Being a victim

When a woman goes through multiple tragic events in childhood they either choose to continue down the path of chaos or they choose to be empowered by all the tragedy. The path may not always be clear, and there will definitely be temptations to steer the opposite way. One day you may even meet “your knight in shining armor” who will protect you from all evil and save you from all of the heartache of traveling the path alone. He comes to you disguised as a SAVIOR and your heat instantly is his. You do anything for this man and believe anything this man says to you, because in your heart you truly have put all your faith in this man as your knight. Nothing he does or says is ever wrong in your eyes. You will go to war with anyone for this man. He will “protect” you from all ones who hurt you. You will cut off everyone around you without hesitation because he has convinced you they no longer serve purpose in your life.

After a while you will feel deeper sadness than you have ever known from the loss of family and friends. He will keep reminding you how bad they hurt you and you will again believe him. One day you will just wake up and see this man for what he truly is. It is not until this day that you will see his ways and everything he has caused in the middle of your path. This day will feel like you are a totally new person. It will seem as if you were asleep all this time and you never realized the world moving around you. Even when this day happens it will still take a lot for this man to do to you for you to actually believe what you feel is REAL. You have been in a dream state for so long that the dream and reality have become blurred. It is in this time you NEED your family and friends. If you stay with this man until you feel you are back in reality it will than be to late.

Isolation is disguised as protection from the outside world. Do not let anyone make you feel like you cannot deal with your life without them. This is called manipulation at its best. Do not be so weak to give in to their promises to protect you because it is easier than having to deal with the pain of what is going on in your life. No one can dictate your life but YOU! Be in control of everything around you, never let anyone make you believe you aren’t strong enough to DEAL. You are so much more than you realize and once you start believing YOU CAN than YOU WILL. It’s so much easier said than done but believe me babes it’s so beyond WORTH IT. Life after isolation is like taking a breath of fresh air and just feeling FREE! Do you, without hesitation, without reservation and with nothing but DETERMINATION!!!! Be determined to prove them WRONG! You are EVERYTHING! You were put here for a reason. FIND that reason and give it 100 babe! The world needs more voices that speak up and share their stories and experiences. Never be ashamed of what has built you. You are a total badass and are capable of extraordinary things ESPECIALLY because of the things that you have been through! So let all of those negative situations be the fuel for your future and find a way to use them as stepping stones to where you want to be. These difficult situations happen to us for a reason, because WE CAN handle them and we can USE them. Part of us in some way NEED them to push us to where we need to be. Do not let these situations be the death of your soul. Stand on them and use them!! Be the fighter you know you’ve always been!!! It’s in you and when you finally find it, it’s the MOST dangerous thing!!!! Let it run WILD!!! You got this BABE, you TOTALLY DO!!!