we have that connection with the ones that hurt us.

We hold on to the pain we’ve been caused in order to justify the way we turned out to be, our mistakes, struggles or incapacity of being successful in some ways.

We develop this attachment for our traumas and abusers and we choose to live with it, so when we feel that we disappointed someone or couldn’t accomplish a task, we wip the folder out and show them the reasons, it wasn’t our fault, someone did this to me 10 years ago, and since then I wasn’t able to do this and that.

Yes, that affected us most likely, but the choice of holding on to it is ours.

It is hard to go through this confusing pain all by yourself. Some of us reached for help, yet we still can’t forgive.

Psychotherapy is amazing and some of the therapists can do wonders, but the final decision on letting go and forgiving is ours to take.

No one can cut that rope, but you.

So, I started studying about forgiveness and I turned to Reiki, what do they have to say about this?

Reiki teaches us self therapy amongst so many other beautiful things and combines many systems and practices. It teaches you how to connect to the universal energy, the importance of visualisations, affirmations, projection and love.

Visualisations have a strong impact on your mind, nervous system, body, spirit and ultimately, on your reality.

It can feel like hypnosis, both of them manipulating thought patterns through suggestions.

Use the power of your mind and your divine sparkle to create a beautiful, free, peaceful reality, instead of focusing on struggles and pain.

💫“Where focus goes, energy flows!”💫

At first, like anything new, it might feel weird and useless, but practice and trust is all you need. The more you go through similar visualisations, meditations, affirmations, the easier will be to create what you forever longed for, and the quicker you’ll eliminate trauma, pain and unwanted thoughts.

❣️Believing in your power is your superpower❣️

As weird it might sound, think about it, there are so many scientific proofs of people who healed themselves, created a wealthy lifestyle, found love and peace using the power of projection.

It is indeed a power that we all have access to. So use it! 🍀🧘‍♀️✨

Practice it until you get it, whatever that might be.

Remember, you are not alone, the Universe has the tools, the power and willingness to help you.

A constant connection to the Universe guarantees amazing results.

There are different ways of attaining and maintaining this connection, and by mixing a Yoga breathing technique, a Reiki healing exercise, affirmations and projection, I created an exercise for us all.

For an ultimate result, any type of practice should start with a breathing exercise. The one I chose works for all levels and it’s a simple breath awareness.

Although it’s not that complex it requires stillness in the body and mind, and that is the real challenge.

Let’s try it:

1. “Sit in a comfortable position or lie down.

2. Close your eyes and let your body relax, summoning self-acceptance.

3. Start to notice your breath. What does your breath feel like? Is it rushed or calm? Is your breath loud or soft? Does it feel warm or cool?

4. As you inhale through your nose, say to yourself “Breathing in, I observe breathing in.”

5. As you exhale through your nose, say to yourself “Breathing out, I observe breathing out.”

6. Continue to follow your in-breath and out-breath. Let your breath deepen.

7. After observing your breath for five to ten cycles, your breath will automatically become slower, smoother, and feel more natural.

8. You can continue for as long as you feel comfortable, anywhere between a few minutes to half an hour.”

(Excerpt From: Marlynn Wei. “The Harvard Medical School Guide to Yoga: 8 Weeks to Strength, Awareness, and Flexibility”)

✨Place the right palm on your heart, visualize your heart, feel the heartbeat and go in the center of it. Visualize an empty room, inside you can see the person you want to forgive.

✨Repeat three times out loud:

“ I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you,

For any suffering you’ve caused me,

For any pain you've caused me,

For any humiliation you’ve caused me,

For any loss you’ve caused me,

For any discomfort you've caused me,

For any loss you've caused me,

I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you.”

✨If any reason stopping you from forgiving this person comes to mind:

1. Be aware of it, visualize it

2. Inhale it through the nose

3. Exhale it loudly through the mouth

4.Visualize it leaving your body and disappear into thin air

Try this exercise to forgive your abusers, parents and most of all, yourself❣

May this practice bring you peace, liberation and closure!

Much love!

Much wealth!

Much happiness!


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