Three elements of marriage Security: Money, Love, people, Are you qualified?

When it comes to marriage, the first thing we think of is love.

As an important factor in marriage, many people think that the law must protect love and make infidelity costly.

But the reality is that the whole marriage law never uses the word "love", but "affection".

Because do not understand the law, in marriage, less resistance to the risk of the "barrier";

When a relationship breaks up and one's property and interests are at stake, there is nothing one can do but worry.

In the end, not only did the money disappear, but also the child's custody could not be obtained, and more than ten years of youth were wasted...

Crowded marriage, marriage worth mentioning, anyone's marriage can not escape living expenses, economy, finance, house these vulgar words.

Compared with "rolling" type of crying, and "bear in silence" like helpless, know a little law, quick closure, timely stop loss, is to let their whole body and back the most decent, but also the most powerful way.

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Marriage laws protect assets, not the weak

After graduating from college, she married a man, had a child, and had no job. Six or seven years later, the man cheats, the woman is in her 30s, and she sues for divorce.

In court, the man fought for custody of the child with very mean words.

"My educational background is higher than yours, which is good for children's education; I have an income, you don't, you've been out of work for years, out of society; My local hukou, the child will soon go to primary school; Your foreign area registered permanent residence, want to return home probably after divorce, the child also cannot possibly go with you, change growth environment is unfavorable to the child; I have a house, you don't......"

The woman kept her head down, forced to say nothing by the man and his lawyer.

Finally, the judge asked the woman, "Do you have any comments to make?"

She slowly raised her head and whispered: "My birthday today, can you speak to leave some affection?"

Wu Jiezhen, a famous divorce lawyer, also said, "If a man wants to keep a mistress safely, the safest way is to keep a woman in captivity at home."

Because, little by little, her ability to survive will be eroded.

She'll have no money, no ability, no means to deal with your cheating, not even a lawyer.

Marriage laws protect assets, not the weak.

How much you own, how much you create, it protects that for you.

You're not creating value, and the judge is not going to be your savior.

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A good marriage is a two-way street

In A Good Marriage, Protect Property and Love, lawyer Wu proposed three elements of marital security: emotional security, property security and personal security.

Among the three, emotional security is the most uncontrollable. What can really be achieved and necessary to be controlled is only personal security and property security -- visible and tangible. As long as you have these two elements of safety, you will naturally feel safe.

There are two kinds of security in marriage: one-way security and two-way security. One-way security relies on one side having control over the other, such as economic control.

Just like the traditional dependent marriage in which the man takes charge of the outside and the woman takes charge of the inside, this kind of marriage has certain rationality in the original social division of labor and culture, but with the development of economy, the disadvantages of this kind of marriage are more and more obvious.

The family income is single, can only rely on the husband, once the husband income is low, the wife is easy to have a lot of dissatisfaction. For example, "You are busy outside all day, do not do housework, and do not see you earn money."

This leads the husband to want to escape the house and pretend to be working overtime when he is actually spending time outside.

The husband will not be able to understand the difficulty of his wife's parenting because he is not involved in the housework. He will come home to do the job of the shopkeeper and complain that his wife is not good enough. A hundred similar life chores will eventually overwhelm the wife.

This family division of labor is mutually destructive. Making one partner do all or most of the housework is actually turning a good marriage into an invisible exploitation. This kind of relationship ends up hurting everyone in the marriage.

And a good marriage, of course, is safe in both directions -- which is, of course, very difficult and intellectually challenging.

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Master the marriage law class, for your marriage escort

Every woman should master some of the most basic marriage management skills on the legal level:

? Nip it in the bud and let yourself get away with it if necessary.

? Protect their legitimate rights and interests, do not let the cheat playing with women's feelings of the man pick up cheap, also for the children hold up a day.

? Protect the interests of parents and families from infringement, do independent wisdom and dignity of the woman.

In order to help more women with the shortest time to understand the "Marriage Law", so that their marriage to achieve the most basic protection;

Teacher Wang Jianping has developed these years of experience into a set of compulsory courses on marriage law for women. From the perspective that ordinary people can understand and learn, "10 Highlights: Interpreting the New Marriage Law" will teach you to be a smart woman in marriage and protect your marriage.

In my 20 years as a lawyer, I have handled thousands of marriage and family cases, large and small. I found that behind these cases, the most vulnerable are women.

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After marriage found that the other side is cheating and playing with female feelings of men, there is a tendency to violence; Pregnant each other cheating, for the children endure marriage; When you have a mistress, you have to fight for custody! Husband's family beware daughter-in-law, marital property dispute is ceaseless... One by one, let me feel heartache.

Some people, love comes, regardless of you and me; Love is not, infighting, slander each other; Some people run out of youth, but can not keep those originally belong to their own happiness, finally disgraced, nothing. As a woman, I advise you not to deceive yourself and blindly believe in love. Only by facing up to marriage and taking up legal arms to defend yourself and your family can you take control of your life.

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