A sense of proportion is the decency of life

There are many standards in life, rather than binding people to the rules and regulations, it is better to guide people to a better pointer.

Like the "standards" in interpersonal communication, the relationship is good, but also about proportion.

The relationship is too close, sometimes not sweet, but rather bitter, the potential crisis penetrates your feelings little by little, and finally falls apart.

If the couple's cell phone is not set up the secret is trust, then every day to look through the phone to check the record is not trusted, seemingly intimate delivery is the beginning of suspicion, you habitually look through, in his eyes into a show of distrust.

Understand the proportion, and get along to be more harmonious.

And do not pay attention to proportion, invisible will give your relationship planted bombs, at any time have the possibility of explosion.

Therefore, interpersonal communication, to learn to grasp a good measure, know what can be, what can not be.

1, talk to the end

It is said that "talking, is a discipline".

Some people have not learned half a point in life, someone gifted to be able to speak.

However, whether you can say, in the uncertainty of their eloquence, should not say things or do not say.

Compared to saying more words, sometimes silence when you have to be silent, otherwise, you will only say more wrong, unnecessary trouble.

There is a colleague in the office, whose curiosity is very heavy, and who always likes to get to the bottom of it.

One day I met a colleague on leave, in curiosity to ask how the parties suddenly took leave, the other replied perfunctorily: "Something happened at home." Originally to talk about this, the topic is over.

Who knew he would continue to ask: "What's going on at home, do you need our help?" One after another, the other party was forced to get angry and said, "My mother is sick, I am very annoyed, it's none of your business, to ask so many questions."

Seemingly passionate concern, the actual half-hearted effect, only to make the reluctant to say the person annoyed on top of annoying, in the impact of the relationship at the same time, revealing the reality of their low emotional intelligence.

At no time should you overstep your boundaries and force someone to do something you don't like, and when you realize that someone doesn't want to continue talking, you should change the subject appropriately.

The point of chatting is to respect others, but also the cultivation of people.

2, do things with room to spare

In the past, watching martial arts novels, those feuds, the most fear is to eliminate the grass is not the root, leaving the aftermath, so the killing of people is generally concerned about killing everyone.

However, when injustice is done, people can not be killed, revenge is incomplete.

If everything is about leaving no loose ends it will cause a lot of unnecessary trouble.

Some people kill, some escape, some take revenge ...... death cycle type of cycle, ultimately causing more misfortune.

Instead of rushing to extinction, it is better to leave room for error.

Others did the wrong thing, the wrong thing is this thing, not him as a person, can not be generalized, the whole denial of this person.

As some people do bad things because of jealousy after the incident was found, of course, to be punished.

Appropriate punishment, so that the bad guys can get reflective, but killing them all will provoke a rebellious mentality, so that retaliation is endless, seemingly to eliminate future problems, but is to add trouble.

So that there is room for maneuvering, so that we can meet later.

Leave a way back for others, is to leave yourself a way back.

As Hugo said, "The noblest way of revenge is tolerance."

The appropriate tolerance, the gap between you, he is still looking forward to the immediate, you have eyes on the future.