No One Else Is Responsible
The fourth cause of negative emotions, and the worst of all, is
blaming. When I draw the Negative Emotions Tree in my seminars,
I illustrate the trunk of the tree as the propensity to blame other
people for our problems. Once you cut down the trunk of the tree, all
the fruits of the tree, all the other negative emotions, die immediately,
just as when you jerk the plug out of the wall that lights up the
Christmas lights in the tree, all the lights go out instantly.
Responsibility Is The Antidote
The antidote for negative emotions of all kinds is for you to
accept complete responsibility for your situation. You cannot say the
words, I am responsible! and still feel angry. The very act of
accepting responsibility short-circuits and cancels out any negative
emotions you may be experiencing.
The discovery of this simple but powerful affirmation, I am
responsible and its instant ability to eliminate negative emotions
was a turning point in my life, as it has been for many hundreds of
thousands of my students.
Just imagine! You can free yourself from negative emotions and
begin taking control of your life by simply saying, I am
responsible! whenever you start to feel angry or upset for any
reason.
It is only when you free yourself from negative emotions, by
taking complete responsibility that you can begin to set and achieve
goals in every area of your life. It is only when you are free, mentally
and emotionally, that you can begin to channel your energies and
enthusiasms in a forward direction. This is why, without the
acceptance of complete personal responsibility, no progress is
possible. On the other hand, once you accept total responsibility for
your life, there are no limits on what you can be, do and have.
Stop Blaming Others
From now on, refuse to blame anyone for anything - past,
present or future. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, No one can make you feel
inferior without your consent. Buddy Hacket, the comedian, once said,
I never hold grudges; while youre holding grudges, theyre out dancing!
From this point forward, refuse to make excuses or to justify
your behaviors. If you make a mistake, say, Im sorry, and get busy
rectifying the situation. Every time you blame someone else or make
excuses, you give your power away. You feel weakened and
diminished. You feel negative and angry inside. Refuse to do it.
Control Your Emotions
To keep your mind positive, refuse to criticize, complain about
or condemn other people for anything. Every time you criticize
someone else, complain about something you dont like, or condemn
someone else for something that they have done or not done, you
trigger feelings of negativity and anger within yourself. And you are
the one who suffers. Your negativity doesnt affect the other person
at all. Being angry with someone is allowing him or her to control
your emotions, and often the entire quality of your life, at long
distance. This is just plain silly.
Remember, as Gary Zukacs says in his book, Seat of the Soul,
Positive emotions empower; negative emotions disempower. Positive
emotions of happiness, excitement, love and enthusiasm make you
feel more powerful and confident. Negative emotions of anger, hurt
or blame weaken you and make you hostile, irritable and unpleasant
to be around.
Once you decide to accept complete responsibility for yourself,
your situation, and for everything that happens to you, you can turn
confidently toward your work and the affairs of your life. You
become the master of your fate and the captain of your soul.
Hello, Mr. President!
In a study done in New York some years ago, researchers
found that the top 3% of people in every field had a special attitude
that set them apart from average performers in their industries. It
was this: they viewed themselves as self-employed throughout their
careers, no matter who signed their paychecks. They saw themselves
as responsible for their companies, exactly as if they owned the
companies personally. You should do the same.
From this moment forward, see yourself as the President of
your own personal services corporation. View yourself as selfemployed.
See yourself as in complete charge of every part of your
life and career. Remind yourself that you are where you are and what
you are because of what you have done or failed to do. You are very
much the architect of your own destiny.
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